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How do you feel about women that's don't wear Make-up ?

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flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

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bringincrazyback · 16/02/2024 18:07

Speaking as someone who enjoys make-up and wears it quite often but not daily, it's irrelevant to me whether a woman wears make-up or not UNLESS she launches into some sort of preachy spiel about 'priorities', 'better things to do,' or 'there's no time for that when you've got kids/a full-time job etc' (or anything judgy that includes phrases like 'as a feminist' or 'pandering to the male gaze'😬).

In other words, I couldn't care less unless she implies her values are superior to mine.

SweetBirdsong · 16/02/2024 18:09

flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

I admire women who go make-up free, . And I have yet to see a woman without make up who looks awful. I don't have the confidence to go makeup free in public myself, even though I don't wear a lot. I just put some eyeliner and mascara on, and a bit of lippy, and tinted moisturiser ...

I have to say though, that I think most women, myself included, look better with make up on... They look fine without it, but better with it IMO. Just more glamourous, more of a glow up etc.

And don't come at me anyone. OP asked for peoples opinions and I am giving mine. I'm not going to change my mind or apologise, because someone finger-wags at me, and scolds me for saying I think women look better with make up on. I am entitled to my opinion.

bringincrazyback · 16/02/2024 18:10

Panterus · 16/02/2024 14:56

Of course I notice if someone is wearing make up. I've got eyes. It's like the faux naivety of saying of I don't see colour to prove what a completely non racist you are. You have to be wearing really excellent make up skillfully applied for no one to spot it. The pretence on here is astonishing sometimes. If someone is wearing red lipstick, it stands out a mile. It's nonsense to pretend otherwise.

However I don't judge them. If they want to wear it fair enough, if they don't fair enough. I support their choice whichever way they prefer.

I do occasionally feel saddened when I see younger women wearing lashings of contouring make up, big false eyelashes etc. The money they spend on pretzeling their natural looks into something acceptable to the male gaze could be better spent on experiences for themselves or invested for their futures in my opinion, but it is still completely up to them.

It saddens me in the same way as when I see a young woman in adsa wearing what is basically a skin tight leotard. It doesn't matter how stunningly good looking or how confident she is. She's not doing it for herself. She's saying look how much value my looks give me. You don't see men doing the food shop with their bum cheeks peeking out of a high cut body suit whilst teetering in high uncomfortable sandals. I see so many teenage girls pulling tiny lycra shorts out of their backsides. Whereas last summer I didn't see a single teenage boy doing it, they all seemed very comfy in their baggy shorts.

I wish there wasn't the pressure on women to spend a fortune and squander precious minutes of their life on a make up routine, but there is a lot of pressure.

And so while the pressure exists, as far as I'm concerned crack on, do whatever makes you feel better and whatever gets you through the day.

I think a lot of very young women are more invested in looking the same as other young women than necessarily doing it to attract men, tbh, although obviously the two things are bound to overlap.

Solocup · 16/02/2024 18:10

I feel absolutely nothing. I really don’t give any thought to whether someone else is wearing makeup. I’d expect to be in the majority.

rockwater · 16/02/2024 18:13

bringincrazyback · 16/02/2024 18:07

Speaking as someone who enjoys make-up and wears it quite often but not daily, it's irrelevant to me whether a woman wears make-up or not UNLESS she launches into some sort of preachy spiel about 'priorities', 'better things to do,' or 'there's no time for that when you've got kids/a full-time job etc' (or anything judgy that includes phrases like 'as a feminist' or 'pandering to the male gaze'😬).

In other words, I couldn't care less unless she implies her values are superior to mine.

These are my thoughts too- I love makeup but it's irrelevant to me if others choose not to wear it. I quite like that we are all different actually.

That said, respect goes both ways so unless you are rude to me about my personal choice to wear makeup, I couldn't give a toss what you choose to do.

minthybobs · 16/02/2024 18:18

Of course I notice if someone is wearing make up. I've got eyes. It's like the faux naivety

There is a HUGE difference between noticing something and forming a judgemental thought about it though. Do I notice if someone is wearing makeup or not?- yes I do as you say, I have eyes. Do I spend time forming judgements about that person as a result?- no, because why would I? Makeup to me is such a trivial, nonsensical, insignificant thing to judge someone for.

I couldn't care less if someone makes a different appearance choice to me as it doesnt affect me in any shape or form and I have other things in my life to think about than some random strangers choice whether to wear makeup or not. Just because you notice something, doesnt mean you go around perceiving all kinds of negative things because of it.

Appleass · 16/02/2024 18:19

I don't wear make up either.

chopinwaltz26 · 16/02/2024 18:21

Do men wear make up?

