MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

I can't believe this isn't a wind up.I really feel for these poor women, who for purely altruistic motives, give up their precious time to look after grand children and are so unappreciated.
There's a lesson there for all of us.

How horribly entitled you sound.

Actually I used google but nevermind.

In this case it's valid as it provides context. I normally wouldn't do this but this poster is especially entitled in this case. And a few are unbelieving her already.

Wow, YABVU!

@tinatsarina - when my mother died last year, people who hadn't seen her for years - decades, maybe - came to the funeral - and this was friends, not family, too.

Your MIL wants to go to the funeral to pay her respects, and to support her family - I'm sorry, but that matters FAR more than your childcare - especially as your dh is willing to take the time off to look after your dc.

Please give your head a wobble - you are sounding spoiled and entitled.

If MIL was employed then she would ask for annual leave. I think you are being a tad unreasonable here

This is probably the easiest YABU that I've ever come across on this forum.

Entitled and spoilt I'm afraid.

You're being wildly unreasonable. Your poor MIL and your poor partner having to ask his MIL not to attend a funeral. Use paid childcare if you need reliability. Family childcare is a benefit, but they have zero commitment.

Having read your other replies this must be a wind up but if not yes you’re being very unreasonable. Time to start paying for your childcare!

of course they would, even if she had to take annual leave.

@BIossomtoes MN does allow it and in this case it does seem to confirm that this is a real AIBU, unbelievable as it is. So OP is getting the correct feedback, rather than a lot of "this cannot be true".

It depends on if she actually knew him or not. It sounds a very tenous link through about 3 families but they might have been friends.

You should be utterly ashamed of yourself

Op, if you are for real I hope you read the responses on here and really think about your (entitled and unacceptable!) behaviour here. And make some changes to be a nicer person!

Seriously? My sister in law has been part of my life for 20 years, I know all her siblings well, I would absolutely be at her brothers funeral to support her. How sad to not be able to imagine that some families are that close. IME it's not particularly unusual either.

How rude - you I mean, not your MIL.
Seriously you want her to miss a funeral so your DH doesn’t have to take an afternoon off? Or so you don’t have to pay for an afternoon of childcare?

Wow, of course she should go. It will mean a lot to her SIL and brother for her to be there to support them, do you seriously think she should not go just so that you, your parents and your husband can attend work uninterrupted? You could also consider paying for an emergency nanny or childminder. And if she worked it would be likely they’d give her time off for a funeral, it would probably be unpaid but they would grant it

do you hang out at funerals of people to bitch about them....that's really odd you must have strange family

How strange that just because i have observed this happening, you assume I subscribe to this and that I have a strange family.
That leap to conclusions is dangerous

Does she not want you to get a job if she's deliberately trying to stop you interviewing?

YABU

Wel if she is, she’s entitled to paid time off, so I hope OP will be paying her to attend the funeral, because these arrangements go both ways, right OP?

Just so that you know, in civilised society

1. men don't get to tell women where they can go or what they can do with their time

2. your partner's mother is not automatically a member of your personal staff

3. if one parent can't look after the children, it generally falls to the other parent

4. nobody owes you child care, free or otherwise.

HTH.

Isn't there a half term holiday club you can use ?

You think she killed someone off just to time the funeral for the day of the OPs interviews?

Don't be ridiculous