Recently widowed dad selling family home

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My mum died in February last year. After starting dating before her funeral had even taken place, my dad almost immediately got himself a replacement servant from the OurTime dating website.

He is selling our family home, she is selling her little house, and they're going to buy a million pound house together.

He says he will put in his will that me and my brother are entitled to a quarter of the house upon the second death - the other two quarters being owned by her two grown up children.

He says he's 'protecting our inheritance' by putting it into property.
Is this true?
As far as I see it, my brother and I have gone from half each in the family home, to potentially a quarter in a house that half belongs his new girlfriend, who'll probably sell it to pay for her care costs in the end if dad dies before her.

How is this protecting our inheritance?
Does anyone know anything about the law on this?
I feel totally betrayed. I have a young son who now has no grandma, and she'd be devastated to know that everything she worked for was essentially being given to a family of near-strangers and not protected for her children and grandchild.

Feeling hopeless and hurt.

This thread has made me think. I wonder if there is anything that I should change in my will. Not for any ‘toxic’ reason. I have been with my husband for 30 years, we are in our fifties and we have no intention of splitting up. He is a brilliant husband and dad and we are a close family.

What should couples like us do? As things stand, he would get my money and nhs pension (?) if I died. I am not naive and know that nothing in life is guaranteed. Do ‘happily married’ people need to put in safeguards for their kids? I would be keen to learn from any experts. I would hate for my money to go to a new partner and bypass my children. I do not think my husband would ever do this, but you never know

@CatherinedeBourgh

Personally I'd be willing to give up all inheritance if I thought my parent would be happier with a partner in their old age, but then that's just me. I care more about people than money.

This sort of sanctimonious nonsense is meaningless. Of course most people would want their parents happy but we aren't talking about them being happy or unhappy. We are talking about them being dead and what happens then.

Nah, it's about feeling entitled to other people's money.

My father pissed away fortunes on various partners. He died and his last wife took everything that he had left.

Fair enough. She was with him for the last few years, when I wasn't. OP doesn't sound like she wants to be her father's carer, she wants someone else to do it but she wants them to do it for free.

Good luck to her. Personally, if I thought as little of someone as the OP thinks of her father, I wouldn't want a cent of their money, as it would feel tainted.

And it's no point saying that it's the OP's mother's money, if the OP's mother had wanted to do something for the OP she would have. I think a large part of the OP's grief is that she has to come to terms with the fact that her mother never protected her from her father, neither in life nor after she died.

That I can sympathise with. It sucks.

Dh and I are putting things in place even though we are both happily married and trust one another 100%.

The fact is that things can happen completely by mistake/omission. Suppose one of us dies. The other one remarries and dies shortly after, without making a will. The new partner is lovely, and doesn't want to take anything from our joint children, but has dc of their own and never gets round to making a will. Then dies. Everything will go to their dc, nothing to ours.

Yes, of course this means various people have to have been less than proactive. But putting something in place which means that that can't happen, without affecting active choices we would both want to make, strikes us as a sensible and reasonable thing to do.

thanks.

Can I ask what you are putting in place and how? Can I do a will myself or do I need a solicitor?