Random man moved my beach bag and towel from my sun lounger and chucked them on another one behind

[Winter3000]

I'm on holidays.
I arrived at the little beach early for a swim.
There are free sun loungers there for everyone to use, plenty were free.

I put my bag and towel (scrunched up)on a free sun lounger at the front, closest to the water, lay there for a bit and then went for a swim. The water is very close by.
While I was in the water, I saw a young woman, a middle aged woman and a middle aged man arrive by my sun lounger.
The 2 women lay down on two empty sun loungers next to mine.
The man hovered around for a bit, he was standing there beside my sun lounger, looked around and then chucked my bag and towel on to a different sun lounger behind mine. He made to put his stuff on my sun lounger.
I saw it all.
I got out of the water went up to him and gave him a piece of my mind. Loudly. People started looking. He denied it but I told him I was watching him.
He looked embarrassed.
The younger woman said something, don't know what but it wasn't 'sorry', and I told her not to make excuses for him.
They all looked mortified.
A girl on her own nearby looked over approvingly.

I agree. If you're so aggressive everywhere you go you're just inviting trouble.

The chap had moved a bag and a towel, that's all. I don't think that warranted shouting in his face! Few things do. Just a polite "sorry, but this lounger is already occupied" would have done.

Surely the bag already made it clear the lounger was occupied?

Cool story. Thanks for taking the time out of your holiday to tell us.

No need to get aggressive. You could have easily come back and said something like "Oh, my stuff has been moved". Look faintly confused and let him know you had been there.

He was not to know you weren't gone off for the day "reserving" your sun lounger. And does it REALLY matter? Matter enough to get aggressive and up in his face?

If you go around interfering with other people's belongings you're inviting trouble.

The way to avoid this is to rearrange all the sunloungers so you don't lay a finger on the stuff.

What is the point of this thread?

You’ve misunderstood me. ( or more likely I wasn’t clear!) I’m bemused that people have jumped to these odd conclusions! I’m on her side!

But she wasn’t confused. She saw him. Then he denied it. Why should she pantomime confusion?

He was wrong for moving your things but once I saw that was happening, I'd have perhaps said "excuse me, I'm sitting there, I'm just having a swim" and that would probably have been the end of it?

First of all, she said the man looked around before moving her stuff, presumably to see of OP was nearby. You can't reserve something and then go off about your business. Like people who rush to out their towels on loungers then go and get breakfast.

Anyway, in this case, OP had just gone for a swim, so a reasonable thing to do imo. If I were OP, I would be annoyed too. But I wouldn't have gone marching over to the man and breated him. Why not just firmly say "I was still using that lounger"? No need to go from 0 to 100. You can be assertive without losing your coil.

There's a difference between asserting yourself calmly and politely and tackling someone aggressively. The former is an adult skill. The latter is unpleasant and puts you at risk.

Does it matter, there were other loungers available, you weren’t using it and don’t own it.

I don’t get this hogging loungers all day thing even when you’re not there.

Screaming in someone’s face over a non-event like this is massive overreaction, I wonder if you would have behaved like this towards an English person.

She was there. She just went for a swim.

Geopolitical metaphor? discussions about sunloungers usually are.

You are the arsehole here. If you were not actually using the lounger, your stuff should not be on it.

Alleluia not quite sure that your towel needs a little lie down

I always find it bemusing how posters extrapolate the situation. She was aggressive, the hotel would have taken his side, she shouted in his face, she can’t just claim a sun lounger all day, she acted like she was personally attacked, she was screaming and shouting. Really?

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she did not say she was screaming and shouting

she raised her voice, i am perfectly capable of raising my voice so every one in the near vicinity can hear me without shouting and screaming, maybe other posters struggle with this 🤷🏻

on the face of it OP i do not think you were being unreasonable

“And everyone cheered “. Etc

🤣🤣🤣

I’m curious to know what you do with your stuff when you’ve been laying on a lounger and pop off for a swim?

Again with the all day thing!

It was the early morning!

Good for you, OP. Some of the replies on this thread are absurd — calling someone’s bad behaviour out isn’t “verbal abuse” ffs, nor is it “aggressive.” It’s direct. There is a difference.

Agree with PP that there is some weird internalised misogyny on display in here. God forbid a woman raise her voice!

Eh? So where are swimmers meant to put their stuff? Are they meant to go dripping around finding somewhere after they've swum?
What's the point of lounging near water if you're not going to use it?

And then everybody stood up and clapped.

🙄

Alleluia not quite sure that your towel needs a little lie down

So you take your towel & bag into the sea when you go swimming @EchoFallz? You've been to a beach right, it's not the normal.

Aren't posters here meant to be educated? Severe lack of comprehension in some...