How do you feel about women that's don't wear Make-up ?

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Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

I'm going to go against the grain here. I think sometimes it does look frumpy when you're all dressed up but with no makeup on for evening events etc. Obviously depends though ....

I probably wouldn't notice, but when I do I genuinely think wow good for them, I wish I had the confidence / looked as good with no make up!!

My sister once observed that what characterised me and my friends was that we were “all strangers to the cosmetics counter”. It’s true - I wear make-up if I’m going to a wedding or a smart dinner, but that’s about it. I can’t be bothered, and the cost of some make-up is nothing short of shocking. My sister wouldn’t even answer the door to the milkman if she hadn’t done her make-up - I find that astonishing!

I would think they were confident.

I don’t judge them at all, whatever their age. I do notice though.

I wear make up every day because I enjoy the ritual of putting it on. I find it relaxing and it gives me a chance to prepare for the day mentally. I wear makeup for me. I also think that it’s helped protect my skin over the years. I look younger than I am (with and without make up) and I put part of that down to my routines of skincare and cosmetics.

People don’t wear flesh-coloured clothes every day (they’re just for covering your modesty and keeping you warm, right?) They choose colours. Maybe bright, maybe subtle. It’s similar with make-up IMO.

As I’ve got older, I’ve found most of my female friends who don’t wear make-up either feel you have to be confident to wear it or they’d like to wear it but don’t know where to start. I only know one friend who actively chooses not to wear it on principle.

I adore make up, I’m extremely pale with roseacea and dark circles and I love how bb cream and concealer make me feel. I don’t judge people who don’t wear it, but I judge people who judge people for wearing it. I don’t understand why it bothers people that people like to paint their face😅

Wouldn’t care. Far more interested in what’s coming out of their mouths

I notice people who wear lots of makeup as it marks them out as someone I probably have less in common with and less to talk to about. On the flip side I suppose that means I'm judging people who don't wear makeup as not that. Not someone I probably won't have much in common with or get on with as well^.

Too much makeup usually indicates to me a level of preoccupation with superficiality that would mean I won't have much to talk about with that person because their topics of conversation and lifestyle is more focussed on things I don't think about and find irrelevant.^

I don’t judge. Don’t wear makeup myself.

I don't notice, or care. No judgement from me. The only thing I notice is dramatic make up that's particularly well or poorly done, otherwise I wouldn't pay any attention. I tend to wear very light make up, but not all the time.

I find it very interesting to hear how much / little pp use. Someone has said always lippie and seldom eyes which I’d never think to do but why not?

I used to wear it most times I left the house, but got out of the habit during lockdown. Now it’s just to be smart for work events, or for fun when on a night out. I’d never bother for Sainsbury’s like I used to. I don’t really think about what other women choose, unless it’s full clown face.

I wouldn't say I particularly notice if people are wearing make-up or not, or at least if I do I don't judge them on it.

I think if someone takes care of themselves and is neat and clean that is what would stick in my mind rather than whether or not they were wearing makeup.

I'm in my mid 40s and don't wear makeup, most people I work with of a similar age regularly don't either. I think it's more unusual to have natural hair colour at this age. I noticed that, and really like and admire it.

I did when I was 16/17 never went with out it. Now I'm 35 I don't wear it only on occasions wedding that sort of thing. When I do people complement how nice I look .

Apart from colour corrector under my eyes, and mascara, I never wear eye makeup because I have really really hooded eyes so it either smudges or disappears when I open my eyes!

I rarely wear makeup any more. If other people don't like that then they can Fuck Right Off😏

I don't wear it but not because I can't be bothered - I just never seemed to be able to figure out how.

I tried watching tutorials etc but it just never looked the same as theirs did. And because I am a person who doesn't wear make up, the times I do, people notice and comment and it makes me feel really embarrassed as I assume I've done it badly.

Sometimes I don't know if I'm doing it wrong or I'm not used to seeing myself with it.

But also, and I'm not being purposefully dim here but I don't really "get" make up.

