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To feel sorry for Shamima Begum?

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EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

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Mintyfreshtulips · 23/02/2024 17:26

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 23/02/2024 15:20

I find your obsession with these girls and how they are guilty and as bad a terrorist quite chilling. Why so against them? Do you think they deserved to be raped and beaten? With your approval of SB I'm starting to think you do.

I’m just using your logic.

Wizzadorra70 · 23/02/2024 17:27

Given that the Home Office and justice system had access to the whole story, I'm happy to trust their judgement.

tachetastic · 23/02/2024 17:27

EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

If the issue was that she was thrown in prison in the UK or in Syria, or anywhere in fact, I wouldn't feel sorry for her at all.

But somehow I am uncomfortable with stripping her of her citizenship. It feels wrong. I know it's a silly analogy, but it's like when you're a parent, your kids are always your kids no matter what they do.

I feel in the same way, if she's a problem then maybe she should be our problem to deal with.

LizzieSiddal · 23/02/2024 17:28

LankyCranky32 · 23/02/2024 13:06

I always find it amazing because if I was 15 ad a blonde white English teenager who hanged out a lot with different people from different cultures and had left the country in the way she did there would have been an instant search to find me, and I would have been classed as kidnapped from grooming.

Very much agree with this. Because she’s not white people don’t care about her.

She was 15 ffs.

Nellieinthebarn · 23/02/2024 17:28

I do feel sorry for her, she was groomed and trafficked at 15 years old, married to a man who, under British law, raped her as she was under the age of consent, has lost three children and now lives stateless in a refugee camp. Yes she was stupid, gullible and made horrendously bad decisions. But has she actually committed a crime herself?

If so she should be brought to the UK and stand trial for her crimes and dealt with appropriately. If she remains a threat to national security the UK should step up and take responsibility for her and let her return here, under life long supervision if need be. If convicted murderers and peadophiles are allowed to live in communities, apparently safely under licence, I don't see why this cannot be the case with this woman.

She was born and raised here, she is British, but I don't believe that this has anything to do with the decision to revoke her citizenship, and everything to do with the Tories not wanting to lose face, and votes, by reversing a their decision. Its a purely political stance on the government's part.

I am glad I'm not being judged for the rest of my life for things I did when I was 15.

fleurneige · 23/02/2024 17:28

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/02/2024 17:20

Just for the record, Jewish people tend to commit fewer crimes (proportionately to their population in a country) than individuals of other faiths (including Islam and Christianity) and of no faith at all.

How is that relevant. She does not have another nationality- just would be able, in principle to apply for another one.

So if a British born Jewish 15 year old decides to go to Israel and join the IDF to join the illegal bombing and killing in Gaza- brainwashed by his parents of the local Synagogue- would not be allowed to return later, when Israel is accuded of illegal war crimes:

What about my 15 year old nephew, British born, but who because of his grand-parents could in principle apply for Irish Nationality- if he goes to fight in ... wherever, for whomever- brainwashed by a local gang or faith, etc- should he not be able to return and face the Law here at a later stage. Of course he would. Because he is born and bred British. But he is vaguely CofE, blond with blue eyes- and so is all his family. However abhorrent or even criminal his actions perpetrated abroad.

lomplan · 23/02/2024 17:28

LankyCranky32 · 23/02/2024 13:06

I always find it amazing because if I was 15 ad a blonde white English teenager who hanged out a lot with different people from different cultures and had left the country in the way she did there would have been an instant search to find me, and I would have been classed as kidnapped from grooming.

This.

MrsDoylesTea · 23/02/2024 17:28

Some of the comments here are just awful. How many of you have a 15 year old daughter? I have a 14 year old daughter and there is zero ambiguity in the fact that she knows beheading people and committing acts of terrorism are wrong.

All this harping on about how she was only 15 - guess what, only needs to wait until her next birthday to be able to smoke, get married, join the army etc

It's utterly ridiculous to play the "she was only a child" hand-wringing card. She knew exactly what she was getting into, and should never ever be allowed back in this country to spread her poisonous views - or worse...

