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To feel sorry for Shamima Begum?

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EWAS · 23/02/2024 12:56

I do, I’m afraid. I think she should be able to come home. She was 15! Have any men been stripped of their citizenship that we know about?

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wintersgold · 23/02/2024 15:30

YABU. 15 is old enough to have basic morals and principles. She deserves no respect, no forgiveness, no happiness for the disgusting choices she's made.

LessonsinChemistryandLove · 23/02/2024 15:30

The precedent this case sets is very worrying. There are many children in the Uk and out, who have been groomed and exploited into making very horrible decisions. If this rule was applied universally, the same parents here condemning this girl would be crying to every paper that would listen. This was solely a populist, with a splash of racism decision.
We should all be very worried about our children’s fate if they fall into this circumstance, it is not as impossible as you would like to believe.

ASGIRC · 23/02/2024 15:31

Precipice · 23/02/2024 13:04

We know Jack Letts was stripped of his UK citizenship, but that's a different case. He actually held Canadian citizenship all his life and continues to be a Canadian citizen. (Canada wasn't happy about the UK making Letts their sole responsibility either.) Begum has become stateless, which should not be permitted under international law.

Its not! Under the the UN convention, it is illegal to make one stateless... The UK shouold not have done it.

MysteryDog · 23/02/2024 15:32

Whether you sympathise with her or not she is (or was) a British Citizen. She is the UK's responsibility and she should face the UK justice system. It blows my mind that politicians think it's OK to just wash their hands and treat her as somebody else's problem.

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 23/02/2024 15:32

RhubarbGingerJam · 23/02/2024 14:34

No - she didn't she had right to apply due to dormant citizenship due to her parents up to age 21.

At 19 UK stripped her of her citizenship having found her pg in a refuge camp - despite Bangladesh officials saying they wouldn't have her even if she got in a position she could apply to them before 21.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/live/uk-68372112/page/2#:~:text=Begum%20was%20born%20in%20the,baby%20later%20died%20of%20pneumonia.

That my issues with it using a technicality to make someone stateless - its the precedent that worries me.

Edited

That’s wrong - even according to the BBC itself:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-47312207.amp

The Bangladeshi government has ignored its own law. That’s understandable. But our government is not acting unlawfully.

I do wish people would stop saying she was groomed. That’s a term from the field of sexual abuse and is completely outside anything relevant to a volunteer terrorist. Radicalised maybe, but not groomed.

As for the race angle, Samantha Lewthwaite is a white British Jihadi terrorist. She’s probably living in Yemen. If the government could strip her citizenship I’m sure they would.

British schoolgirl Shamima Begum during her interview with the BBC on Monday

IS bride 'is not Bangladeshi citizen' - BBC News

Bangladesh says there is "no question" of Shamima Begum being allowed into the country.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-47312207.amp

wintersgold · 23/02/2024 15:32

Allaboom · 23/02/2024 15:29

You mean other children who are groomed?

They mean other young terrorists, clearly. To call that monster a child is a joke.

goody2shooz · 23/02/2024 15:32

@bombastix and @HRTea the IDF may not be a terrorist organisation but many of its actions are. I don’t think it’s acceptable that you can go off from the UK and fight in a situation like Gaza, and come back like you ve been on holiday. Complete with souvenirs looted from Palestinian homes, and videos of your exploits to show your chums on social media. Shamima was wrong definitely but I also believe she’s been ‘made an example of’. Nice easy target!

SoupDragon · 23/02/2024 15:32

I don't have sympathy for her but I am disgusted that the government think it's OK to dump her on another country when she is the UK's problem.

Bramshott · 23/02/2024 15:33

BIossomtoes · 23/02/2024 15:25

Totally irrelevant.

Why is it irrelevant though? If we're working on the basis that people who join a terrorist organisation should be deprived of their citizenship?

phishy · 23/02/2024 15:33

bombastix · 23/02/2024 15:27

@phishy - you've just had three court of appeal judges disagree with you so sorry to hear your views on me are so compelling

If you think the court of appeal don't do what the government and security services tell them to do then you're unutterably naive.

phishy · 23/02/2024 15:35

wintersgold · 23/02/2024 15:32

They mean other young terrorists, clearly. To call that monster a child is a joke.

Then your own children must be monsters too if you think children are monsters.

ItsAllAboutTheDosh · 23/02/2024 15:35

She was a child though. 15 is a child.

wintersgold · 23/02/2024 15:36

phishy · 23/02/2024 15:35

Then your own children must be monsters too if you think children are monsters.

