Do you allow your 17-year-old to…

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Have completely unrestricted and unsupervised phone access (so not even having to leave phone downstairs at nighttime)

Work part-time if still at school or college.

Learn to drive (either self-funded from wages or with parental help)

Travel in a car driven by a 17-year-old

Stay overnight at the home of a friend you do not know

Use public transport alone at night

Regulate their own sleep, even if this means getting out of bed at 3pm on a weekend

Stay home alone overnight or for multiple days

Be out and about without you know really knowing exactly where they are at any given moment

Yes to all of it.

Yes to all. The public transport doesn't really happen due to other options (he drives mainly).

Yes to all.

Yes

Mine are not 17 yet, but I will say yes to all of those things, although I'd probably be really worried about the travelling in a car with another 17 yr old driving though.

I was living away from home and working full time at 17.

Yes. Not keen on them getting in a car with another 17 year old but it did happen a few times.

Most of it. I would have concerns about the car driven by a fellow teen. And some need discussion. But yes. My 17 year old doesn't have limited on phone any more, has a job while being at 6th form and goes places. However, I do expect communication as to where he is going and when. That is just polite so we know when to expect him, whether he is eating with us, whether he is likely to need a lift etc and also we have discussed that it is safer if someone knows where you are and that applies to me or his dad just as much as it does him.

Yes to all, although realistically the staying at friends or in the home overnight without us never happens. My DS is far too much of a home bird for that and still comes away with us.

Have completely unrestricted and unsupervised phone access (so not even having to leave phone downstairs at nighttime)
yes

Work part-time if still at school or college.
yes

Learn to drive (either self-funded from wages or with parental help)
yes

Travel in a car driven by a 17-year-old
yes

Stay overnight at the home of a friend you do not know
yes

Use public transport alone at night
yes

Regulate their own sleep, even if this means getting out of bed at 3pm on a weekend
yes, as long as he is still managing school and work commitments and mood seems ok

Stay home alone overnight or for multiple days
for 2 or 3 days max

Be out and about without you know really knowing exactly where they are at any given moment
yes, with a vague idea

All this has been achieved by gradually building up to it though. He knows how to get himself home from most places, what to do in emergencies and if he was in trouble not to be scared to ask for help.

Are you the parent or the 17 year old?

Yes, however they're both considerate and let us know where they are, how they're traveling and who they're with.

Yes. They may mess up, but they learn from it. Like, oh I'm stranded, will you give me a lift. Nope, use the money from your P/t job for a cab.
These all sound good normal things for a 17 yo to navigate. Having a job is fantastic and should be encouraged.

I don’t have a teen yet but my parents did all that with me (other than the sleeping in; they got me up 😂) so I’ll be doing it all with my kids. Going on holiday and leaving them at home and everything.

Yes to all those things although I can see him on Snapchat and he doesn't mind so if I want to I can see where he is. I don't love him being a passenger with other 17 year old drivers but just have to accept that and hope they're sensible.

17 is nearly an adult, well beyond the age where I can dictate any of that stuff.

Yes, I left home at 17.

Yes to all.

Yes to most of that.

im not wild about letting him stay up until 2/3am gaming. He is crap at getting up at the best of times. But during holidays he’ll do it a few times.

He has just turned 18, and yes to pretty much all of those - although the 17yo driver would concern me and never happened.

Mine are grown up now but yes to all except travel in a car driven by a 17-year-old

Yes. Why?

Yes to everything but mine have always told me where they were and check in. The driving still bothers me though I must admit.

I went to university aged 17, so I was doing all of those things and I was the other end of the country to my parents...

Yes to most of it apart from being home alone. My DS was a pita at that age and frankly I couldn't have stopped him doing any of it, even if I wasn't keen.. Once he left the house i couldn't control what he did.

Yes to all.

She's off to uni in Sept aged 18 and 1 month. She'll be able to do all those things then, so I'd prefer she learnt how while under my roof.

Yes. The 17 yo driver would concern me, probably, but at 17 they are nearly adults. My mother was married with me at that age! Not that I recommend that...