To feel like oldest mum?

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I have a son in year 1 who's almost 6 and I'm 40 I feel ancient at the school pick up when they're all still in their 30s

Anyone else can relate?

In September I'll be worse as I'll have another son of age 4 in reception and me still being 40 and old.

I’m 43 and have a kid in reception, yr2, yr3 & yr4 that raises a few tuts 😁. Parents under 40 are in the minority in our school, lots with older dads (50+) too. Can’t say I’m bothered, I don’t feel 43.

It’s funny, I thought I was old having another baby at 35 (after previous children teens/early 20s) and very lucky to be able to at that age (which of course I was) most of the other mums seemed 5-10 years younger. Now here I am having another baby at 44 🤣 and look at mums of 35 as still relatively young, in fact most of them seem around that age now

I was almost 44 when has mini blondes so was 48 when she went to school. March birthday

Wanted to be younger but Mother Nature didn't play ball

I'm def the oldest but who cares

I'm friends with some young mummies who had their child at 17/18

Equally others were 25/30

Think the odd one 35/38

Very true and having experienced both, there is certainly a lot more negativity towards you when you’re a parent in your early 20s. The pressure to appear to be the perfect happiest parent with the perfect child is huge at that age as everything will be blamed on your age where you are given far more leeway as an older mother. If you have money and a career you are given more respect too. A lot of mothers at the school wouldn’t even bother talking to me as a young mother until they found out I was a qualified professional, their attitude was also different when turned up driving our nice car. It was so strange to go to work and treated as a respected professional despite my age but as a mother that age you were looked down upon and assumed to be stupid

You’re in the wrong school! You’d be one of many older mums at my kids very nice middle class school.

I had my children at nearly 39 and nearly 41. I was a little older than most of the other mums, but my kids were the same age as their peers

The others only sound a few years younger than you! That’s nothing . I can’t tell clearly how old mums in my school (year 2 and lots with younger nursery siblings.) - most age 35-45 but on a school night out I was suprised which ones were at the higher or Lower end of this. The average will depend on where you live but you and the other mums sound pretty average age for a school mum. You are only as old as you feel and act !

I'm 50 with an 11yo.

There are other parents at school with same age kid older than me.

No one cares either.

You're not an old mum at all! When mine started school there were several mums in their mid to late 40s. I had mine at 35 and 38 and was nowhere near the oldest mum.

i was 43 when DC started reception. My mum friends from school were 35, 45 and 48… with the rest of the mums being somewhere in their mid to late 30s… many of them having a second child around that time.
but around where I live it is mainly women in professional roles… no one is in their early 30s or younger by the time DC start reception…

Just wow. To prove the point of the poster above

Where I live this is the norm, yes some are in their 30’s and two are in their 20’s and it was quite a nice thing. I think different age parents bring different qualities to a group.

there are plus and minuses for both, just relax and enjoy!

I feel the same, I'm 39 with a 6 Yr old and round here that makes me old! I'll be over 40 when Dd2 starts school and I'll probably be mistaken for a grandparent!! I clearly don't live in a mumsnet approved naice area 😂

surely having children mid/late 30s is absolutely normal - Ive lived in v mixed areas and yes there are younger mums of course but - baby at 35 - not even ancient!

I have the opposite issue….
I had my DD at 20, at pick up I look like a baby… 🤣 Wish I could look like a grown up!