To feel like oldest mum?

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I have a son in year 1 who's almost 6 and I'm 40 I feel ancient at the school pick up when they're all still in their 30s

Anyone else can relate?

In September I'll be worse as I'll have another son of age 4 in reception and me still being 40 and old.

Ha! I have one in Reception and one who will be starting in September just as I turn 47, and I live in an area with a much younger average ftm! Does it matter?

I was 35 When my my son was born. Didn't bother me in the slightest. Never gave it any thought. Move on. Enjoy life. Stop looking for things to worry about

I think you need to worry about yourself, not what others think.

There seems to be loads of mums complaining about their age on this site, get over it. No-one else cares. Sorry if harsh, I just dont get the "me me me".

When DS started school I was the youngest mum out of his school friendship group (30)
Then when DD started school I was the oldest out of her school friendship group (35)

It didn't bother me either way!

True. After seeing so many of these posts, I think these women just crave attention and are very bored 🤣🤣

I had dd at age 41. I'm the oldest mum everywhere but they all think that I'm five years younger than I am so I don't correct them to not stand out. Plenty have their kids late thirties in my town.

I’m 44 and my little one is in reception and expecting another baby, most of mums around here in their 30s too but doesn’t bother me, a few are in their 20s and a few of us early 40s, we all get along well. I had my first as a teenager and single parent, felt far more stigma and judgement then, even into my early 20s, got better when learned to drive and had a car. People far harsher to you as a parent if they perceive you as young and poor, woe betide you then if your baby not always perfectly content or your child not always perfectly behaved! You receive far more respect as a parent in your 30s and 40s

Where you live must be some strange enclave different to the rest of the country, nowhere else that I can imagine would think that having a child at 34/35 would be noteworthy in the slightest. Thats very odd

You may be the oldest mum in this particular group, but you’re not remotely unusual in the broader sense. Even back when women tended to have their first babies at much younger ages, it wasn’t uncommon for them to have additional babies in their late thirties or early forties. (Anyone else remember the episode of “Call the Midwife” with the pregnant mother of the bride?)

I was born when my mother was 36 and her hair was about half-gray. I never thought it was a big deal, because she never acted like it was a big deal.

My nan had my mum when she was 36, and her sister at 42. This was in the 1940s! :)

Mum had me at 41, and most women I know had kids aged 35-44.

So totally normal! Why does it matter that someone's 10 years younger than you anyway, you are both going through a similar experience. I have friends aged between 25 and 92, ( I'm 43 no kids through choice, but I know I still could if if I wanted) so you have no need to feel out of place anywhere due to your age. Especially not at the kids' school.

Well I’m both a grandma of a grandchild about to start school and an expectant mother (natural conception)

I'm nearly 49 with an 8yo. Get a grip 😂

In many areas, it's those in their early- mid 20s who feel the odd one out ...

I was 47 and a half when my youngest started school

I actually think this is becoming the norm. In my local school, the mums are split between mums in their 20s who haven't really had a career yet, and 'career women' mums in their late 30s/40s.

Don't mean that to sound judgy (because I'm not judging anybody), it's just an observation of mine.

I'm in my late 30s and because of my career, I've only just started my family, so I'm in the latter tribe.

40 isn't old to have a child in year 1 it's very common. Mid thirties is an average age to have a baby isn't it?

Was 39 when youngest in year 1, oldest I was 27!

With my first I was 25 at the school gates and definitely the youngest by about 5 years. It’s all normal OP don’t worry about it.

I had my eldest at 17 so experienced being the youngest mum, my middle at 27 so average age and my youngest at 31 so I’ll be on the slightly older end when he’s at school. There are mums of varying ages and no one looks at them any differently.

Really?

Most of my friends are 40, as am I. One of them has a daughter in reception and a toddler. She also has teenagers. Another friend has a child in year 1 and a newborn baby.

My best friend is 60, we met at baby group, our DDs are both 16. She had hers when she was 43, I was 23 and had no idea that she was 43. I assumed she was in her 30s.

My kids are both teens but most of my friends have kids in primary school and toddlers. It's quite normal, I think.

My mum was 36 when she had me so would have been over 40 when I started school. That was in the 80s so wasn't even as common then.

Oh yes, and I also know 2 pairs of mothers and daughters that have children in the same year!! So basically the older daughter and mother have been pregnant at the same time and daughter's child is same age as their sibling.

I always think that that must be quite weird but also so cool and exciting at the same time.

What?

Dd3 was a similar age when I reached the half hundred and now I'm 60 next year she likes to tell me how her friends can't believe how old her parents are (ex dh is 63). Doesn't bother me!

I had dd when I was 21 and I was the youngest mum at playgroup. All my friends were around 30. I had ds at 37 and I was one of the oldest. Again all my friends were around 30.

It’s different in different areas. At 34 with a 6 year old I’m one of the youngest.