Random man moved my beach bag and towel from my sun lounger and chucked them on another one behind

[Winter3000]

I'm on holidays.
I arrived at the little beach early for a swim.
There are free sun loungers there for everyone to use, plenty were free.

I put my bag and towel (scrunched up)on a free sun lounger at the front, closest to the water, lay there for a bit and then went for a swim. The water is very close by.
While I was in the water, I saw a young woman, a middle aged woman and a middle aged man arrive by my sun lounger.
The 2 women lay down on two empty sun loungers next to mine.
The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger.
I saw it all.
I got out of the water went up to him and gave him a piece of my mind. Loudly. People started looking. He denied it but I told him I was watching him.
He looked embarrassed.
The younger woman said something, don't know what but it wasn't 'sorry', and I told her not to make excuses for him.
They all looked mortified.
A girl on her own nearby looked over approvingly.

Tbh you weren't using the sun longer and he moved your stuff a different available sun longer. I don't agree with the whole reserving the best sun loungers if you are not using one tbh. I think you over reacted yelling at him.

it is shitty behaviour, we don't like it when they do it. So why stoop so low when you could just say "i was using that sun lounger, i'd like it back please"

I have no issue with people being assertive. But hands on hips, in his face shouting? meh. a lack of class and not appropriate to this situation.

If we're speaking Russian though what would be approximately "shto" but i don't think I've ever heard it used like that. It usually comes with something else "shto eta?" or something.

sorry, i might use something that sounds like "izvinite pajalsta" (can't transliterate well) but my experience of actual real live Russians is the first exclamation on meeting a scene you don't like/understand is "fuck your mother!"

No point in yelling was there?

My first thought was the man saw your stuff scrunched up( your words) on the lounger and assumed they dumped there whilst owner of items went swimming not necessarily wanted lounger. Not an excuse to move them in my opinion but not an excuse for shouting and getting in his face. There are better ways to handle it. If it was my husband you were shouting at I would not be saying sorry either. This is not something to be proud about.

I'm fairness if it's the beach and you are swimming early doors and by yourself the front lounger is often best from a perspective of watching your stuff

The OP is not a Brit!

Really, when she was swimming in the pool? I can understand it if she'd give off for the day but swimming???

My point is her behaving the way she did doesn't make her come out any better.

Not sure what you're not understanding.
He could have been on his own and her behaviour would still be uncouth.

Although, a reaction from those around seems to be have been satisfying to OP, especially the look of approval.

Both uncouth.

Both could have handled it better.

Just because he did it first doesn't mean she had to too.

Are you saying she was uncouth but right?

Same here. I would have insisted he move. Bloody cheek of him.

Yeh. Was she then lying there with the two strange women?? Bizarre

And? What's your point?

Why? You could just as easily have been firm whilst being polite, and kept some dignity into the bargain.

He out then on another lounger, plenty of people hog sun beds and fuck off for hours, I am sure you know this too. Unless you live under a rock. So no. I don’t.

If I were in a similar position, I'd like to think I'd challenge him, but I'm not sure I'd have the confidence with everyone around me looking at the free entertainment! So for that reason I admire the OP.

On the other hand, I cannot think of anything worse than a sunbed on the beach surrounded by others like sardines, or around a pool either. Just me and my shyness and dislike of the "scene" I suppose.

Give me a nice shaded private balcony or patio any day.

YWBVU to shout in his face. You could of let him know politely, that you had only been swimming, and given him the chance to apologise. He obviously thought you had tried to reserve a bed - having, as you say, looked around the beach for you, before acting. You were aggressive for no reason.

No one comes out of this looking great, but I wouldn't let a minor incident spoil your day.

Brit shouting at Russian by the pool. Probably both wearing an AI wristband. Classy holiday 🤣

Oh no, I’m cringing for you - all the hands on hips/aggressive in-your-face shouting. He was wrong to do what he did but you haven’t dealt with it well - just a polite “excuse me, could you put my belongings back please,” and then move your things back to your lounger without all the embarrassing drama.

You sound like an angry toddler who can’t control their emotions and deal with things like an adult 😳

Op is not a Brit. Try reading the thread.

This. Politeness before aggression.

I’m with you op. I’m fed up with being the one who has to behave reasonably when other people act like arseholes.
He knew it was someone else’s sunbed but thought he was entitled to use it because he wanted to.
He’s a twat why should you just politely ask him to put your stuff back; he would probably have pretended not to understand you.

You obviously think this makes you sound like a strong, empowered woman, but it's actually really cringeworthy. You should be able to get your point across without the dramatics.

Bloody good for you!

All the dickheads saying you were the aggressor 🙄 is why Mumsnet is so wanky these days.

So why didn't the entitled arse who moved her stuff just use a different lounger then?

If you were acting like that hands on hips and shouting in my face like little miss no it you id have been in cuffs and you needing first aid.
And i wouldent have cared.