MIL wants to attend funeral but is supposed to be my childcare

[tinatsarina]

So my MIL has the kids for me next Monday while I have 3 job interviews that afternoon. she's now told me she has to attend her sister in laws, brothers funeral. My parents both work so can't cover my childcare (half-term here). Told my partner to tell his mum she can't go but he said she's entitled to and people don't owe me anything. He's now potentially taking the day off even though she had already agreed to the childcare first AIBU to be annoyed that they are prioritising this funeral over the childcare?

Wow did you have an empathy bypass? Grow up!!! There’s already a solution, your DP is taking the day off, so stop moaning like a little child. The world doesn’t revolve around you.

She isn't paid childcare, she's not bound to you like a slave they are your children and she's helping you .....are you going to threaten removing access next? You know you can take time off too don't you?

from pps, OP is in NI - is it not the same protocol for funerals there as in South of the border?

You can't be serious?

Do you pay her? If not, she is helping you out and you should be a damn sight more grateful.

Yabu

I'm thinking you are winding us all up @tinatsarina as I cannot believe someone could be so entitled and selfish and up their own arse.

It's half term.

Or a reverse.

People do take time off we have 120 coming to one next week next most work many travelling the length of the country and not seen the deceased for years . .your getting more and more unreasonable by each update.

You told your husband to tell her she "can't go"...I guess slavery isn't over😭

Next thing is to make your husband cut her off😭

I'm sure you know that YABU by now, so I'll skip that bit.

What I want to understand is why your husband - that is, your child's other parent - wasn't the first option for childcare. After all, your son/daughter is his responsibility as well as yours.

Why? How would attending an unknown person's funeral be a good activity for the children let alone the bereaved having the funeral turned into holiday fun for strange children. Have you ever lost someone close?

Surely this isn't true
I've never come across anyone as self entitled as you appear to be.
Tell them at your job interviews I'm sure they'll be impressed with your compassion, selflessness and organisational skills.

This is a wind up or reverse I assume? I cannot believe anybody could be so unbelievably entitled!

The world does not revolve around you and your childcare needs, they are the responsibility of you and your partner! Have some empathy, and self awareness about how you are coming across, she is attending the funeral of a family member! You should have been more organised and not agreed to 3 interviews in a day. Cannot believe what I've just read!

Yeah, life's tough, 'ain't it?

(Is this a case of the 'half-term, not very intelligent' jokers posting here?)

Either a princess or a troll fairy tale

Yes, NI would usually be within 2 to 3 days too.

@Georgyporky - in Ireland we have funerals within three days depending though increasing to 4 or 5 days due to avlaibility. I have been to funerals in uk that have been or 4 weeks after died, from reading MN i believe this is quiet normal
Regarding OP i am in shock, if i was your husband i would give you a good kick up your backside, do you realise how privilege you are to have childcare from your MIL and for free. Your husband is asking a day off ( something you have to do when you have children ) Here's an idea pay for childcare then!

Of course YABU! You must be able to see that!

This has to be a wind up surely?

How do you know what the shared history may be? That is their family relationship but they could have been great friends. You have an odd idea of both looking after children....hey let's watch nanna weeping while a coffin goes through a curtain....and grief....do you hang out at funerals of people to bitch about them....that's really odd you must have strange family.

Who the hell are you to tell her she can't go ? You sound an insufferable entitled prat and i am only using prat because i really can't say what i would like to.

Fucking grow up. Your DH is taking time off....your DC, yours and DH's responsibility, no-one else's. If I was your MiL I'd be stopping the Monday childcare altogether.

I really hope that you fail all your interviews.

Karma.