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To feel sorry for Shamima Begum?

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EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

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bettyblossom · 23/02/2024 17:16

JustWoww · 23/02/2024 17:03

I don’t think the UK handled this properly - she is British and they should have brought her back in the beginning and taken her to trial.
But I am curious about the whole idea of people feeling sorry for her for being 15. I am wondering if people would be feeling the same if she had of been a 15 year old male and groomed to fight - would such a male be welcomed back too?

Absolutely agree. I don't feel sorry for her in the least I'm afraid.

WhatWhereWho · 23/02/2024 17:17

wildernesssw · 23/02/2024 16:54

It isn't about 'sympathy'

It is about recognising that the best way of protecting our own rights is to recognise the rights of others.

As I said, I have no idea whether she is impossibly unpleasant person, or a traumatised young person. Her personality is irrelevant to my opinion.

First they came
First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a socialist.

Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a trade unionist.

Then they came for the Jews, and I did not speak out—
Because I was not a Jew.

Then they came for me—and there was no one left to speak for me.

FFS - quoting Martin Niemöller is perhaps the inane and misplaced argument that you could use. She joined a group that was a religious fascist movement attempting to eradicate other communities and establish a dictatorship. ISIS membership is not equivalent to being a persecuted Communist, Socialist, trade unionist or Jew. Unless you are equating being one of those to joining a group which took Yazidi women and kids into sexual slavery, massacred their men and killed countless others. Pick up a book or read the news.

But she should be brought back because she's our responsibility and we are making her (and others like her) someone else's problem. Bringing her and those like her back is not about them but the people and communities they are being dumped on - in a region our country played a big role in destabilising. She's our rubbish we should be responsible for her. Stripping citizenship is not an appropriate legal punishment and certainly not when it's done for political expediency.

wildernesssw · 23/02/2024 17:17

This sums it up. It is not about whether Shamima Begum is entitled to 'sympathy':
'Any British person who has a foreign-born parent will feel their status is more precarious after the court of appeal decision'

The Shamima Begum ruling proves it: some UK citizens are less equal than others | Zoe Williams | The Guardian'

'The first is the idea that Begum cannot return because she poses too great a threat to national security. The notion that the assembled forces of British justice and policing are no match for one 24-year-old, who is easily recognisable and whose whereabouts can presumably be known for the rest of her life, would represent an incompetence so sweeping as to amount to an abnegation of the state’s duty: if it cannot keep us safe from Begum, how would it fare against an adversary who hadn’t renounced fundamentalism and whose identity is not yet known?'

The Shamima Begum ruling proves it: some UK citizens are less equal than others | Zoe Williams

Any British person who has a foreign-born parent will feel their status is more precarious, says Guardian columnist Zoe Williams

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2024/feb/23/shamima-begum-british-citizens-foreign-born-parent-court-appeal

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 17:17

@FuzzyManul nobody is campaigning to get them out

Just this loser

WhatWhereWho · 23/02/2024 17:18

Why is there no sympathy for the others who had their citizenship taken away?

OodlesPoodle · 23/02/2024 17:18

Prelapsarianhag · 23/02/2024 17:05

She was a child, groomed and trafficked by unscrupulous men. Her poor parents must be devastated.

This is really insulting to the actual victims of trafficking - who end up in these situations against their will. She went off her own volition to join an organisation she KNEW commited acts of terror and murder, in a country they controlled. How on earth is that the same as girls who are kidnapped or promised a job in a first world country like the US or UK or who's parents sell them for profit.

You really think the average 15 year old when asked to join a group that kills and mutilates, but will love and care for them is going to say 'yes please, that sounds much better than my comfortable life in zone 1 east london living with my family in my cultural community". Isn't that more likely the decision of a sociopath?

Funny she didn't want to join Red Cross or Unesco to help out in Syria hey. Lots of adverts on the telly and public transport asking for volunteers and help.

FuzzyManul · 23/02/2024 17:18

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 17:17

@FuzzyManul nobody is campaigning to get them out

Just this loser

Ah. I see the point you were trying to make. It wasn't clear in your original post.

Viviennemary · 23/02/2024 17:19

I feel sympathy up to a point as there are a lot worse folk than her allowed in the country and go on to commit horrific crimes, but still not convinced she should be allowed back in. I don't think she would keep quiet either.

