What does FWB mean to you?

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There has been a few threads across all the boards recently where people in FWB arrangements have been told they aren't FWB by other MN users. One poster said they were exclusive FWB, and was told by another poster they weren't FWB, but were in a relationship.

On this night of lurve, what does FWB mean to you?

I've read with interest as for me, my FWB and I message every day, several times a day. We see each other about once a fortnight for the weekend. I've stayed at his for 6 days in a row. We go to the cinema, to restaurants, on walks, bike rides, to pubs, day trips out to local cities. Been on 2 UK 4 day breaks together. We've got events planned in the diary up to August. We've met each others friends and family.

We talk about the stresses of life and have supported each other through some tough situations. We mostly message, rarely call. It's been this way for 18 months.

I've slept with 3 others and been on a few dates in that 18 months. He doesn't know about them. He may have slept with others. I don't know. Not my business.

It works for us.

If you're in/have had FWB, what works for you?

If you've never experienced FWB, what are your thoughts?

It can't ever be a woman enjoying great sex without the emotional baggage?

@TheCadoganArms "
It can't ever be a woman enjoying great sex without the emotional baggage?"

Of course it can. In my experience, though, it usually isn't.

Tbh, that's an individual issue with the women who do that then and not an argument against fwb specifically.

I know people (men and women) for whom fwbs wouldn't work because they fall in love or prefer sex with an emotional connection.

I have a partner now but I don't think I'd do it again if we split up because I couldn't be bothered but when I did, it worked really well.

Either a friend who you sleep with when you want sex and neither of you has a better option, or a person you'd be in a relationship with in other circumstances but there's a reason you don't want or can't have a relationship so you call it a 'friendship' so you both know not to get ideas.

You literally just private messaged me 40 minutes ago asking me what OP meant? 😂😂😂

That's a very... interesting story. OP fyi means original poster. How do you know what Feeld is but you don't know what OP is?

Unless you're a fit bloke no need to private message me for things you can just Google cheers

To me, it is a friendship where you shag on occasion.
Back in my 20s, I had 2 FWB. Didn't want a relationship with either, but just great sex.
Years later, I am still in touch with one (no shagging though). He is now in a poly relationship with a married couple and they are all very happy.

What you describe sounds about as far away from a FWB arrangement as possible. They are supposed to be fun, casual and without drama. You sound emotionally invested which kind of defeats of the purpose of a FWB set up.