MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

Funerals take 3-4 weeks to arrange usually.

And it's not a relative or friend.
Why did she agree to childcare?

That is absolutely dreadful

It doesn’t work like that. I’ve got people in my life I haven’t seen for years for many different reasons but I’d still want to go to their funeral. People need to go to funerals for all kinds of reasons, including respect for the deceased and their immediate family.

Maybe your parents can take time of work

It still amazes me to come across people so entitled. Of course YABU, very much so!

It is - and unfortunately the majority of my team validate them. A couple of us are like "your poor mum" but we just get told we don't understand 'cos we don't have kids.

Only 2 out of 10.

Blimey. Read back your posts. Horribly unreasonable.

YAB very very U. Bloody hell.

Maybe you could ask them if they could change the date of the funeral to suit you?

Jesus YABVU.
Also who are you to 'Tell' MIL she's not going......she is an adult who owes you fuck all. Pay for your childcare if you have an issue

Get a grip woman! Your children are not the centre of the universe!
Totally and VERY unreasonable of you

I think I’ve cracked it.

Ask MIL, very nicely, if she wouldn’t mind asking the family to rearrange the funeral for a day when you’ve not got interviews.

It’s not the deceased’s fault for choosing the wrong day to die as several posters have mentioned; it’s the family’s inconsiderate behaviour for putting it on this day.

And I’m interviewing somebody on Monday called Tina and I’m wondering if it’s you.

Of course YABU.

Suck it up or pay for childcare

YABU

You are absolutely right OP - tell her she can't go this time because it's not convenient. She'll be able to go the next time he dies, what's the problem.

Idiot.

Who the hell are you to tell MIL that she can't go to a funeral? Get over yourself you entitled piece.

No, they don't! In your experience maybe - but a friend died recently and his funeral was within the week.

How dare you assume that your MIL is there for your personal convenience - she's not going off on a random 'jolly', it's a funeral. She's not your slave and if I were her, and got to hear about your indignation, I'd tell you where to stick your childcare arrangements.

You are behaving like an entitled brat. Grow up - they're YOUR children.

If I were your MIL I don't think I would offer to help you out again. You are very entitled.

Crikey!! This is obviously extenuating circumstances, I would expect your husband to take them on this day.

Yab massively u, but if you didn’t know that then there isn’t much hope

YABU

It’s a funeral.

Someone died.

You’ve got job interviews and a husband able to take the day off.

Your kids are your responsibility.