BashfulClam · 23/02/2024 17:19

Sajid Javid has said if the public knew what MI5 did they wouldn’t want her returned to the UK either. There is more to this than just a poor 15 year old who was led astray.

Lavender14 · 23/02/2024 17:20

Chumbawambs · 23/02/2024 17:11

"For me an ethical, caring and accountable society is preferable than one who would abandon a child who was groomed and exploited."

But she is not a child is she, she is an adult and has been involved in active terrorism and murder, also we have not abandoned her she left.

She was 15 when she was groomed and left the UK was she not?

A child.

She might be an adult now but when she made that initial decision she was a child and vulnerable. And that should absolutely be taken into account.

Many women do awful things when in exploitation in order to survive. What makes you think she's any different than any other young woman who's been targeted, groomed and exploited?

IncompleteSenten · 23/02/2024 17:20

I think too many people seem to need a black and white good guy bad guy situation.

This was a British born child who grew up feeling so alienated from the country she grew up in that she became a target, was groomed and radicalised.

It's far easier to demonise her than to take a good look around and try to understand how that happened because it sure as shit didn't happen in isolation.

Is she a victim?
Yes.
Is she a perpetrator?
Yes.
Has she done horrendous things?
Yes.
Have horrendous things been done to her?
Yes.

She is more like a victim of a brainwashing cult than a blood thirsty monster. When we think of cults we understand brainwashing and deprogramming but when it comes to this young woman there appears to be a desperate need to see her as a monster rather than a product of her childhood and the grooming she suffered and look back and see the teenager who was utterly failed by everyone around her.

But here she is now, an adult, no doubt deeply psychologically damaged and just because she's brown and her parents weren't born in the UK doesn't mean she isn't Britain's responsibility. She needs to be sent back here, assessed and dealt with in the most appropriate way.

And if people want to deny there's a racist undertone to the general public's view of her they're delusional.

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/02/2024 17:20

wildernesssw · 23/02/2024 16:35

This is not about whether she is a nice person or not.

It is about a UK citizen, who has never held any other citizenship, being stripped of her UK citizenship because she could theoretically apply for citizenship elsewhere.

As I understand it, every Jewish person, whatever their citizenship, has an unrestricted right to immigrate to Israel and get Israeli citizenship. So, under the logic you are using, let's start stripping Jewish UK citizens of their UK citizenship if they commit a serious crime, and deport them to Israel.

Just for the record, Jewish people tend to commit fewer crimes (proportionately to their population in a country) than individuals of other faiths (including Islam and Christianity) and of no faith at all.

Funcamper · 23/02/2024 17:21

How realistically is she any kind of threat to the UK? Where is ISIS now? Why is it acceptable for the UK to ignore international law and make her stateless? Whatever she has done or not done - and a great deal of that is speculation and hearsay- she is entitled to be treated with justice and compassion as any of our citizens should be.This is one of the key features that differentiates the UK from dodgy third world regimes, and indeed the ISIS caliphate itself.

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 17:21

@Lavender14 What makes you think she was targeted groomed and exploited..... she followed her bestie out there....

BashfulClam · 23/02/2024 17:22

Lavender14 · 23/02/2024 17:20

She was 15 when she was groomed and left the UK was she not?

A child.

She might be an adult now but when she made that initial decision she was a child and vulnerable. And that should absolutely be taken into account.

Many women do awful things when in exploitation in order to survive. What makes you think she's any different than any other young woman who's been targeted, groomed and exploited?

Because MI5 consider her a risk. If she was just a poor young girl they’d not be bothered but they think she’s a serious risk to security.

Coatsoff42 · 23/02/2024 17:22

Wasn’t the female murderer of Brianna ghey also a vulnerable child? I don’t remember much sympathy for her. She was also on line a lot, was she ‘groomed’ I don’t know, but she was a violent sadistic killer at 15 and I don’t hear much sympathy for her. She was locked up for 20 years and held accountable for actions made when 15.

admittedly she wasn’t deprived of citizenship, but she was held fully accountable for her choices and actions.

Zanatdy · 23/02/2024 17:22

I do have sympathy - my daughter is 15, she doesn’t have the maturity of an adult and this girl was groomed 100%

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LovelyTheresa · 23/02/2024 17:23

MySugarBabyLove · 23/02/2024 17:13

To quote that first they came text in relation to an isis terrorist who took delight in the beheading and death of others is beyond fucking offensive.

