MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

That's very selfish of you. She is entitled to go to a funeral. Your husband was right to step up, because they're his kids.

@tinatsarina

youre not employing her though Op. she’s not your employee Hun.

Hope that helps

@tinatsarina

Lesson to others: Always read over before posting!

LOL! You read some unreasonable stuff on here but...

'told my partner to tell his mum she can't go'

you cant tell a grown woman who is doing YOU a favour that she can't go to something.

You and your husband need to sort this out and he needs to take a day off if you have things on.

This has to be a wind up....surely parents can't feel this entitled to childcare in real life.

My work would?

but as everyone has said YABU - it’s perfectly normal to rearrange prior commitments to attend a funeral.

Find a babysitter.

YABU

Your DH is taking the day off and it's a funeral

@Fizzadora

lol

Totally this. What right do YOU have to dictate how she wants to pay her respects? She might not have seen the deceased for years but it doesn't work like that does it?
I bet OP is the sort who would 'only use family' as childcare. Have you not contemplated paying a local teenager? Agency nanny? Holiday club? Oh but nooooooo I wouldn't leave my kids with a strangeeeeeer. Pathetic.

Must be a reverse. No-one can be this much of an entitled arsehole.

Fucking hell this post is unbelievable. You told your partner to tell her she wasn't allowed to go to a funeral?!!! You sound so awful. Yes your partner needs to take the day off or you need to rearrange your interviews you nasty woman.

Not only are you being VVU you are as entitled as fuck!

It's a funeral FFS.

Make other arrangements. Take a day off work yourself. They're your DC.

Time to start paying for childcare, you sound like an utter brat.

Yabvvu - it’s a funeral fgs. Count yourself lucky that ordinarily she would provide childcare for you - some people don’t have that luxury, ever.

Another one who posts in AIBU and thinks they are totally not unreasonable 🙄

I respectfully disagree. It makes no difference how well the OP's MIL knew the person, if she feels that she wants to attend the funeral then she should go! The OP and her partner are responsible for their children, not the MIL.

I think op was a bit bored so she wanted a running popcorn commentary. Beats watching tv .

I work with two colleagues who are like this.

One who won't 'let' her mum go on holiday because it would disrupt the considerable amount of childcare she gets.

The other came into the office last year and breathlessly told us all that her mum was having the audacity to consider taking up a hobby class during the day and that she'd had to "nip that in the bud sharpish to protect her childrens' interests".

There really are people like this out there. It's dreadful.

To the very few who think people only go to funerals of people they aren't closely related to for "drama" or "a free buffet" - funerals are, in fact, more for the living than the deceased. Most go to pay their respects but there's a massive part of this being respects to the closely bereaved. Not having seen someone for years doesn't matter.

I went to the funeral of a former colleague and friend whom I hadn't seen for about 15 years. I wept more at that funeral than at either of my parents' - largely because I knew that now, I couldn't ever see him again but also for his widow (whom I also knew), who had cared for him as he slowly died from cancer. I didn't go to the "free buffet", simply to the church service.

In future you should probably request people not die at times inconvenient to you.

Of course she would get the time off, when you have annual leave you can take the day off to sit in your arse and it’s none of your employers business. Would it be paid bereavement leave? No, but that’s irrelevant. Your husband can take the day off so it’s such a non issue and so entitled to think the other parent should never have to facilitate situations like this.

Pay for childcare in future. Simple.

2 hours in and we're on page 9, we'll done op with this, must be a reverse or a wind up.

WTAF???? Of course you’re being unreasonable, it’s a funeral. I can’t believe you have such little self awareness you had to ask!

I don’t think this is real. No one can be this much of a dick in real life.