Ungrateful MIL - absolutely LIVID

[Lipbalmstrawberry]

It’s MIL’s birthday today and we went out for a meal at lunchtime. I gave her her gift which was a blouse from River Island and when she opened it she just was like “Eugh, I don’t think this will suit me. It probably won’t fit me either.” “Have you got the receipt? I’ll go in and change it when go into town on Friday. If not you can keep it I don’t like that.” all with a scowl on her face. I was completely aghast and fuming so I just lied and said I don’t have the receipt and put it back in my bag. Not a word of thanks! I felt even a bit humiliated to be honest.

The rest of the lunch was completely normal and she was talking to me as though nothing happened but inside I was absolutely seething and I still am to be honest. I wished I’d have told her to not be so rude! And she never even said thank you for the cake either!

WIBU to not bother with a cake and present next year? I’m thinking of not bothering after that reaction.

Mil is extremely rude.
Never buy here anything again.

That's no reason for the MIL to be so fucking rude though...

Of course MIL is horribly silly and rude, as are many of the posters.

Spend the refund on yourself and don’t get her anything that costs over £5 again.

@Lipbalmstrawberry, I cannot believe people on here are calling you insensitive for buying your MIL a gift that you thought she would like. It was a gift for goodness sake.

Any reasonable person would have said they love it, give you a big hug, and then the next day call you and say it doesn't fit or after trying it on it doesn't suit her the way she thought and check if you would be okay with her changing it.

Embarrassing you in front of your family and friends was not on. In future perhaps tell DH that he needs to do the gift buying and watch MIL struggle with knowing what to say about whatever heap of sh*t he chooses as her next birthday present! 😂

Grow the fuck up, what are you ten 🤣

It may be an odd gift but all the same its a gift from a good place. She could have taken it home then said it doesn't fit and doesn't look great on her, thats acceptable.
I wouldn't get her a gift or cake next time, in fact i have done this couple times with ungrateful people.

Read it again.

She said she lied when she said she didn't have the receipt.

Op deserves to get the money after that reaction from the MIL.

I just wouldn't bother again OP. Ungrateful cow. She doesn't have to be effusive but to not say thank you is rude.

Maybe because being close family they see you often and notice your personal style. It's hardly bewildering

It's hardly difficult.

All this fuss over it being a blouse. Whatever the gift would have been, MIL reaction was RUDE.

The trouble with politely accepting clothing gifts, which are not to your taste, is that the relative involved then thinks you like that sort of thing, and you’ll end up with a shelf full of itchy mohair/angora jumpers!

I know.

Love it when posters think they are being soooo clever but actually just showing themselves up as unable to read.

😂 I think I would have broke out in a howl 😂😂😂🤣

Tbh riverisland is a trendy shop aimed at preteens up to women in there 40s I don't think its target market is an almost 70 year old woman. I would never buy mil clothing other than a dressing gown. She was rude but the gift choice was an epic fail.

Did it look like this:

Ross's awesome present for his mom. | Friends in love, Christmas fun, Friends tv (pinterest.co.uk)

It would be the last gift she got from me, and she wouldn't be getting a cake again either. Wow, that is just so very, very, rude. Get a refund and buy something for yourself OP.

This would be my reaction too. I was brought up to say thank you for any gift however big/small nice/awful. I think it’s so ungrateful to criticise a gift someone’s given. My ex husband was like that. I’d put so much thought into what to buy him and got comments like ‘why did you buy me that’ or ‘what made you think I’d like it’. I feel your hurt OP

I think it's an odd choice of gift - if I was buying someone clothing it would be nightwear only, a blouse is very personal and unlikely to be to her taste. However, she was crazy rude, nasty even - there's no need to humiliate someone like that because you dislike a gift. I would have been really pissed with her too.

What did she mean by 'it won't fit me?!' could her response be linked with the size you bought? Maybe you've inadvertently offended her by buying a size bigger? Or if you've bought her a size smaller she might think you're saying 'slim into that fatty!' 😅

This is why you shouldn't gift clothes really, especially to women.

I had the same things last Christmas, got MIL a framed photo of her and DH and my son - thought it was a lovely photo and she opened it and said oh god that's terrible, that's a terrible photo, I can't have that, you'll need to get me another one.
I told DH that was his job. I've not bought her anything since. Christmas before that, she cried because she wanted an iPad and didn't get one.

God this happened with me, except it was a lovely photo of FIL and DH together. Both naturally smiling in a lovely location. She just tutted and said DH looked scruffy :( It ended up being the last photo of them together before he passed away, and it still makes me feel shitty that she reacted like that.

At least that's you off the hook for any future gift-buying. And after her reaction, she really can't complain 😂.

RTFOP. The OP did have the receipt, she just lied because she was so shocked at her MIL's rudeness. OP, when you return the blouse do not give her the money or buy her a new gift. I would never buy the ungrateful bitch anything again.

I’m 66, I frequently buy clothes from River Island.
They have some lovely blouses.

Sounds like you have a DH problem. 'Doesn't like me to slag off his parents' expects me to be a doormat. I would tell him I would stop slagging her off when she started behaving herself.

She was rude. Leave it to your spouse. It's quite an odd present.

She's a narc and I used to be the scapegoat

She did it to upset me (she wouldn't have dared do it to my brothers)

I remember being about 8/9 and I'd spotted an ornament in the window of a shop

8/9 year old me thought it was the nicest thing I'd ever seen (it really wasnt)

I saved my £1 a week pocket money for about 3 months and finally had enough to buy it

I walked miles to the shop,bought it,got it home,proudly wrapped it up and gave it to her

'That's fucking rank!' And promptly dropped it on the tiled floor-it smashed

I still feel the pain,hurt and shame of buying something she hated

Worst bit is,where I live now has a charity shop that sells vintage things and everytime I go to have a look,that bloody ornament is sat on the shelf just glaring at me

(My darling mil tells me she was in the wrong and anything a child buys/makes/gives you is to be treasured,and the poor woman has had some utter tat given to her by dp over the years-shes kept the lot-i have a shelf in my lounge that i display anything a child has bought/made/given me)

It was only when we were in the car that my OH said Isn't that what we bought her last Christmas?!! I rarely get too uptight about things like this! I think I did keep the scarf and then left it somewhere the following winter which really annoyed me more than anything else.