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To feel sorry for Shamima Begum?

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EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

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GrabMyToothbrush · 23/02/2024 19:07

Newchapterbeckons · 23/02/2024 18:25

Bangladesh are welcome to take her back.

How does that relate to my question?

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 23/02/2024 19:08

Dweetfidilove · 23/02/2024 19:07

I agree leaving her stateless should not be permitted under international law.

It’s also made me question whether my British born/raised child is truly British or if she is more of my nationality, depending on… She is not Bangladeshi, never has been. She was groomed on British soil, left Britain to join Isis and Britain is where she should return to.

This to me feels like an extension of some children not being treated as children. Any documentary on ISIS recruitment will show you they are very adept at grooming and warping young minds, hence they can attract young people of all colour and creed. She was a child like any other child being groomed and she should come home.

She was Bangladeshi until the age of 21.

If she’s stateless, Bangladesh made her stateless.

Blinky21 · 23/02/2024 19:08

Loopylambs · 23/02/2024 19:05

When she’s been interviewed she’s shown no regret , she is a threat to security. £250,000 in legal aid , so far , I despair .

Just because she doesn't fit the role of victim that others are comfortable with, doesn't mean she isn't a victim. Why should she apologise for being groomed

forgotmyusername1 · 23/02/2024 19:09

3peassuit · 23/02/2024 13:21

I’m conflicted on this. On one hand she was 15 and who hasn’t done something stupid at that age but she must have been aware of what Isis were unleashing. She had seen the videos of beheadings and other horrors.

Most of us have done something stupid at 15 but more in line with getting drunk or stealing pick n mix from woolworths than running away to join a terrorist organisation and kill people

2dogsandabudgie · 23/02/2024 19:10

Keychangeoff · 23/02/2024 19:02

She was a trafficked child. If you don't feel sorry for her in any way then you've been reading too much Daily mail and I feel sorrier for you and the brain cells you're obviously missing.

There isn't any hard evidence to prove that she was trafficked.

Knitgoodwoman · 23/02/2024 19:10

The security services will know far more than us, they made an assessment it was unsafe for her to return. Glad they’re there to keep us safe 👍 We’ve all got complacent about the terror threat, but it’s still there.

TotalDramarama24 · 23/02/2024 19:10

I don't feel sorry for her at all, and she is much more of a danger to the UK than anyone realises, otherwise the authorities wouldn't have taken this stance.

All of the people saying she was a child and groomed - our children are allowed to join the armed forces in the UK at 16 entirely legally and of their own volition. She chose to join a different army and now has to deal with that. I have read everything about her case over the years and seen testimonies from various people including a lawyer who said she is incredibly dangerous, a narcissist, has no remorse and no sympathy for anyone that has been harmed over the years. Others from the camp have said she was much more involved in the bloodshed than she admits. She made her bed so now she can lie in it.

LovelyTheresa · 23/02/2024 19:11

Blinky21 · 23/02/2024 18:58

If she was white she'd be home by now. Blood on the hands of the politicians who left her children to die in that camp

Oh good god would you give it a rest. I'm not white and I find the whataboutery very offensive.

Antiguadreams · 23/02/2024 19:11

YANBU

it makes me chuckle at how as a society we empathize with the victims of grooming gangs in Rochdale for example, but can’t extend the same thought process to other girls impacted by grooming

EmeraldRoses · 23/02/2024 19:12

Funnily enough no I don't feel sorry for a terrorist.

fleurneige · 23/02/2024 19:12

GrabMyToothbrush · 23/02/2024 19:07

How does that relate to my question?

She has never lived in Bangladesh, doesn't have Bangladeshi nationality and was born in UK.

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 23/02/2024 19:12

fleurneige · 23/02/2024 19:12

She has never lived in Bangladesh, doesn't have Bangladeshi nationality and was born in UK.

She had Bangladeshi citizenship until she was 21.

fleurneige · 23/02/2024 19:14

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 23/02/2024 19:08

She was Bangladeshi until the age of 21.

If she’s stateless, Bangladesh made her stateless.

No she was not. British born and bred.

LovelyTheresa · 23/02/2024 19:14

Antiguadreams · 23/02/2024 19:11

YANBU

it makes me chuckle at how as a society we empathize with the victims of grooming gangs in Rochdale for example, but can’t extend the same thought process to other girls impacted by grooming

You can't realise how utterly moronic you sound.

