Random man moved my beach bag and towel from my sun lounger and chucked them on another one behind

[Winter3000]

I'm on holidays.
I arrived at the little beach early for a swim.
There are free sun loungers there for everyone to use, plenty were free.

I put my bag and towel (scrunched up)on a free sun lounger at the front, closest to the water, lay there for a bit and then went for a swim. The water is very close by.
While I was in the water, I saw a young woman, a middle aged woman and a middle aged man arrive by my sun lounger.
The 2 women lay down on two empty sun loungers next to mine.
The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger.
I saw it all.
I got out of the water went up to him and gave him a piece of my mind. Loudly. People started looking. He denied it but I told him I was watching him.
He looked embarrassed.
The younger woman said something, don't know what but it wasn't 'sorry', and I told her not to make excuses for him.
They all looked mortified.
A girl on her own nearby looked over approvingly.

It because if he was doing it to her it would be a different story he would be called an abuser.
But because shes a woman she can do it and thats ok she made a fool out her self.
Some women on here like myself have taken alot off abuse and i dont think we would take it off her if it was us being shouted at.

Bloody Russians, nicking sunloungers. Wasn’t invading Ukraine enough?

"I was pretty loud."

"I was standing there with my hands on my hips, right up in his face."

"I got out of the water went up to him and gave him a piece of my mind. Loudly. People started looking."

I am mortified for you @Winter3000 Sounds like you made a complete spectacle of yourself. How embarrassing

The worst part is, that you seem proud of it.

And to the poster who said 'men routinely display the same behaviour towards women.' Never happened to me. Nope. I have never had a man stand with his hand on his hip, wagging his finger at me, and shouting at the top of his voice, RIGHT UP IN MY FACE! because I took his sunlounger.

WTAF? 😆

Exactly

AIBU is full of posters who just love to dig straight back at the OP, no matter what the topic. Venting from their own frustrations I guess.

I'd have spoken up too! Maybe not right in his face but I would certainly have pointed out that I saw him chuck my stuff and he has no right to do that.
How did he know you didn't have a glass bottle of something in your bag that might have broken and spilled when he chucked it?

He was an ignorant selfish twat. They could easily have found a 3 set together by the sounds of it. Or moved some loungers around to make a set of 3.

😂

If you were acting like that hands on hips and shouting in my face like little miss no it you id have been in cuffs and you needing first aid.

😆😆😆 it's a bit early to be drinking!

And what if the OP specifically chose that lounger get because it was front row with a lovely uninterrupted view of the sea and doesn't WANT to sit in the row behind looking at a sweaty Russian man's head?

It was hers!!

You sound common as muck! Shouting at random strangers in public, embarrassing yourself is far worse behaviour. Your poor kids!

It is possible to speak loudly as a woman and NOT be "screaming". Such a misogynistic view that every time a woman raises her voice she is deemed to be "screaming". Or "shrill". Urgh.

Well done OP

This whole thread is a perfect analogy for current conflict and the Twitter useful idiots that blame everyone else except those actually taking someone else's sunlounger.

So well done for that OP

(I'd have shouted too but I'm racist)

Oooh. You're hard

@TellMeWhoTheVillainsAre

Ffs. Is it more "laaaaadlike" to pretend confusion than to simply say "you moved my stuff, that's unacceptable, get off my lounger" why should she pussyfoot around him looking all sorry and pathetic rather than just telling him to shift his lying arse.

That is true yes. But it's clear the OP almost definitely fit that description. (Screaming and shrill.)

It is possible to speak loudly as a woman and NOT be "screaming". Such a misogynistic view that every time a woman raises her voice she is deemed to be "screaming". Or "shrill". Urgh.

Exactly!

Im really not im scared of my own shadow but i have triggers like a lot of women
after a lot of abuse.

Im really not im scared of my own shadow but i have triggers like a lot of women after a lot of abuse.

So why would you chuck someone's stuff off a sun lounger then?

If you were acting like that hands on hips and shouting in my face like little miss no it you id have been in cuffs and you needing first aid.

How would you know the OP wouldn't have absolutely battered you or do you routinely get arrested for gbh?

@positivesliceofpie · Today 11:49

If you were acting like that hands on hips and shouting in my face like little miss no it you id have been in cuffs and you needing first aid.
And i wouldnt have cared.

Cuffs? Are you a police officer?

The kind of person who moves someone else's belongings isn't going to react to a polite request.

@SweetBirdsong no that poster means (the lack of punctuation means it's not clear) that she is so hard that after being confronting for chucking someone's stuff she would be arrested for gbh. 😆

Of course it is. I holiday alone all the time. However I'm not in agreement with her choice to be so aggressive.

@Gwenhwyfar don't bring logic into the debate!

Sure. But if your not using the lounger then it's unreasonable to insist someone else can't use it. They are for people lounging on, not bag holders for people wanting to keep an eye on their stuff at the end of the day.

This. It’s not great OP 😂

She said she shouted close to his face. That's aggressive