I know! Some people's minds are so open that their brains fell out a long time ago.

Lavender14 · 23/02/2024 17:23

OodlesPoodle · 23/02/2024 17:18

This is really insulting to the actual victims of trafficking - who end up in these situations against their will. She went off her own volition to join an organisation she KNEW commited acts of terror and murder, in a country they controlled. How on earth is that the same as girls who are kidnapped or promised a job in a first world country like the US or UK or who's parents sell them for profit.

You really think the average 15 year old when asked to join a group that kills and mutilates, but will love and care for them is going to say 'yes please, that sounds much better than my comfortable life in zone 1 east london living with my family in my cultural community". Isn't that more likely the decision of a sociopath?

Funny she didn't want to join Red Cross or Unesco to help out in Syria hey. Lots of adverts on the telly and public transport asking for volunteers and help.

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@OodlesPoodle funnily enough that's how grooming works. It makes something deeply inappropriate seem like the good option like running away with an older man or joining a cult etc etc etc. And funny the red Cross and unesco weren't trying to groom children online.

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/02/2024 17:23

lightwhiteongrey · 23/02/2024 16:40

I despair at the lack of understanding of being human shown on these threads.

This child to woman was trapped in a propaganda machine for years and years of her formative youth. Most adults I know are unable to think outside of their social circles, and believe stuff that is demonstrably untrue if their circle tells them its true. Its not even remotely surprising that she would repeat the things that were the norm in the brainwashing environment in which she grew up.

I mean, there are people here who believe its morally justified to leave a young woman stateless and homeless and jobless for the rest of her life, because their social circles tell them that is the right thing. I really don't see those people having that much of a moral high ground.

This child to woman was trapped in a propaganda machine for years and years of her formative youth.

Do you think this makes her less dangerous?

I think it makes her more so.

OodlesPoodle · 23/02/2024 17:24

IncompleteSenten · 23/02/2024 17:20

I think too many people seem to need a black and white good guy bad guy situation.

This was a British born child who grew up feeling so alienated from the country she grew up in that she became a target, was groomed and radicalised.

It's far easier to demonise her than to take a good look around and try to understand how that happened because it sure as shit didn't happen in isolation.

Is she a victim?
Yes.
Is she a perpetrator?
Yes.
Has she done horrendous things?
Yes.
Have horrendous things been done to her?
Yes.

She is more like a victim of a brainwashing cult than a blood thirsty monster. When we think of cults we understand brainwashing and deprogramming but when it comes to this young woman there appears to be a desperate need to see her as a monster rather than a product of her childhood and the grooming she suffered and look back and see the teenager who was utterly failed by everyone around her.

But here she is now, an adult, no doubt deeply psychologically damaged and just because she's brown and her parents weren't born in the UK doesn't mean she isn't Britain's responsibility. She needs to be sent back here, assessed and dealt with in the most appropriate way.

And if people want to deny there's a racist undertone to the general public's view of her they're delusional.

Why do you think she felt alienated?? Have you been to the area she lived in?? I'm South Asian but not Bangladeshi and I feel out of place as it's majority Bangladeshi. It's probably one of the largest Bangladeshi communities outside Bangladesh. Why would she feel more at home in Syria with Isis?? What did they offer that her Bangla community at home didn't?

HelloMiss · 23/02/2024 17:24

Zanatdy · 23/02/2024 17:22

I do have sympathy - my daughter is 15, she doesn’t have the maturity of an adult and this girl was groomed 100%

But she's 24 now and totally ok seeing a journalists severed head tossed in a rubbish bin..... she's cool with that, are you??

Panama2 · 23/02/2024 17:24

I do remember the Home Secretary saying "If you knew what I know" so there may be information that we are not privy to.

I am curious how those three young girls were able to access their passports and enough money to leave the country and not one member of their families noticed anything unusual in their behaviour.

leafybrew · 23/02/2024 17:25

LankyCranky32 · 23/02/2024 13:06

I always find it amazing because if I was 15 ad a blonde white English teenager who hanged out a lot with different people from different cultures and had left the country in the way she did there would have been an instant search to find me, and I would have been classed as kidnapped from grooming.

Absolutely this!

She was groomed

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