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To feel sorry for Shamima Begum?

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EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

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Richard1985 · 23/02/2024 18:12

Zone2NorthLondon · 23/02/2024 16:50

Shocking glib minimisation. We have not all been there. At all
Dont be so nonchalant
its a catastrophic set of events and majority of us will thankfully never have been there.

What I meant was that we’ve all been guilty of thinking we know it all at 15 and making stupid decisions

At the end of the day, she was 15 and groomed online. Most of us have never been in that situation. Those who have are considered victims by most people

As I said originally, she should be brought back home and dealt with appropriately

EasternStandard · 23/02/2024 18:12

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 18:07

She happily sews people into suicide vests....still want her over here?

No

OodlesPoodle · 23/02/2024 18:12

Notthegodofsmallthings · 23/02/2024 18:07

Don't be ridiculous.

Don't be ignorant.

pokebowls · 23/02/2024 18:13

@Newchapterbeckons

But she willingly choose to go, and stayed there well into adulthood. Had she wanted to return sooner, she could have done

You are very ignorant there's no way she could leave once they got her. Dont tell us you thought she could just go book a flight home

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 18:13

@OodlesPoodle so who do you think should risk their life attempting to rescue her?

Liam Neeson?

aliatalia2 · 23/02/2024 18:14

LankyCranky32 · 23/02/2024 13:06

I always find it amazing because if I was 15 ad a blonde white English teenager who hanged out a lot with different people from different cultures and had left the country in the way she did there would have been an instant search to find me, and I would have been classed as kidnapped from grooming.

Agreed

SnowflakeSparkles · 23/02/2024 18:14

Haven't read the comments as the thread is already 25 pages long, but yes I do.

I think the treatment of her by government and media highlights just how misogynistic out society was at the time (and still is).

There seems to be a much more visceral and sincerely hateful reaction toward SB that there is toward the actual men holding the power and committing the crimes.

Women supporting any causes later deemed unsavoury seem to always throughout history be perceived as much worse than the people in power.

I'm wondering if the unique position women hold in society (powerless and victimised but also benefitting from these arrangements depending on circumstance), causes a special kind of vitriol - it's like a mix of disrespect and envy, desire and hate. Or maybe it's displaced aggression because the real targets are perceived as too powerful?

DoIhavegreeneyes · 23/02/2024 18:14

Hoxite274764 · 23/02/2024 17:58

Does anybody know who is paying for all these appeals and lawyers? Is it her family?

Legal Aid; us; we are paying via taxes. Is Tony Blairs wife involved? Her Chambers made a fortune from similar cases.

pokebowls · 23/02/2024 18:14

TheGander · 23/02/2024 17:57

Her life has turned out to be the logical outcome of choices she made in full knowledge of the reality of ISIS, only she thought they were going to win.
She wasn’t trafficked, she went of her own free will and deceived many people to get there, thinking she’d be on the winning side and would have lots of virtuous sex with a hot jihadist, so defying her parents while being holier than thou. She enjoyed her time as a “morality enforcer” in Raka and said she wasn’t fazed by seeing decapitated bodies. When it dawned on her the prospects weren’t good after ISIS were routed, she tried a different tube but so far it isn’t working. It’s kind of pathetic seeing the lawyers try and think of the different levers they can pull, human rights, sex trafficking, blah blah. Then get her photographed in a tight top and sunglasses so the world can see she’s now a normal, western- friendly woman.
It’s so facile to say if she’d been white people would be going easy on her.

Her own free will? You have no idea what grooming is do you

2dogsandabudgie · 23/02/2024 18:14

ToWhitToWhoo · 23/02/2024 18:09

Exactly. And I would have said the same about anyone else, however vile, who didn't have another citizenship. The Yorkshire Ripper; Fred and Rose West; violent neo-Nazis. The rule of law comes ahead of what we think of any individual.

The Court of Appeal don't agree with you that the law has been broken.

OodlesPoodle · 23/02/2024 18:15

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 18:13

@OodlesPoodle so who do you think should risk their life attempting to rescue her?

Liam Neeson?

So you actually think victims of grooming and trafficking and kidnapping are only rescued in films? Give me strength.