Predictabilitypreferred · 16/02/2024 18:21

Thinking about it I hardly know any women who wear make up any more other than female relatives age 65+. None of my colleagues do, and I have a lot of female colleagues of all ages, none of my friends do either, other than a little maybe on a night out, or my relatives under 60.
I stopped wearing make up in my 40's. I grew up obsessed with makeup (thanks Jackie magazine) and used to really enjoy experimenting, I guess I'm just over it. The best thing about getting older is not giving a shit what others think. I have no desire for anyone's approval.

LammasEve · 16/02/2024 18:22

I don't wear make , never have and couldn't give a flying fuck what people think! If my DP ever suggested I wore it, I'd be suggesting he tries it first.

Anyway in my case you can't improve on perfection 🤣 (or I'm beyond hope, no makeup could help. One or the other)

mightydolphin · 16/02/2024 18:22

I wear make-up every day but I never really think about what other women do. I do notice when the non-make-up wearers do use make-up. Sometimes they look better with it, sometimes without.

Anonymouslyposting · 16/02/2024 18:22

I never wear any so I won’t be judging!

Miner · 16/02/2024 18:25

chopinwaltz26 · 16/02/2024 18:21

Do men wear make up?

Yep.

Longma · 16/02/2024 18:26

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Fedupofcommodes · 16/02/2024 18:27

I don't wears makeup doesn't bother me if people do choose it, it's their choice. Only look I really don't like is duck bills and massive eye lashes. I find it difficult not to to stare in wonderment at how someone could do that to their face and also do an impression of the lip size.

Miner · 16/02/2024 18:28

Predictabilitypreferred · 16/02/2024 18:21

Thinking about it I hardly know any women who wear make up any more other than female relatives age 65+. None of my colleagues do, and I have a lot of female colleagues of all ages, none of my friends do either, other than a little maybe on a night out, or my relatives under 60.
I stopped wearing make up in my 40's. I grew up obsessed with makeup (thanks Jackie magazine) and used to really enjoy experimenting, I guess I'm just over it. The best thing about getting older is not giving a shit what others think. I have no desire for anyone's approval.

This must be a really regional thing I think- most women and girls I see day to day are wearing makeup, and the younger ones generally a lot more and frequently have nails, lip fillers, micro bladed eyebrows etc as well.

Juicyj1993 · 16/02/2024 18:30

I've now just read through a load of the comments and so surprised how judgey some of them are about women who do wear makeup.

I wear makeup because I enjoy the creative process. I don't wear it because I am insecure/stupid/have more money then sense. Makeup is a hobby and an art form for me. Often women you see and think are 'over made up' will fall into the category.

I don't wear makeup if I am at home all day as I like to give my skin a break, but if I'm out it's a full face all the way. I just love doing it, the same way I love scrapbooking, I'm creating a picture.

eilaka · 16/02/2024 18:31

I’d be astonished if anyone gave a fuck that you weren’t wearing makeup. If they did judge, they’re an arsewipe.

Chocolateorange11 · 16/02/2024 18:31

I probably wouldn’t notice OP, let alone think anything of it.

Frisate · 16/02/2024 18:32

I would honestly never notice or care.

FuckityFuckBollocks · 16/02/2024 18:33

I generally don’t wear make up nowadays and I find it easier to relate to other women with no makeup or minimal, natural make up.

I tend to give women with heavy make-up a wider birth and less likely to interact with them as I feel I won’t have much in common with them.

Advicerequest · 16/02/2024 18:34

I have never worn make up and it never occurs to me thst other women were judging me for it!

MySugarBabyLove · 16/02/2024 18:36

SweetBirdsong · 16/02/2024 18:09

I admire women who go make-up free, . And I have yet to see a woman without make up who looks awful. I don't have the confidence to go makeup free in public myself, even though I don't wear a lot. I just put some eyeliner and mascara on, and a bit of lippy, and tinted moisturiser ...

I have to say though, that I think most women, myself included, look better with make up on... They look fine without it, but better with it IMO. Just more glamourous, more of a glow up etc.

And don't come at me anyone. OP asked for peoples opinions and I am giving mine. I'm not going to change my mind or apologise, because someone finger-wags at me, and scolds me for saying I think women look better with make up on. I am entitled to my opinion.

I am ugly. And I look uglier with makeup.

I’ve never worn it anyway because A, it costs a fortune, and B, I have no desire to.

But when there have been occasions such as weddings etc where one might wear makeup I have been told that it’s better that I don’t because makeup will just make me look worse.

I don’t actually care. I am visually impaired and I have been blessed with the inability to be able to look at my ugly mug in the mirror 😀, but I am who I am as a person and no amount of makeup will ever change that.

Glonty · 16/02/2024 18:36

My mum never wore makeup or dyed her hair .

She got to her 70s and had lovely soft skin and a white Bob. She looked quite refined and cool to my eyes.

WimbyAce · 16/02/2024 18:38

Also mid forties, I used to wear it all the time when I was younger but rarely now. The funny thing is I actually feel more confident now in myself. I do cringe a little at some of my younger colleagues with caked on obvious foundation but I guess we've all done it!

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