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How do you feel about women that's don't wear Make-up ?

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flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

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PaperDoIIs · 18/02/2024 22:19

@cremebrulait have you been on a night out in the UK lately? If you really want to discuss the caked on look.

Sacerdota · 19/02/2024 00:06

The last time that I wore makeup was 1997 and it is completely liberating. The cosmetics/ beauty industry makes billions every year by telling us, mainly women, that we are not good- looking enough to succeed in life and that only by using their products can we somehow start to climb out of the ugly pond.
I'm 59, have very few wrinkles on my face, have none on my neck or chest and have saved a fortune as a result of not using makeup.
I'm also a lot happier in my own skin .

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 19/02/2024 00:31

I can't even be arsed to read all the replies.
How is this even a question?!
I never wear make up.
If people are judging me, I couldn't give a shit.
That's on them and their issues, not mine!

Palindrone · 19/02/2024 00:42

I never wear a ton of make-up (I don't have the skills nor the time) but I'm still too self-conscious to go entirely without it in front of anyone but close family.

Even if I'm doing the school run I always make time to do eyebrows/mascara/BB cream because I don't feel comfortable sharing my bare face.

Do I judge people who don't wear make-up? Yes, but in a positive way. I think good for them because they're fortunate not to need it and/or they're comfortable enough in their own skin to be confident without it.

NoMoreFalafelsForYou · 19/02/2024 01:43

@Augustus40
Make up protects the skin. Dries it out terribly if not wearing it.
What a load of rubbish, that's definitely the opposite of what's needed for my skin! You realise we all have different skin, right?!

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HesterFields · 19/02/2024 07:20

I'm 59, have very few wrinkles on my face, have none on my neck or chest and have saved a fortune as a result of not using makeup.

I wear make up and don’t have wrinkles on my face, neck or chest. Not sure what your point is?
I adore spending my money on beautiful make up, horses for courses, I can still buy books too (!) 🤷🏼‍♀️

43ontherocksporfavor · 19/02/2024 07:34

I have probably added protection for my skin through wearing makeup all my adult life. SPF in moisturiser and foundation etc plus in lipstick . I enjoy it just as I enjoy clothes and interiors. I also enjoy cooking , reading and teaching.

LovelyTheresa · 19/02/2024 11:15

merryatsea · 18/02/2024 12:28

I find it interesting that some have said they wear makeup because they look older without it. Perhaps they mean just a little, because I've noticed friends and family seem to wear less makeup as they age as a full face can be quite ageing. I no longer get along with heavy foundation (late 30s +) for example, preferring a tinted moisturiser or cc cream.

I exercise most days, so that probably plays a part, but nowadays for me I might wear some under eye concealer if I've had a sleepless night, or a dab of powder, to prevent shine, over moisturiser, then a good lip balm.

There's also the current fashion for a fresh faced look. The popularity of the black honey Clinique range too, which I think fits the bill there. I have the newer gloss and the almost lipstick which I prefer over lipstick for an evening look at the moment.

I agree with this. Heavy, caked on makeup is incredibly ageing. I have never gone for that look, always focussed on skincare over makeup. I am forty and I look much younger than my age. I think it is because I let my skin breathe and take good care of it.

Tallgirlsrock · 19/02/2024 12:09

I'm in my early 50's and I haven't worn make up for years, at least, not every day. If I'm going for a special night out, I may put on eye shadow, eye liner, and lippy. I have never used Foundation. I want people to see me for the person I am.
I look at people who are heavily made up and think, ok, yes, you look nice but what do you look like without all of that, or what is your skin going to look like when you are older.
All that said I would love to know how to do my eye make up properly, with liner wings and a smokey look. But, it would still only be done on a special night out.

Sunflowerinherfifties · 19/02/2024 12:18

I'm 58 I wear foundation to even out tone and to cover blemished skin but that's all its up to that person if they don't wear it why should I care

SusieLawson · 19/02/2024 12:29

I try to look after my skin so I don't have to wear a lot, and usually just wear a BB type moisturiser or illuminator, and then concealer for any marks. I order one of those beauty boxes every month and enjoy using the products. Plus use a cleansing clay face mask once a week.
I dye my eyelashes and only put on mascara if going out somewhere special.
Although I don't wear a lot of make up, suppose I still put the time in with skin care.

