Ungrateful MIL - absolutely LIVID

[Lipbalmstrawberry]

It’s MIL’s birthday today and we went out for a meal at lunchtime. I gave her her gift which was a blouse from River Island and when she opened it she just was like “Eugh, I don’t think this will suit me. It probably won’t fit me either.” “Have you got the receipt? I’ll go in and change it when go into town on Friday. If not you can keep it I don’t like that.” all with a scowl on her face. I was completely aghast and fuming so I just lied and said I don’t have the receipt and put it back in my bag. Not a word of thanks! I felt even a bit humiliated to be honest.

The rest of the lunch was completely normal and she was talking to me as though nothing happened but inside I was absolutely seething and I still am to be honest. I wished I’d have told her to not be so rude! And she never even said thank you for the cake either!

WIBU to not bother with a cake and present next year? I’m thinking of not bothering after that reaction.

"almost" but didn't 😉

It isn't a diversion.

"Eternally grateful" was hyperbole - is that so very tricky to understand? Although some posters here seem to think it's unacceptable to ever say, "that's not quite my thing, I wouldn't want to waste your money"

Goodness knows why that's considered less rude than taking it and then giving it to charity or even worse selling it on.

My mum is in her 60s and she shops there. It's not how it used to be, it caters for all kinds. It's deffo not a young and trendy shop any more 🤣

So you thank the person - because they were kind enough to spend time and money getting you a gift - and you ask politely if they have the receipt in case you need to size up or down. What is so hard to understand?!

@IHaveNeverLivedintheCastle "eternally grateful" wasn't just hyperbole. It was a complete misrepresentation of the situation. A fiction actually.

So you carry on talking cobblers and creating scenarios that don't exist.

Minimum effort from now on. If you've got little ones, give them a couple of quid to choose something by themselves from the poundshop or home bargains, they can give the gift to granny or whoever, and she gets what she gets. If she still screws her nose up at it, she gets nothing. And no, don't bake her another cake. Save that for the people who appreciate the time, love and effort you put in to these things.

My mum is in her 60s and she shops there. It's not how it used to be, it caters for all kinds. It's deffo not a young and trendy shop any more 🤣

Agree! I bet your mum looks fab too 😊

I agree

What a dreadful thing to say ShanghaiDiva, I think you are as rude as her MIL and perhaps you could read the post properly next time. Shocking.

Why are you choosing and getting the present rather than her son?

Actually she went back to purchase and it’s a lovely blue jumper looks fab 👏🏽

DS and his GF (both young adults) bought me a jumper for Christmas which is not me at all. Has tags but they didn't think to leave receipt or it has come from a charity shop and receipt would be worthless and/or they didn't want me to know that (wouldn't have been an issue for me). I said "thank you very much" and left it at that but have put it to one side to offer to my Mum as it's more her style and, if she doesn't want it, it's going to charity. It has an 'ethical' vibe so I can see why they thought I might like it.

I most certainly would never say anything or make a massive fuss like OP's MIL. If MIL did that to me I wouldn't buy her another present.

Christ almighty sakes alive.

This is about being gracious. This is about being the recipient of a gift and knowing enough, being aware enough, to say thank you to the person who gave it to you.
How difficult is that to comprehend?
I cannot believe the audacity of some of the posts on here.
SAY THANK YOU!!!
It isn’t rocket surgery or brain science.