To know you drink too much but dont care!

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So, I am respectable professional with 2 young children and find reaching for the wine helps me deal with the stresses of parenting/work/life. I am never drunk but know I drink more than I should, I dunno if I care about it because I am happy and it doesn't affect any aspect of my life?

I don't want to hear from anybody who doesn't drink really or has give up, that isn't the point of this thread.

What is the point of this thread? Do you want people to say it’s fine even if it might not be? Don’t work out what is right for you, your health and your family based on other peoples’ choices because they might not be making good ones.

I don't want to hear from anybody who doesn't drink really or has give up, that isn't the point of this thread.

So what is the point of it?

I drink more than the guidelines and always have. I don't care. When I was a single mum that glass of wine in the evening when DS went to bed was a slice of heaven. It signified my adult evening and peace.

You will get flamed on here for this post by the way! The fact that you have posted this means you have a problem and need to join AA now! NOW! 😂

I enjoy wine and drink it every night. I probably shouldn’t, but I don’t give a shit.
I‘m a capable professional and mother and I do ok thank you very much. When I present to large room of business people or draft a contract. It seems to be the same whether I had a glass the night before or not!

If you genuinely don't care, why start a thread about it?

I did read a post which prompted me to do this, a woman is probably now left to believe she is an alcoholic. The point of it is to see if there are many other people like me?

I usually have a bottle of wine over the course of a weekend so half a bottle a night Fri/sat and maybe a bit Sunday if we are over at family’s for a roast or something. I feel that’s ok but for some reason, for me, I would feel it’s too much if I drank during the week at home unless it was a special occasion. (Unless I didn’t drink at the weekend one week I’d feel it acceptable to drink a bottle of wine during the week - basically one bottle a week I feel is ok for me at home!)

So why start a thread? You drink, and you're OK with how much you consume. Pretty pointless posting.

Because I wanted to help the women who post on here for help and they get so much abuse from people that don't drink. If anything it is here to help them :)

I’ve had two alcoholics in my life.

One died at 39, and the other is dying slowly.

Don’t kid yourself this is fine. You have kids who will be getting fucked up no matter what you think.

But if you drink to cope with life's stresses, you probably ARE alcohol dependent.

I do drink but I don't get defensive about it. Call a spade a spade.

Bizarre thread. It’s your life. As long as you’re not driving when over the limit, or allowing drinking to affect your ability to be a parent, you can do what you like. Excessive alcohol intake will almost certainly cause you some health problems later in life, but it’s entirely your choice.

Did you mean to ask "Do you know you drink too much and don't care?".

There's nothing unreasonable about asking a question.

You want to help people that drink too much??? Maybe volunteer to an addiction charity then, not encourage them.

I’m a bit like this. I’ve actually had the conversation with my GP, who was surprisingly “meh - life’s too short and we all need a bit of enjoyment”. I have a glass of wine most nights and will share a bottle with my DH at the weekend. That’s a bit too much, but it is never, ever more than that. I don’t smoke, I’m not overweight and I do a bit of exercise. So that’s my indulgence and I look at it like that.

Yes there are others like you, my neighbour drinks every day and doesn’t care either, she has children too. She has a good job and doesn’t drive but her health is not good.

Why does it help? The UK is well known for over consuming alcohol it's part of the culture. We all know people who drink too much.

Of course there are plenty of people who drink too much(!) Do what you like, you're an adult it's your choice. I don't think problem drinkers need your support to continue drinking. They're going to do what they like regardless of outside influence - just like you.

I'm with you OP. I have a very stressful job, dc with sen and other stuff as well. I have wine every night and love it. Hate being drunk and rarely go out getting pissed as I hate the lack of control but I like the relaxed feeling once the day is done. I have tried breathing exercises and yoga and running but they all just feel like another task I have to do and don't work as well.

You are worried and you do care which is why you started the thread.

Get help today.

The only thing I will say is that drinking anything above recommended limits can lead to liver disease (and many others). I’m a GI doctor and I have seen countless patients who drink too much, but ‘not that much’ (even very young people in their twenties and thirties) and it’s proven that even drinking a little beyond the advised limits continuously can lead to liver cirrhosis in certain patients. Ofcourse some people are absolutely fine - just like some people can smoke all their lives without issue. But it’s important to know all the risks.

I want to hear from the people that drink wine and enjoy it, and do not feel guilty about it

No, I am not

Seriously?