My children aren't terrorists. If they were, they would quite rightly be monsters, yes.

Outliers · 23/02/2024 15:37

Cyclebabble · 23/02/2024 15:27

I am also brown and so are most of my relatives. I would not take away her citizenship but there is understandable concern here which is not related to her skin colour.

Perhaps its just a coincidence that you're brown and wouldn't take away her citizenship.

phishy · 23/02/2024 15:37

wintersgold · 23/02/2024 15:36

My children aren't terrorists. If they were, they would quite rightly be monsters, yes.

But if your child had been groomed into sexual exploitation then you would be singing a very different tune. And you would be in tears at them being called a monster.

lonelywater · 23/02/2024 15:37

sorry? Not particularly. I also wonder what her position would be if ISIS had not been smashed to pieces.

LaylaLayla1 · 23/02/2024 15:38

LankyCranky32 · 23/02/2024 13:06

I always find it amazing because if I was 15 ad a blonde white English teenager who hanged out a lot with different people from different cultures and had left the country in the way she did there would have been an instant search to find me, and I would have been classed as kidnapped from grooming.

completely agree

Zone2NorthLondon · 23/02/2024 15:38

Begum was both groomed and radicalised. Groomed is a psychological technique to disorientate and introduce ideologies, behaviour and values to a vulnerable person initially by stealth and always on a pretext of goodwill,or love,or relationship . Gangs using grooming, scammers using grooming, terrorists using grooming

WhatsTheUseOfWorrying · 23/02/2024 15:39

phishy · 23/02/2024 15:25

But Bangladesh denied her nationality.

So you're talking out of your arse.

Edited

Bangladesh acted unlawfully. It wants a generous citizenship policy so automatically by law confers it on the children of citizens- but not in this case because it doesn’t suit.

listsandbudgets · 23/02/2024 15:40

Trulyme · 23/02/2024 14:43

My DD is the same age and highly vulnerable/easily led.

So yes I do feel very sorry for her because I couldn’t imagine my DD being in a similar position.

Do you really have such a low opinion of your DD that you think she'd agree to join a death cult, steal money and a passport and then tell the world that she didn't particularly mind seeing severed heads in bins? Really???

There's easily led and then there's plain evil.

However- since quite understandably Bangladesh don't want her (don't her parents live there?) SB is unfortunately our problem and we have 2 choices.... We either leave her exactly where she is or bring her home, show the world the evidence then stick her in a cell and chuck away the key. I'd actually go for the second option so we know where she is and what she's doing.

I've no sympathy at all for her although my heart breaks for her poor babies and those she helped to kill.

Oh and obviously the lawyers want to carry on they are being paid mega bucks by the tax payer.

The court made the right decision.

wintersgold · 23/02/2024 15:40

phishy · 23/02/2024 15:37

But if your child had been groomed into sexual exploitation then you would be singing a very different tune. And you would be in tears at them being called a monster.

Not under Begum's circumstances. I would have nothing to do with a terrorist like her, child or not. There are no excuses and no forgiveness when it comes to a crime of this scale

Emotionalsupportviper · 23/02/2024 15:40

YeahIsaidit · 23/02/2024 12:59

Whilst young yes, she played the fuck around and find out game. Ah well

Agree - and I do think that she is a serious danger to this country.

Trafficked? Who knows - but she will certainly be brainwashed into Islamist fundamentalism by now. For a long time she stood by her Islamist compatriots - it was only when she realised that her honesty meant that she wouldn't be allowed in to the UK that she made an about face and started wearing western dress and claiming she was trafficked.

There was a very in depth radio series about her (it may still be available on "Sounds") and IIRC most people who had contact with her were convinced that she was still deeply Islamist, and also she was being financially supported by ISIS.

Sureaseggs44 · 23/02/2024 15:40

Balloonhearts · 23/02/2024 13:18

She's never shown a shred of remorse. She's a terrorist and should be left to rot. What's happening to her is no worse than the treatment she herself condones inflicting on others for their beliefs.

Yes , there are government departments involved that don’t have to release their evidence . They have decide she is a risk .Why can’t she go back with her family to Bangladesh ?

Unusualactualname · 23/02/2024 15:41

MyGooseisTotallyLoose · 23/02/2024 15:09

So if she is as lovely and innocent as her sympathisers say, why did she join isis, and celebrate and praise them and their actions?

I'm one of those 'sympathisers'. I don't think she's lovely and innocent - I'm horrified and appalled at her crimes. I still feel sorry for her. It isn't either/or.

Thulpelly · 23/02/2024 15:41

Yes. She was 15.

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