To ask what your 'glass next to the dishwasher' moment was?

[Rosesareradish]

Or is it the straw that broke the camels back?

I was working today, so I asked DP to get something out of the freezer to defrost for dinner. He was at home with the children, I was working until 6. At lunch time I text to say I would go to Aldi after work so I'd be late home.

I got home at 7.15, I unloaded the car and he put the shopping away. I went for a wee and said goodnight to the children. I then went in to the living room to ask what was for dinner. Nothing! He didn't get anything out of the freezer, he gave the children soup for tea and he had a nice sausage roll he'd bought.

No thought whatsoever to me eating. My irked face probably gave me away and he suggested I have cereal or cook something I'd just bought from Aldi.

AAAARGH.
AIBU to be so annoyed? I would never have left him without dinner after working. Especially if he then went and did the weekly shop afterwards (which he never does anyway..!)

This is so common in older couples, I think

"Gottman’s goal is not to “scold, bash, or insult” men. It’s likely that many men resist their wives’ influence without realizing it, he says. They are following the secular script they were raised with—a narrow, one-dimensional script for the masculinity. As a result, many men are well-meaning and well-intentioned—but baffled—as their marriages fall apart."

Blender cup part doesn't bugger up, it just gets washed. The blender parts that need washing come apart for washing. The mechanism that doesn't come apart doesn't need washing. Most it needs is a wipe over.

I woke up one Christmas Day with a stomach bug. I sorted my young DC and watch them open their presents but I was so poorly I had to go back to bed.

As I always cooked Christmas dinner I was so apologetic. He scowled at me. A few hours later I came back downstairs expecting to be yelled at by an angry DH because I couldn’t cook dinner.

He was really nice and had cooked dinner. I was astounded. Then he said, “I don’t mind cooking Christmas dinner as it’s your day off, it’s your job to cook the rest of the year.”

We both worked full time. Twat.

I’m imagining it was a Marks and Spencer sausage roll. I was looking at them on Friday because I was going to be home late and I noticed that they have a lot of ‘luxury’, ‘Best Ever’ and ‘Hog Roast’ type ones. You could absolutely have some of them for a meal.

Stop washing his clothes and tell him to clean the bathroom

And given some of these incidents I am increasingly surprised that violent crimes by women are so rare

The point is this is bollocks. She probably left him because he's a tedious, self-important prick, not because he left a glass on the side*

*his version: didn't indulge his little woman's irrational quirks

They don't on mine and the instructions are very specific not to immerse it in water. Perhaps the poster has a blender like mine rather than like yours?

Or a Ginger Pig one...

This is actually the worst I've read on here

So glad you left!

Quite. The jug on my blender is hand wash only and is in 4 parts. I have to take it apart to clean. It can be tricky to do. I can’t just quickly clean it because there’s a pressure sealed gasket via a screw on base and liquids can get just under it and it’ll stink if not taken apart. Especially if making dairy based smoothies.

it can crush ice so it’s worth the faff and I can blend fruit direct from the freezer

So glad he treated the first OW the same as his wife, she deserved it but such a shame for both the children. Men like him should have the snip (or castration)

Maybe he told OW he was separated. Seems a shame you blame the OW rather than him.

And maybe he didn’t. Happily I wasn’t there to witness the exchange.

I’m not saying I don’t blame him, hence the comment about the snip and castration. Did you miss that?

He may well have lied to her and the next woman he left her for. I’ve come across a lot of poster who never blame the OW under any circumstances and get hostile when others do. It’s a principle that they are guilt free and untouchable by virtue of not being in a relationship with the wife/partner of their lover. Does anyone know why this is? No one’s saying she must have abducted him and raped him into submission at knifepoint and the man had 0 responsibility for fucking her behind his wife’s back. Are they?

Men who sleep with OW when they are not single are as to blame as the OW they’re cheating with if the OW know they’re in a relationship. No the OW didn’t commit to the wife as the husband had and didn’t owe her anything - other than to be a decent human being and wait for the man to be single.

There have been too many to mention, more fool me for not getting away yet, but I will.
The latest, and also kitchen related, is the other night when DH decided that 4.30am is a great time to do the washing up, in the style of a bull in a china shop, banging everything about, throwing cutlery into the drawer and then slamming it. I let it go for a few minutes hoping it would soon stop, but 20 minutes later he was still at it. I went downstairs and asked if he really needed to do this now, and his reponse was that he was awake now so he might as well do it. So I said well everyone else is awake now as well. He said "no, you're awake" as if that was fine. And then he proceeded to continue, if anything even louder.

@WinkyTinky ‘no, YOU’re awake’ - sounds like that was his intention. Nasty, very nasty. Hope you get out soon 💐

NYIMH, I am so sad to hear this. I cared for my father in his last two years living in with him. I had that same line and abuse too. Thankfully he is now gone. I am sad you can't leave. (I have an online friend who is in the same situation as you... I really feel for you both.)

Oh that's terrible! I'm pregnant right now (31 weeks) I don't know if it's a girl or a boy but whatever comes out of me is learning to cook and clean the kitchen floor.

I had a tumour which they were unable to say was benign or malignant and I was scheduled for an op. (Now ex) DH said he wouldn’t be coming to visit me because he hated hospitals. It was a complex 6 hour op and was a week before they knew it was benign.
When mil visited I told her I didn’t expect to see DH and she insisted he visit. DH visited once and spent the whole time moaning because I’d told his mum. He hadn’t even gone to see our 2 year old who was staying with friends.

That's fascinating. That brains can get that screwed up is absolutely fascinating.

Gee he's useless. Couldn't even parent the child while you were in hospital?

Men eh 🤷‍♀️
#smugsingleton

When he hadn’t given me a penny towards DD (we didn’t live together) in her first year, as he was too skint and said I got plenty in income support…and then spent £350 on a monstrosity of a piece of art at auction, done by a woman he fancied.

I'd be very tempted to serve him a plate of actual shit for that.

Horrendous abusive behaviour. Make all the children work the same, otherwise you are punishing your boy for the sins of his dad while raising entitled princesses.