LINDAHOAD · 23/02/2024 18:15

she was a child and we have all done silly things and listened to other peoples ideas at that age. she has lost 3 children and should be allowed to return to give her views and sort this out.

lh

TheWernethWife · 23/02/2024 18:16

Guest House for Young Widows by Azadeh Moaveni was on Radio 4 a few years ago. The story of young girls travelling to Syria and marrying men and having babies. No chance of going home, their husbands died and left them homeless.

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 18:17

@OodlesPoodle give ME strength

She's in a Syrian prison camp. She can't just walk out!

DoIhavegreeneyes · 23/02/2024 18:17

On the other thread I asked who groomed her. No response.
She was not groomed, she chose of her own free will.

Baircasolly · 23/02/2024 18:17

British citizens commit terrible crimes every day. We have a robust justice system, and we have prisons - high security if necessary. She should be in the UK.

Poudretteite · 23/02/2024 18:18

Richard1985 · 23/02/2024 18:12

What I meant was that we’ve all been guilty of thinking we know it all at 15 and making stupid decisions

At the end of the day, she was 15 and groomed online. Most of us have never been in that situation. Those who have are considered victims by most people

As I said originally, she should be brought back home and dealt with appropriately

She was a member of the ISIS morality police for years and was known for being particularly harsh. She was unfazed by beheaded corpses in bins and justified the Manchester bombings while trying to reenter the UK.

These 'teenager did something silly online' comments are unhinged.

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 18:18

DoIhavegreeneyes · 23/02/2024 18:17

On the other thread I asked who groomed her. No response.
She was not groomed, she chose of her own free will.

She followed her bestie out there..... sharmeena begum. Best friend, no relation

GrabMyToothbrush · 23/02/2024 18:19

How dare we dump our criminals on other countries? Everything our government does makes me ashamed these days.

StickNMove · 23/02/2024 18:19

I do feel sorry for her. She made a stupid decision as a kid and she has paid for it and will keep paying for it forevermore. She seems completely traumatised and damaged. On a human level, I feel intense pity for her.

I don’t think she should have been stripped of her citizenship. I think she should have been brought back to the UK and treated like any other criminal/terrorist - court case, imprisonment, punishment and perhaps rehabilitation. Of course - she must pay for her crimes, even if she was a child when the whole sorry trajectory started.

Washing our hands of a problem that is ultimately ours as British people seems a pathetic, almost cowardly approach.

ClawdeenWolf · 23/02/2024 18:19

@SnowflakeSparkles I agree with everything you've said.

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 18:20

GrabMyToothbrush · 23/02/2024 18:19

How dare we dump our criminals on other countries? Everything our government does makes me ashamed these days.

To be fair Syria have her in a heavily guarded prison camp..... they won't just hand her over anyway

RosieTheChi · 23/02/2024 18:20

Nellieinthebarn · 23/02/2024 17:28

I do feel sorry for her, she was groomed and trafficked at 15 years old, married to a man who, under British law, raped her as she was under the age of consent, has lost three children and now lives stateless in a refugee camp. Yes she was stupid, gullible and made horrendously bad decisions. But has she actually committed a crime herself?

If so she should be brought to the UK and stand trial for her crimes and dealt with appropriately. If she remains a threat to national security the UK should step up and take responsibility for her and let her return here, under life long supervision if need be. If convicted murderers and peadophiles are allowed to live in communities, apparently safely under licence, I don't see why this cannot be the case with this woman.

She was born and raised here, she is British, but I don't believe that this has anything to do with the decision to revoke her citizenship, and everything to do with the Tories not wanting to lose face, and votes, by reversing a their decision. Its a purely political stance on the government's part.

I am glad I'm not being judged for the rest of my life for things I did when I was 15.

Isn't joining a terrorist organisation a crime in itself?

BashfulClam · 23/02/2024 18:21

Notthegodofsmallthings · 23/02/2024 17:56

Then why doesn't Sajid go right ahead and tell us?

Do you need that spelled out? It’s confidential. If she was just a wee daft lassie who made a mistake they wouldn’t care too much, let her back with surveillance. There is a reason they haven’t.

whynotwhatknot · 23/02/2024 18:21

aw bless her my favourite ting was wen she said she agreed wit the mancester attack-tey deserved it apparently

ses playing te victim as noone wants er anymore

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