Ungrateful MIL - absolutely LIVID

[Lipbalmstrawberry]

It’s MIL’s birthday today and we went out for a meal at lunchtime. I gave her her gift which was a blouse from River Island and when she opened it she just was like “Eugh, I don’t think this will suit me. It probably won’t fit me either.” “Have you got the receipt? I’ll go in and change it when go into town on Friday. If not you can keep it I don’t like that.” all with a scowl on her face. I was completely aghast and fuming so I just lied and said I don’t have the receipt and put it back in my bag. Not a word of thanks! I felt even a bit humiliated to be honest.

The rest of the lunch was completely normal and she was talking to me as though nothing happened but inside I was absolutely seething and I still am to be honest. I wished I’d have told her to not be so rude! And she never even said thank you for the cake either!

WIBU to not bother with a cake and present next year? I’m thinking of not bothering after that reaction.

I see youve said that she has always been thoughtless, is she one of these 'I tell it like it is' types?

I think some posters are missing the point slightly.
It doesn’t matter if you think the gift is ‘odd’
(The op mentioned mil said she could do with some new blouses, so not odd)
Mil reacted in a rude and ungrateful manner, it wouldn’t have hurt to just say ‘oh thank you’ & she could of had a private word with her son afterwards to say it’s not her style/size, is it ok if she exchanges etc
Mil is tactless and thoughtless.

Next year give her a used tissue.

It was rude if it was in the tone you implied. But I could imagine a very similar conversation in a different tone not being rude:

“Oh! I’m not sure this will suit me. It might not fit me either - unfortunately I find their sizes quite small for my shape” “Have you got the receipt? I’ll go in and change it when go into town on Friday. You don’t? Never mind. Would you like to keep it yourself? It would look lovely on you.”

@owlsinthedaylight To be honest I wouldn’t have minded if it were in that tone!

What a downright nasty, spiteful response. Your husband should have a word, seriously .I wouldn't bother in future

Then you get her a voucher for a blouse. You don't go and buy a hideous one for her

How old is she @Lipbalmstrawberry? We all lose our filter as we age 😅 - absolutely no excuse for the rudeness by the way - leave the present buying to the man child in the future. Bless you for trying though.

It doesn’t matter what the present was - whether you had bought her a lime green spandex boob tube or a monkey wrench - basic manners dictate that you smile, say thank you, and show gratitude and do it with grace fhs.

Your MiL is as ill-mannered and nasty as some of the people in this thread. Ignore them all.

She said she wanted some new blouses. You bought her a blouse similar to ones she already wears. Well done you for being such a thoughtful DiL. 💐

I honestly wouldn’t bother with the bitch again, but do you have a DH problem?

Then you get her a voucher for a blouse. You don't go and buy a hideous one for her

How do you know it was hideous ? There's nothing to suggest it was.

But it is irrelevant anyway, the thread is about whether the MIL was rude, not whether a blouse is an acceptable gift, or whether this particular blouse was nice or not. Perhaps you are someone whose manners are as appalling as the MIL's since you entirely missed the point.

Your posts are utterly bizarre and very aggressive. Why are you demanding to know / making accusations that the OP shoplifted? Horrible.

I regularly buy clothes as gifts for family members. I’ve never thought it was too personal!!! Surely gifts are supposed to be personal, that’s the point!

I don't think it was an odd gift as she mentioned wanting a blouse - and it was rude to not, in the very least, say something like 'It was so kind of you to remember me wanting a blouse, but I'm not sure this is for me, would you mind if you gave me the receipt and I swapped it?' There's no need to look disgusted!

She was very rude, there's no need at all for that sort of reaction. But clothes are a really bad idea for a present, they're very likely to not be suitable. Just get her a gift voucher for a shopping centre or something if she's hinting that she would like some new clothes.

I wouldn’t buy her anything again and I would expect her son to get in touch with her and tell her how rude she was and that you deserve an apology

You are almost as rude as the MiL.

What a spiteful comment.

She was very rude; but I always put a gift receipt into a present if I buy clothes. Not everyone likes the same and I’m not offended if they want to exchange. The way she said it was out of order though

She sounds incredibly rude. Don't bother next year, just send a card and if she asks why there's no gift say 'Well you were so rude about last years, I didn't bother this year'

Has she always had a lack of social skills? If this is something new loosing your inhibitions is a sign of lots of illnesses and it may be something to keep an eye on

Why dont you have a receipt? Regifting or shoplifting?
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She has got a receipt. She lied and said she didn't have one.

Rude? For sure, don’t buy her presents again stick to cake and a card

It doesn't matter what the gift was! To those saying it's personal or weird. It isn't as the Op has explained that she wanted a couple of new blouses and RI is a bloody nice shop to get them from but REGARDLESS even if Op had wrapped her up a dog shit you don't react that way! Nbu Op I'd have seethed and maybe even angry cried over this on my own. How fucking rude and ungrateful. What does your dh think? Also I don't think kit matters that he didn't get her gift either I always get the females in my family gifts I like picking them.