TheBerry · 23/02/2024 17:30

EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

I do. I can see both sides, tbh.

She was most likely trafficked as a particularly impressionable teen. She has lost three children.

On the other hand, the way she comes across is… odd. She seems to have limited comprehension, shows very little emotion, very little remorse. Quite a strange character. I’m wildly speculating now, but sometimes I wonder if she could actually be pretty high up on the psychopathy spectrum.

Or, maybe she just comes across like that now because she’s witnessed terrible things, been brutalised, grown up too fast, and experienced horrific loss.

Idk. I don’t trust her, honestly. But I do also feel a bit sorry for her.

caringcarer · 23/02/2024 17:30

RhubarbGingerJam · 23/02/2024 14:34

No - she didn't she had right to apply due to dormant citizenship due to her parents up to age 21.

At 19 UK stripped her of her citizenship having found her pg in a refuge camp - despite Bangladesh officials saying they wouldn't have her even if she got in a position she could apply to them before 21.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/uk-68372112/page/2#:~:text=Begum%20was%20born%20in%20the,baby%20later%20died%20of%20pneumonia.

That my issues with it using a technicality to make someone stateless - its the precedent that worries me.

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She deserves everything that she now has. She betrayed her country to support ISIS. No reason we should take her back. She needs to understand decisions she makes have consequences. She chose to leave the UK and go to support ISIS. She chose not to apply for citizenship from Bangladesh. If she's stateless it's her own fault. Perhaps she'll think more carefully in the future before making rash decisions.

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 17:30

@Nellieinthebarn how you getting her to the U.K. then?

FMLWTF · 23/02/2024 17:30

I don’t care one bit about her or the bleeding heart lefties supporting her. Yes, she is being made an example of. Good. People learn by example. Don’t do what she did.

bluelavender · 23/02/2024 17:30

LovelyTheresa · 23/02/2024 16:54

Not any more, she's not. Her actions meant she revoked her citizenship. Them's the breaks!

I'm going to point out the very obvious statement that I completely disagree with her crimes and don't actually feel sorry for her. If she ever came back I think the risks would need to be carefully managed.

I am concerned about the concept of a person's citizenship being stripped when they were born here. What other crimes do we do this for?

Jowak1 · 23/02/2024 17:31

Completely agree @MrsDoylesTea at 15 you know right from wrong.

LovelyTheresa · 23/02/2024 17:31

MrsDoylesTea · 23/02/2024 17:28

Some of the comments here are just awful. How many of you have a 15 year old daughter? I have a 14 year old daughter and there is zero ambiguity in the fact that she knows beheading people and committing acts of terrorism are wrong.

All this harping on about how she was only 15 - guess what, only needs to wait until her next birthday to be able to smoke, get married, join the army etc

It's utterly ridiculous to play the "she was only a child" hand-wringing card. She knew exactly what she was getting into, and should never ever be allowed back in this country to spread her poisonous views - or worse...

I was all ready for my head to explode when I saw your first two sentences. Then I read the rest of your excellent post. I couldn't agree more.

jasflowers · 23/02/2024 17:31

VickyEadieofThigh · 23/02/2024 16:40

I want to comment on those suggesting that if she were allowed back she'd automatically be jailed, that if tried in court she'd automatically be found guilty - and those commenting she would be "watched like a hawk, so couldn't get involved in acts of terrorism">

  1. Bringing a case against her would take a long time. It's far from certain the CPS could amass evidence that she was involved in terrorist activities in Syria. It's not a definite that she would be remanded whilst awaiting a trial (just because people think these things "should" happen doesn't make them automatically happen).
  2. She would be tried before a jury, who would decided based on whatever evidence was presented - and on her defence - whether or not she was guilty. This is obviously not a certainty. Nor is a long sentence were she to be found guilty.
  3. The "watched like a hawk" thing - do you know exactly how many people are currently under surveillance as potential or suspected terrorists and how many security personnel there are to "watch" them? The Manchester Arena bomber HAD been on a watchlist and had been removed, because of no apparent evidence of "activity"... SB wouldn't be assigned a team of people to "watch" her.

