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To feel sorry for Shamima Begum?

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EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

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phishy · 23/02/2024 15:05

TheBayLady · 23/02/2024 15:04

How many "white" girls have joined a terrorist group and been allowed back into the U.K. Joining a terrorist group makes you a terrorist.

Being groomed as a child into joining a group is very different to joining of your own adult free will.

Alittlecappuccino · 23/02/2024 15:05

Note one jot. The only reason she should be allowed back is to stand trial for treason.

Unusualactualname · 23/02/2024 15:05

It's not binary. It is perfectly possible to have compassion for someone whilst being horrified by their actions.

coureur · 23/02/2024 15:06

I don’t feel sorry for her but this is simply dumping our rubbish in someone else’s backyard. The US has made this point vociferously - that the U.K. should take responsibility for our homegrown terrorists rather than making them someone else’s problem. She should be in Belmarsh.

Jennalong · 23/02/2024 15:06

Maybe it was propaganda , but didn't she ( once married ) help to groom young girls into leaving their home countries to join and marry Isis members. And didn't she also help sew people into suicide bomber jackets ?

andHelenknowsimmiserablenow · 23/02/2024 15:06

LankyCranky32 · 23/02/2024 13:06

I always find it amazing because if I was 15 ad a blonde white English teenager who hanged out a lot with different people from different cultures and had left the country in the way she did there would have been an instant search to find me, and I would have been classed as kidnapped from grooming.

Do you know anyone of that demographic who has done what she did and been allowed back to the UK?
Would you have gone there and joined a terrorist group ISIS?
Would you have taken part in the murderous things they did?
No you wouldn't, so this is a moot point.

Travis1 · 23/02/2024 15:07

LankyCranky32 · 23/02/2024 13:06

I always find it amazing because if I was 15 ad a blonde white English teenager who hanged out a lot with different people from different cultures and had left the country in the way she did there would have been an instant search to find me, and I would have been classed as kidnapped from grooming.

Yup all of this but we must not discuss the hypocrisy of the UK 🙄

Velvian · 23/02/2024 15:07

YANBU OP. She is a British citizen. I'm not sure how you can deny that. All the way through the British education system and a vulnerable 15 YO when she left.

littlebopeepp234 · 23/02/2024 15:07

I maybe would have agreed and said I felt sorry for her and put it down to her being a victim of grooming had she not said that she didn’t feel anything when she saw someone’s head in a bin! To not feel anything at all and have absolutely no remorse for her actions would tell me she is a psychopath and maybe had a love for violence and torture. So no, I have no sympathy

bilbodog · 23/02/2024 15:08

Fully agree - she was 15 FFS - a child. Groomed, exploited!! Once there she could not have escaped and as for showing no remorse how can she when she is out in the middle east possibly surrounded by ISIS sympathisers.

she should be brought back along with any other british women and children who are still out there.

Malarandras · 23/02/2024 15:08

I can’t motivate myself to fell sorry for her no. Don’t feel any particular hatred for her either.

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 23/02/2024 15:09

So if she is as lovely and innocent as her sympathisers say, why did she join isis, and celebrate and praise them and their actions?

Wombatsquarepoo · 23/02/2024 15:09

I think she’s a terrorist and if she’s allowed back she should face the justice system and be locked up. Nobody is suggesting that if she’s allowed back we will just let her roam free and go clubbing

But taking away her citizenship? That is an unfair punishment. If she was white she’ll be able to come back (and sit in jail), rather than being rendered stateless purely because her parents (not her) are Bangladeshi

Pinkypup · 23/02/2024 15:10

Nope. Not in the slightest.

Mintyfreshtulips · 23/02/2024 15:10

Wombatsquarepoo · 23/02/2024 15:09

I think she’s a terrorist and if she’s allowed back she should face the justice system and be locked up. Nobody is suggesting that if she’s allowed back we will just let her roam free and go clubbing

But taking away her citizenship? That is an unfair punishment. If she was white she’ll be able to come back (and sit in jail), rather than being rendered stateless purely because her parents (not her) are Bangladeshi

Exactly this. If her parents were British born, the outcome would have been very different.

Lucythecleaner · 23/02/2024 15:11

Erm no! At 15 you know right from wrong!

Turfwars · 23/02/2024 15:12

I have no sympathy for her. She was groomed and likely indoctrinated and highly likely that she would rush back to an ISIS state if there was one. I believe that she committed atrocities and continues to be dangerous.

However, she's British born, she was groomed and indoctrinated in Britain and had British citizenship until the British government pulled a fast one so she's Britain's problem. It's arrogance to assume she is another country's problem to deal with. She's British. Terrorist or not, she's all yours.

bombastix · 23/02/2024 15:12

@phishy - support of a terrorist organization is a crime.

Being trafficked, raped and the target of violence is not a crime.

Begin mum became a criminal once she declared her support and acted on it to join a terrorist organization. It is her actions, not her skin colour that determines her fate.

It is you who are a racialist.

iwafs · 23/02/2024 15:12

It's astonishing how many people are happy to forgive a terrorist just because she is a pretty young girl/woman.

She's a 24 year old adult now. She isn't 15. We aren't telling a child that they can't have British citizenship. We are telling a 24yo terrorist that she can't come here. Which is logical.

Bangladesh have indicated that if she were to go there, then she would face the death penalty. Which is logical as well.

Damnedidont · 23/02/2024 15:12

I would feel more sorry for her had she not hounded and punished women for lapses in Sharia law with such vigour use

iwafs · 23/02/2024 15:13

Lucythecleaner · 23/02/2024 15:11

Erm no! At 15 you know right from wrong!

And she was a smart 15yo with a nice family - mum, dad, older siblings. She was not in foster care or vulnerable.

Mintyfreshtulips · 23/02/2024 15:13

Lucythecleaner · 23/02/2024 15:11

Erm no! At 15 you know right from wrong!

Do you extend that logic to the girls who were groomed into sex gangs in Rotherham?

They should have known better, right?

Happyher · 23/02/2024 15:14

I think she should be allowed home but should face prosecution for any crime she’s committed though I’ve yet to be convinced she has committed any. Leaving home and marrying a bad man is not a crime. She was young and stupid. But if she is guilty of an offence she should serve any sentence just the same as anyone else

bombastix · 23/02/2024 15:14

Also it's the law. The UK can revoke citizenship on the grounds of national security. If you live here and you are a dual national, it is an effect test of loyalty to the UK. Citizenship is legally not a right here. Some of you are posting as if it is.

iwafs · 23/02/2024 15:14

Wombatsquarepoo · 23/02/2024 15:09

I think she’s a terrorist and if she’s allowed back she should face the justice system and be locked up. Nobody is suggesting that if she’s allowed back we will just let her roam free and go clubbing

But taking away her citizenship? That is an unfair punishment. If she was white she’ll be able to come back (and sit in jail), rather than being rendered stateless purely because her parents (not her) are Bangladeshi

Our justice system would probably take years, not find enough evidence, she'd be back on the streets.

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