Annoyed by random man incidents

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Yes it’s not much in the scheme of things but I’m becoming increasingly annoyed by men in public (I’m sure women do these things too but 90% of the time it’s men in my experience).

Only today I was paying at the self service in Tesco, had the baby (in pram) and 4 year old with me. 6 checkouts, every other checkout was free. The second I tapped my card this man barged between me and the checkout I had used and started scanning his shopping, leaving me flustered as I gathered up my shopping and tried to pack it away while moving the pram and my other child away. The way it happened he’d clearly been waiting to do it, although why I have no idea.

Second occasion we were stood in another shop, a very big tall man comes round the corner of the aisle and rather than wait the split second for me to pull DD towards me so he could pass (was already doing this) he barged past her and almost knocked her over shouting ‘SORRY, SORRY’.

Gah. Yes it all sounds a bit petty written out but I’ve got PMT and have had a few of these incidences lately and am fed up.

Old men driving too slow is a nuisance.

Women fumbling with purses and taking ages to pay is a nuisance

Anyone wearing a hat will be a nuisance.

It's not just men!

Also had an incident a number of years ago in a Co Op car park.

Reversing out of my space, and a car entered the car park at a fair speed. Didn't like that I had just finished reversing and was pulling forward to leave, so started shouting abuse at me. When I laughed and said I was just trying to leave, he opened his door and told me to step out the car. Obviously, at 5ft 2 and of slim build, he didn't expect me to actually step out the car and thought it would have intimidated me.

He looked like a get away driver making off when my drivers door also flew open 🤣

Maybe you’d be happier on 4Chan 💐

Now I am older, I am seeing more and more bad behaviour from men which maybe they didn't do to me so much when I was younger!

Walking straight towards you on the pavement and expecting all women to make way for them, leaning over you in the supermarket to reach something on the shelf instead of saying excuse me or, gasp, waiting ten seconds, pulling out in front of you in the car WHEN they see you're a woman!

I agree with above poster that they would not think of doing a lot of this stuff to other men! It's cowardly and bullying and they do it because they think they can get away with it unchallenged. It's not about holding doors open for women or being chivalrous, just treating women like normal human beings FGS!

@Daphnis156 the great thing about a forum with specific chats for a specific topic is you can go and start a topic on 'annoyed by random women incidents' 🤷🏼‍♀️
The OP asked for specifically incidents with men after an incident with a man and posters are replying with specific incidents of men. They haven't said every single men I've met has done this, they are telling of specific incidents, I don't get why that annoys you

I don’t think it’s just men, I find women more likely to become impatient in shops, car parks and don’t get me started on the school run.
tailgating I find 50/50, men are more likely to just sit and tailgate, whereas women are more likely to wave their hands to try and make me speed.

Bit of both really, if someone pushes in the supermarket just say “excuse I am not finished yet” and if they push past you again “you just need to say excuse me” I don’t think people realise when they barge pass that they’re being annoying and self centred.

Another example that springs to mind is my sister was driving home late one night and was being tailgated by an aggressive driver, who eventually pulled up alongside her at the traffic lights and wound down his window and started screaming at her waving a spanner of all things like he was going to use it.

Unbeknownst to him, my BIL was in the back of the car sat next to my baby DN. He got the shock of his life when a massive man jumped out of the back and proceeded to grab him through the window...

Yes women do get impatient. Yes women can be arsey. Yes women can be horrible.

But I have never had a woman threaten to rape me. Or smack into me. Or elbow me. Or spit at me. Or call me a fat cunt. I have had men do all of the above, however.

Stop with this ridiculous whataboutery, it's infuriating.

Oh, I bet he shat himself!

The posts about men mansplaining sports reminded me of something similar that happened to DD13 and friends while they were ice skating (I was sat on the sidelines).

Much older teen boy skates up to them and offers to show them what they should be doing, how they should put their feet etc, keeping in mind they were decent skaters. DD13 says ‘no thanks we’re alright’, boy says ‘but I’m practically professional! I know what I’m doing!’ DD13 skates up to him and repeats very slowly and pointedly ‘no..thanks..we’re..alright. Did you catch that this time?’ And skated off laughing. I felt very proud!