I can kind of understand things like foundation and concealer if it's hiding eg acne. But on the whole it feels odd to put a paint or powder on my face that slightly alters the colour.

I know that people try to match their skin colour but if the majority of people did this to perfection then presumably you'd have no clue if they were wearing make up or just naturally had clearer skin. Judging from the comments here, most people (if they actively paid attention) would be able to tell that someone is wearing make up or not.

I don't know. When I think about it it just feels so bizarre that it's socially expected for one sex to paint their faces.

Then there's the other stuff. I've never understood blusher. I'm not sure why having red or pink cheeks looks better than not.

The contouring stuff is impressive in the sense people can make their face look a different (not necessarily better) shape and I'm impressed by their skills but that's about it.

Mascara - is having longer eyelashes better than not? Again not being obtuse but generally I think a "normal" length eyelash looks better personally - when I see people with noticeable mascara or fake lashes I notice it looks different but not better.

Eyeliner is the same. I feel like it looks odd on me. Then I become really caught up in how odd it is to add colour around my eyes. Nobody naturally has black/brown etc circles around their eyes so why is adding it a good thing?

And lipstick. Why is the colour I change my lips to nicer than the colour my lips already are? Surely it's just that it's different? If I had different colour lips, would I be wearing lipstick to change them to the colour of my current ones?

To be clear I am not insulting people who like the way make up look and I'm not saying they look bad. I'm saying that to me they simply look different to people who don't. Different - not worse and not better.

When someone's wears make up I feel the same way as I do about people having tattoos or piercings. They're choosing something they like for their appearance and that's fine. I assume they get it to express themselves and their identity. They're not getting tattoos to look more attractive right? I feel it would make more sense if it's the same for make up.

But what confuses me is the narrative that wearing make up makes you inherently look better / less tired / washed out and it's brave not to.

Does that mean that all men look tired and washed out? If so is it that "tired" is actually a normal human face? And we have become so accustomed to seeing women with make up that it's seen as normal?

I think make up makes you look like you have product on your face. Product you've chosen to present and express yourself in the same way you choose your clothes or jewellery or tattoos or whatever. Which can be cool.

I just don't agree that it's a given that wearing make-up is more attractive than not.

And I'm not just speaking about people like me who are bad at it. I'm also talking about people who are good at it. Their skills are impressive but I feel the same way as I do about someone who can do any other skill well. Is it a universal truth that make up improves their appearance rather than just changes it?

This is closest to my POV. I don't think I've ever consciously noticed a woman not wearing make up. It's not remotely on my radar, so the chances of me forming an opinion around it are slim!

I wear make up, not much, out of habit I guess. I wear less and less as time goes by, so maybe I'll not bother at all at some point!

I'm in my early thirties and hardly ever wear makeup anymore, since I had DC1 over 5yrs ago. Before that I probably wore makeup once or twice a week, sometimes more depending on what I was doing. So not every day but a lot more often than now. Now I'm just poor with money and time so it's just not a priority unless I'm going OUT or to an occasion, which is very rare, few times a year type thing. I don't care what anyone thinks particularly but I do think I look younger, brighter/less tired with makeup on than without hah.

Not the question though was it...

I'm 32 and have never worn make up apart from a eyeliner phase in my mid teens. People often tell me i have clear skin but have panda eyes lol. Interestingly my sister doesn't either and our mum wore heavy make up all the time including on her death bed ( she got us to put it on her) I hope people dont judge my face too often 🤣

I don't think I would notice if someone either never wears makeup or always wears makeup. I only notice if they switch up their look. So I wouldn't think anything.

The last time I wore make up regularly day to day was in my late teens early twenties. Both my sisters wear it every day without fail, but other than them I don’t know anyone else who does. I seem fairly normal. I’m almost 40.

My honest view is that there are a vanishingly small number of people who wouldn't look better with a little make up - so I don't know why people choose not to look the best they can.

@LizHoney I work from home and DH goes away for work so there are periods of time when I don't see anybody on some days, hence I tend not to bother. I'll generally put on a bit of mascara in the mornings when he's home as I definitely do look nicer when my eyes are more defined.