To think someone saying "PLEASE?" Is irritating when you ask them to do something

[bottomsup12]

Firstly let me start by saying yes I know manners are good and cost nothing etc..

HOWEVER, there are a couple of occasions where I think it is rude to respond to someone who has forgotten to say please with a sarcastic "PLEAAASSEEE" when you ask them to do something.

The first occasion is, you are asking them to do something mutually beneficial, that you shouldn't even have to be asking in the first place. Like can you set a load of washing on? PLEASE.... no I am busy doing the dishes why am I even having to ask you.

The second occasion is simple forgetfulness, "can you pass me the remote" PLEASE.....

It's so aggravating..... AIBU to feel slighted and irked by that?

Can you put a wash on i would probably not add a please on end all time if asking dh. can you pass the remote i would say please too though and thanks when passed it. But a lot of it is also down to tone of voice, I may walk in from work and say to dh , would love a coffee but no please but if cane in and said do me a coffee now even with a please that would be rude, its just basic politeness and comprehension of the english language.

I have also been told of for not reading whole thread .😅

The point is not bothering (for whatever reason) to read/ follow a thread before plonking a comment down is probably as jarring to me as not using “please” after every simple request is to you.

I agree if you’re teaching toddlers basic manners then reminding them about being kind with “please” and “thank you” is a good start.

Manners/courtesy/respect in an adult relationship takes many forms- its often just as much conveyed by actions, attitudes and behaviour as well as language. Id include treating each other fairly- sharing the burden of running a home in there!

@p1ppyL0ngstocking Hard agree with what you said. She shouldn't have to ask in the first place, she certainly shouldn't have to do it especially nicely.