Alpacasmum · 23/02/2024 19:14

The Jenkinson and Ratcliffe murderers are only sixteen.
They committed the pre meditated, horrendous murder of Brianna Ghey.

They were not judged to be hormone driven teenagers out for a bit of fun.

They went onto the dark net to research how to murder someone in the most heinous way.

Should that be called "Grooming"?
No.

Did they show any remorse?
No.

Same as SB

MrsDoylesTea · 23/02/2024 19:15

I completely despair at how bleeding-heart wet this country has become. She was months away from being able to get married and have sex legally, knew exactly what she was getting into and is a danger to all right-minded non-terrorist citizens.

That people are making excuses for her and saying the feel sorry for her makes me worry for the future of this company. I dread to think what the outcome would be now if there was a world war that couldn't be solved by tea and sympathy and group hugs.

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 23/02/2024 19:16

fleurneige · 23/02/2024 19:14

No she was not. British born and bred.

She automatically had Bangladeshi citizenship because her parents do. It’s written down in black and white in the law of Bangladesh. You can Google it and check. Go on.

Xenia · 23/02/2024 19:16

The court decision is correct. Also if I ere jailed in Brazil for drug offences the UK state would not pay for getting me out or pay for me to be transported home so I don't see why we should do the same for this criminal Begum - her three children are dead because of her unwise decisions.

Someone asked above if any men who have two citizenships have been stripped of the British one. There are quite a few. One is Jack Letts

Nightjaaard · 23/02/2024 19:16

Antiguadreams · 23/02/2024 19:11

YANBU

it makes me chuckle at how as a society we empathize with the victims of grooming gangs in Rochdale for example, but can’t extend the same thought process to other girls impacted by grooming

So how to do you compare the victims of grooming gangs in Rochdale, to some one who is now in their mid twenties who has since actively been involved in terrorism, murder and holds such vile views?

Just wondering about your thought process?

Littlebitpsycho · 23/02/2024 19:16

Iwasafool · 23/02/2024 13:33

Of course it is. White girls get trafficked big scandal, men arrested girls are victims. Brown girl is trafficked she deserves everything she gets. It is so clear her ethnicity is an issue.

Disagree. Yes white woman (and probably brown ones too) are trafficked - usually through being told lies (I read an autobiography of one woman who was offered a job in amsterdam as a nanny and then forced to work as a prostitute) THAT is trafficking.

She KNEW where she was going and what for. She chose to go, KNOWING the type of people she was joining and what she'd be expected to do. She went anyway. It has nothing to do with her ethnicity - she made her bed, she can lie in it. And I'd say the exact same if she was white

Antiguadreams · 23/02/2024 19:16

LovelyTheresa · 23/02/2024 19:14

You can't realise how utterly moronic you sound.

Pray tell what the difference is. If you can sit and say what happened to the girls in Rochdale isn’t their fault, the same needs to be applied to her.

Antiguadreams · 23/02/2024 19:17

Nightjaaard · 23/02/2024 19:16

So how to do you compare the victims of grooming gangs in Rochdale, to some one who is now in their mid twenties who has since actively been involved in terrorism, murder and holds such vile views?

Just wondering about your thought process?

You are aware many of the girls groomed in Rochdale were also then actively involved in ‘recruiting’ other girls in care and plying them with drugs right?

Knitgoodwoman · 23/02/2024 19:17

As an adult she engaged in terror activity, supporting ISIL. An adult.

JaneAustensHeroine · 23/02/2024 19:18

HollyKnight · 23/02/2024 13:35

I wonder if people would have this much sympathy for her if she had joined a UK-based terrorist organisation who murdered innocent people in this country/these countries.

I guess it's easy to dismiss involvement in murder and terrorism when someone else is the target of it.

I agree.

caringcarer · 23/02/2024 19:18

jasflowers · 23/02/2024 17:54

No, how could she whilst in a camp in a war zone?

Plus the Bangladeshi's said they wouldn't grant it and if she was one of theirs they'd execute her if guilty.

It's against the UK's laws to send someone to a country where they would be executed.

She met with her solicitors plenty of times to try to be allowed back to the UK. She could have made the application then.
Are you suggesting Bangladesh does not have fair trials? I've no idea if she was guilty but we do know she policed other women and sewed suicide bombs into clothing. She has absolutely no remorse. It would cost millions and millions of pounds every year to give her round the clock surveillance. She's a terrorist threat so she would have to have round the clock surveillance. Why should tax payers have their money wasted on scum like her?

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