It isn't a "done deal" that she'd be locked up and rendered harmless. That's all I'm saying here.

So exactly the same as anyone else accused of a crime?

Unless we wish to be like Russia and "get rid" of people where there isn't enough evidence, then that is what we have to accept.

OodlesPoodle · 23/02/2024 17:32

Lavender14 · 23/02/2024 17:23

@OodlesPoodle funnily enough that's how grooming works. It makes something deeply inappropriate seem like the good option like running away with an older man or joining a cult etc etc etc. And funny the red Cross and unesco weren't trying to groom children online.

No, that is not how grooming works. It doesn't make murder and mutilation and beheading and rape seem like a good option. What the hell are you on about?

Do you genuinely think grooming is making inappropriate things seem ok?? NO, it is giving victims what they want to build trust and gain compliance -be it attention, love, companionship, money, a home OR as in her case the opportunity to put her hatred and sociopathy into practice.

Do you understand that they would never have risked approaching her and her reporting them to the police if they hadn't been entirely sure she was up for whatever they wanted? By testing her gradually - probably start by showing her photos of dead people or talking about how much they hated their families and wish they were dead - and gauged her reaction. A normal, healthy 15 year old would have recoiled and shut the conversation down or told a parent or friend, and felt fearful. She didn't so they knew she was a kindred spirit.

That's not grooming. That's recruiting.

FMLWTF · 23/02/2024 17:32

I don’t believe for a moment she was groomed and didn’t know what she was getting into. We all knew. Unless she was of low intelligence and has some sort of learning disability? She was sick and twisted to go off there like she did. Everyone knew what ISIS were up to.

fleurneige · 23/02/2024 17:33

LovelyTheresa · 23/02/2024 17:10

While I see your point, sadly, I really don't think that we should pander to the politics of fear. I get what you are saying about keeping our enemies closer, but also why should we?

Because she is British, born and bred, and does not have another nationality- so it is against the Law. Nothing to do with 'sympathy'!

Zone2NorthLondon · 23/02/2024 17:33

wildernesssw · 23/02/2024 16:54

It isn't about 'sympathy'

It is about recognising that the best way of protecting our own rights is to recognise the rights of others.

As I said, I have no idea whether she is impossibly unpleasant person, or a traumatised young person. Her personality is irrelevant to my opinion.

First they came
First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a socialist.

Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

Christ alive inappropriate use do that quote, it has nothing to do with Ms Begum

Roselilly36 · 23/02/2024 17:34

I don’t feel any sympathy for her at all. She has never shown genuine remorse. It will be risk to let her back in and sets a very dangerous precedent. She made her choice. i believe people with radical views don’t change their minds, but may hide them when it suits their purpose. 100% the right decision.

Occasionalsnaccident · 23/02/2024 17:34

Trafficked

poetryandwine · 23/02/2024 17:36

I don’t want SB back in the UK but I think restoring her citizenship and presumably imprisoning her here following due process is the right thing to do.

As PPs have said, she was a very young teenager when her grooming began, and she has been through a huge amount of trauma. My fear is that refusing her entry to the UK is being used as further propaganda.

VickyEadieofThigh · 23/02/2024 17:36

jasflowers · 23/02/2024 17:31

So exactly the same as anyone else accused of a crime?

Unless we wish to be like Russia and "get rid" of people where there isn't enough evidence, then that is what we have to accept.

My point was that it's not as simple as people appear to think.

jasflowers · 23/02/2024 17:37

Roselilly36 · 23/02/2024 17:34

I don’t feel any sympathy for her at all. She has never shown genuine remorse. It will be risk to let her back in and sets a very dangerous precedent. She made her choice. i believe people with radical views don’t change their minds, but may hide them when it suits their purpose. 100% the right decision.

100s of former ISIS fighters have returned to the UK and not had citizenship revoked.

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