That’s because they have 3” dicks they insist are 8”

I cant remember the writer but remember reading a piece about a woman who works in London who said a few times a week she 'plays patriarchy chicken'. She does not give way to men coming towards her. She said sometimes they just grind to a halt because they cannot quite believe you have not moved.

I really really like this. Smart thinking 😊

How to play Patriarchy Chicken: why I refuse to move out of the way for men (newstatesman.com)

And inspired an american version
How I Am Teaching My Small Daughters To Play Patriarchy Chicken | HuffPost HuffPost Personal

Whenever I’m out with my wife we ALWAYS get a random man come over to us with the worst chat ever- where we are going? how was your meal? Why are you out? Have you had a nice girls day? Why did you choose here? bla bla bla. They always become extremely uncomfortable and slope off when we say we are married. Two women can’t possibly be out together without a man intervening to “improve” their night. I’d never dream of going over to two men enjoying a nice night and try to join them. Tedious.

A guy tried to cut me up going into a small roundabout. I did not give way. Overtook me as soon as he could, drove ahead of me to where the dual carriageway narrowed to a small country lane, parked his car and when I came up behind him, got out and walked over to my window. I told him to get back in his car - but wish I had taken pictures of him.

The guy in London who was not only annoyed that I did not give way for him, but left it so late to swerve, he tripped over my wheel along case. He was even more unimpressed when I told him to stop when he was about to give me a mouthful, and told him he needed to watch what he was doing.

If I may disagree, it’s not patriarchy chicken, it’s attention dominance (not a recognised medical term)

I’m a bloke (which is subtlety different to vanilla male) and if I’m walking on my own, I’m watching where I’m going (usually because I walk fast) So I spend my time avoiding oncoming people and bouncing around like a pinball.

But if I’m walking with my wife and i’m looking at her, then I’m relying on peripheral vision to avoid tripping over people a foot shorter than me. Now, people will shift out of our way. And before I’m accused of mansplaining, this was my wife’s observation which I’m just repeating

i don’t think attention dominance is at all a conscious decision, and I’m sure there’s an interesting paper to be written

About 25 years ago and driving home from work on the motorway. My car was old and looked it. A man in a red BMW started tailgating me, though there was no space to pull in, but I did pull in when it was possible just to get rid of him. A mile down the road I was delighted to see he'd been pulled over by the police.

In my time I have had three large long haired German Shepherds. I cannot count the number of times that random men have approached me to tell me that my dog is particularly small for the breed or very narrow in the chest or not likely to grow much. My dogs were fucking huge, random men, absolutely fucking huge.

Big tall man might not have been looking low enough to spot your child. It happens. Get over it. The other man.. not sure what his deal is he sounds either nom neuro typical and that's his routine or yeah a nob.

I have tried this but the town where I live has got quite dangerous and I genuinely fear I'd get stabbed if I did it to the wrong person

Big tall man might not have been looking low enough to spot your child. It happens. Get over it.

Oh do stop. If you are out in public, you have a duty to pay attention to what is happening around you. Because it is not your world which we all happen to live in - other people have rights too.

A few years ago I stopped moving out of the way of men when walking along a pavement/corridor/etc.

Now, I am not that tall, around 5'7, but stocky and strong. It is incredibly satisfying when pig-headed men walk directly into me and all but bounce off of me.

Recently a man about a foot shorter than me was incredibly rude at the gym, for no real reason other than a miscommunication about sharing equipment. It could have been solved very easily and we were very reasonable to each other at first. Anyway he shat himself and backed down when I stood up to defend myself. Ended up in an argument and every time I see him he acts all embarrassed and weird.

I was driving on an almost empty stretch of motorway once, and a man drove up behind me at speed, then cut me up by overtaking me very closely and pulling in very sharply in front. For absolutely zero reason, and the other two lanes were completely free so no need for any overtaking in the first place. He actually changed lanes initially in order to move behind me to carry out his close-shave overtake manoeuvre. We were the only road users at the time. He just wanted to intimidate me with his car.

He was being rude and entitled and wouldn't have dared ask a man to do the same.