Ungrateful MIL - absolutely LIVID

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It’s MIL’s birthday today and we went out for a meal at lunchtime. I gave her her gift which was a blouse from River Island and when she opened it she just was like “Eugh, I don’t think this will suit me. It probably won’t fit me either.” “Have you got the receipt? I’ll go in and change it when go into town on Friday. If not you can keep it I don’t like that.” all with a scowl on her face. I was completely aghast and fuming so I just lied and said I don’t have the receipt and put it back in my bag. Not a word of thanks! I felt even a bit humiliated to be honest.

The rest of the lunch was completely normal and she was talking to me as though nothing happened but inside I was absolutely seething and I still am to be honest. I wished I’d have told her to not be so rude! And she never even said thank you for the cake either!

WIBU to not bother with a cake and present next year? I’m thinking of not bothering after that reaction.

Also Op buy her lingerie next year. If she's a rude fuck about a blouse just make each gift progressively worse and more personal. Ramp it up yearly, make her dread the gifts you get her, next year a bra and a thong, year after suspenders, crotchless knickers and a feather boa. Stare at her whilst she unwraps each item and smile. If you get something like that no matter how rude she is it will simple never bother you because someone scowling over crotchless knickers and saying it wouldn't suit them is far less hurtful than a blouse.

Everyone should know by the time they get to adulthood that you smile say "how thoughful I needed some new blouses, thank you so much" - then next day you say it doesn't really fit me properly - I don't even think going up or down a size would help so would it be okay if I returned it and tried something else on in the shop?

My DD knew at 6 years old that we thank the person for the effort of the gift and look as pleased as possible even if it's something they don't want.

Are you the MIL or just very thick?

This Christmas was the first one I’ve had non contact with MIL in over 25 years. Was wonderful not to have to do the wife work and have my present returned. DP had to do it and I have no idea what her response was.
When someone is as spectacularly rude as your MIL is, they don’t deserve your time.

Are people really this rude

Don't bother again OP

It's not that weird to buy a blouse for a member of your family! There's no excuse for that level of rude.

Really, you need to take a breath. That would be bizzare & cruel retaliation for a minor slight .To purposefully humiliate someone for a minor rudeness is disproportionate

She was incredibly rude, but why give such a personal gift? Dh would be in charge of everything for her in future.

I wouldn’t buy someone in their 60ies a present from River Island. Does anyone over 25 shop there?

Omg another one on this thread I'm JOKING lol

She reminds me of my mother

I was a very skint single mum,and really struggled and saved to buy her birthday,Christmas and mother's day presents

Whatever my brothers bought her,was cooed over but mine would be held between finger and thumb,look of disgust on her face and the usual 'ewww,that's rank-why did you buy this for me?'

Normally followed with 'you really don't have taste' (it's only now I'm starting to trust my own taste)

Then it would be flung into the charity bag (in front of me) and she'd ring her mates to laugh about 'the tat she buys me' while I was in earshot

I solved that problem by never speaking nor buying her anything,ever again

She can't understand why

Your delivery is as bad as your so called joke then

I thought it was hilarious lol

Haha that would be very amusing each year

Eeek, that’s very harsh of her. Is she trying to get a reaction? Or just rude

Anyhoo. Much relief that you’re not stocking up on the edible pants and nipple glitter for mil

i agree with you, her reaction wasnt needed and there are many more other ways she could have gone around it. rude and couldve atleast pretended she was greatful.

She sounds vile. Horrible manners. Any gift should be gratefully received regardless of whether you like it or not. Even if the gift giver says, “if you don’t like it, I’ve got the receipt”, it’s rude to take them up on it!

Vouchers - every year for the same shop. If she asks why tell her because you tried the gift and cake combo and she was incredibly rude.

Agreed, the MIL was fucking rude beyond belief, I've had dozens of gifts over the years that have quite frankly been awful, but I would never be so uncouth to make the person feel like shit after the effort they've put in...

Many Christmases ago we gave my MIL a large scarf, almost a shawl in Autumnal colours and matching gloves. The following year, quite late on, we were there and planning to go out, I commented that I wished I'd brought a scarf. She got our gift out and said, Here, wear this, someone gave it to me at Christmas but it's such dull colours I never use it!

We said nothing but collapsed laughing when we were outside.

I think buying clothes for another adult is odd, let alone for MIL that you dont seem to be close to. Its a recipe for a disaster.

Oh - that was rude. If she’d said the next day, “thank you so much but it doesn’t fit - would you mind awfully if I swapped for a different style?”, then you’d probably have guessed she didn’t like it, but it wouldn’t have caused the (understandable) offence that it did to you. She was rude and tactless.

Christ! How did you keep,it together, funny. Did you keep them then?

This thread is bat shit.

My MIL got me a sweater for Xmas, which is not my style at all.

I can only imagine the responses if I had posted aibu - my mil gifted me a jumper and upon opening it I told her 'eurgh, this won't suit me. Probably won't suit me either. Can I have the receipt?'

She was rude on both counts.

I wouldn't bother in future, with a gift or cake.