Biddie191 · 19/02/2024 13:05

I don't think I notice, I think I'm more likely to notice people with a lot of makeup on, to be honest. I worked with someone years ago who used to get up at 4am to do full hair, makeup etc before we left for work, in a job where most of us would just drag a brush through our hair and clean our teeth before work, and I felt quite sad for her that she couldn't face the day without it. She was pretty, clear skin but just felt wrong without it. I was happy to have the extra 90 minutes in bed (we started work at 6)

Cornishclio · 19/02/2024 13:44

I only wear make up if I am going out for dinner or to some social occasion in the evening. I don't bother if just going shopping or out walking or coffee with a friend. I never like the look of heavy make up anyway and I am 64.

Ilovecleaning · 19/02/2024 15:38

I avoided pressing ‘quote’ to avoid personal slanging matches but there are a couple of holier-than-thou judgy comments on here - ‘ I want people to see me for the person I am’? 🤮 Also plenty of criticisms for those who choose heavy make-up.
Why do some women take the moral high ground and think no-make-up is morally superior to no-make-up?
Thankfully, some of these judgy comments have already been picked up by others. I like the posters who point out that, in addition to wearing makeup, they read, cook, buy books, have careers, have horses, go to the theatre and have full and interesting lives - all whilst carrying the heavy burden of full makeup and its attendant moral issues 🤣🤣🤣

Ilovecleaning · 19/02/2024 15:41

Sunflowerinherfifties · 19/02/2024 12:18

I'm 58 I wear foundation to even out tone and to cover blemished skin but that's all its up to that person if they don't wear it why should I care

Hear hear! 😊

Ilovecleaning · 19/02/2024 15:45

phoenixrosehere · 18/02/2024 08:43

I didn’t see the caked on look when I lived in the States nor do I see it here. Most of those things I only see on SM which many should know by now is not a complete reflection of any country.

👍

cremebrulait · 19/02/2024 18:33

PaperDoIIs · 18/02/2024 22:19

@cremebrulait have you been on a night out in the UK lately? If you really want to discuss the caked on look.

Yes! On Feb 3 in Soho. No memory of caked on makeup tbh.

Hagpie · 19/02/2024 18:35

I wear make-up sometimes religiously, sometimes I go weeks without it.

I don’t think I could even tell you if a person wears make-up or not as soon as I look towards the next person to be honest.

Justifiedcheese · 19/02/2024 18:39

flutterby1 · 16/02/2024 11:34

Just wondering what your true JUDGY thoughts are? I don't wear makeup often I'm in mid forties. How am I perceived? Lazy? Frumpy? Not caring? Boring? Can't be bothered to make an effort for others ? Or confident ? Perceived as being ' pretty enough' ?

Think they're gloriously sticking it to the patriarchy!

Or they're like me, can't be arsed and/or don't want to make eczema worse.

Justifiedcheese · 19/02/2024 18:40

cremebrulait · 19/02/2024 18:33

Yes! On Feb 3 in Soho. No memory of caked on makeup tbh.

Try my small market town High Street on a Friday night...

PaperDoIIs · 19/02/2024 18:43

Try my small market town High Street on a Friday night...

Or a bog standard secondary school.Grin

HesterFields · 19/02/2024 19:07

Ilovecleaning · 19/02/2024 15:38

I avoided pressing ‘quote’ to avoid personal slanging matches but there are a couple of holier-than-thou judgy comments on here - ‘ I want people to see me for the person I am’? 🤮 Also plenty of criticisms for those who choose heavy make-up.
Why do some women take the moral high ground and think no-make-up is morally superior to no-make-up?
Thankfully, some of these judgy comments have already been picked up by others. I like the posters who point out that, in addition to wearing makeup, they read, cook, buy books, have careers, have horses, go to the theatre and have full and interesting lives - all whilst carrying the heavy burden of full makeup and its attendant moral issues 🤣🤣🤣

I feel we may be pissing into the wind with these types now!

HesterFields · 19/02/2024 19:10

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HesterFields · 19/02/2024 19:15

Biddie191 · 19/02/2024 13:05

I don't think I notice, I think I'm more likely to notice people with a lot of makeup on, to be honest. I worked with someone years ago who used to get up at 4am to do full hair, makeup etc before we left for work, in a job where most of us would just drag a brush through our hair and clean our teeth before work, and I felt quite sad for her that she couldn't face the day without it. She was pretty, clear skin but just felt wrong without it. I was happy to have the extra 90 minutes in bed (we started work at 6)

She probably felt sad for you that you didn’t make more of an effort.

see, works both ways, doesn’t it?

so patronising.

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