People who shorten your name.

[Tetsuo]

I have a name that wasn't unheard of in the 70s, it wasn't popular but it wasn't a complete rarity.

A shortened version of my name became Very Fucking Popular in the 00's but was used before then.

I have never been known as the shortened version of my name, I do not introduce myself as the shortened version of my name. The only people who have ever presumed to use a shortened version of my name are men both professionally and personally who are introduced to me, and then, for some reason, chose to call me by the shortened version of my name.

I obviously correct anyone who does this.

And I have taken to calling anyone who does by a shortened version of their name. No matter how stupid it sounds.

I was going to finish my post with a; 'But why do they do it?'.

I know why they do it.

They need to stop it though.

It's very annoying.

I don't get all the "just tell them you don't like it" posts. Op literally says in her op "obviously I correct them"

How does this make op the impolite one? People have been told to use her full name and chose not to. RUDE

Op I have a 2 syllable name I loathe the 3 letters shortening. It's fugly It's not me and NO don't call me that name. I don't like my name much as it is but do not call me Lon! 🤑

It's rude if you continue after being told not to. Doesn't matter if your intention is nice. Once you are told to stop you are rude if you don't.

Also Abigail imo is MUCH nicer than Abi. I know 3. 2 known as Abigail and one as crumbs! (Yes a story behind that one) none of the 3 I know are called Abi.

I also once knew an Abigail called Abbey spelled like that.

I have a traditional name and always used the full version. I have friends who have nicknames for me, they aren’t the traditional shortened versions, ones made up for me.
My BIL insists on using the popular shortened version, he also tried to get others to call me it. Thing is, it’s not my name and never has been. He will ask if people have started calling me it yet? No, I’m 50, why would they.
We aren’t close at all, he’s not really in the position to start changing my name.

I get this a lot. Have an easily shortenable name. Think Jacqueline to Jack (not that but that kind of thing).

It doesn’t bother me at all when it’s people I know well but I find it incredibly presumptuous when people do it on first or second meeting.

It’s as if they are saying: “I don’t know anything about you and I don’t really care about your opinions, preferences or likes I am just going to slot you into the nice easy Jackie box.”

This doesn't happen to me much really because I have a generally unshortenable name - Sarah. Except for an old friend (who always liked to shorten people's names), who tried calling me "Sar" (say-r) one day. Nope. Not responding to that!

Is it an English thing?

Im the only person in my (very large) work team who isn’t English and they all shorten everyone’s names.

They shorten my name and to be honest my best friends and family don’t even do that, but I quite like it… it’s endearing!

My name is the opposite, in that I only use the very shortened version. When people say "oh, is that short for..."and then list all the possible names it could be (quite a few) I find it maddening. I am somewhat guilty of shortening friends names, not necessarily with their consent. I've never been called out about it though. Like David would probably get called Dave sometimes, Peter Pete, Victoria might be Vic etc, if I was quite comfortable with them. Only in conversation though. I would not do it to colleagues or strangers. I get the annoyance though so I guess I should try and curtail it. For me is a sign of affection, but I would see it could be taken wrongly.

I disagree. It is rude to take it upon yourself to change someone's name.

DM disliked name shortening so much she gave my DSis and me one-syllable names (no middle names either). DB has 2, think Owen, and even then some people used to call him O.
Can't win.

I totally get you.

You should never call someone by something they have not introduced themselves to you as! And ffs, don’t assign a nickname to another person. If they haven’t introduced themselves as that name to you, call them what they introduced as.

I have a one syllable name that is impossible to shorten. So people lengthen it instead.

I'm a Kelly, most of my friends will call me Kel, which is fine, but I hate it when people who don't know me well (or at all!) call me Kel!

I get this too sometimes - well an irish version - getting called by my surname instead! My name really can't be shortened.

I hear people shorten by boss's name All The Time. Think Russell - oh he must be called Russ! - type thing. I asked him and he said he never ever goes by the short version but fellas just do it.

I get the surname but only by guys. It's like it's such an overstep to do so that it must mean huge arm shakes of friendship!

I think it's a blokes version of a term of endearment!

I have a name that can be shortened a few ways. Only strangers and my ex husband call me the long version
Family call me one shortened version and friends the other.
I'm not uptight about any of it though.

My name can be shortened but I don't mind it being shortened. Feels less formal. However I have a child whose name could be shortened to a nick name. Not like David to Dave. More like Malcolm to mal. And I hate it!! I don't know why people do it. It's not his name and when I ask him he says he doesn't like it. He prefers the full version. It's rude and presumptuous

@Glitterybee yes I think it is perhaps a English speaking countries thing. I know Australians. NZ brits and Americans who does this with ease and little thought.

I grew up in Scandinavia and we called our friends by their full names almost all the time. The odd nickname here and there only 1 has stuck into adulthood (to the extend this guy got married with the vicar using this name in the speech-not for formal wows)

My name is four letters long !! And yes some peopl still try to abrivate it . Also it’s an uncommon girls name so they also ask what it’s short for and start using those names. !!! It’s not hard to use a persons preferred name and to part of our identity . Given to us mostly by our parents who have loved us since day dot . Just use our names !!!!!

Can I call you Abs?

I've always wanted my name to be shortened or to have a nickname. I don't ever shorten or change someone elses name though.

I hate it when people use the long version of my name. I feel like I'm in trouble or they don't feel comfortable enough around me to shorten it. Maybe that's my own anxieties though!

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I have this too. If they persist in using the version I’ve asked them not to, I refuse to answer to it. That’s worked every time

No.

That would not be cool.

I don't get this at all. My name has been given to me by my mam and dad, so I get why they always call me by the full version. Other than that as far as I can tell it is up to others how they address me- nicknames in my view belong to the nicknamer rather than the nicknamee. Similarly all the 'i want to call my child Edward nickname Eddie' is nonsense as nicknames come organically in life not set in stone. Genuinely do not get the angst about people affectionately choosing to nickname or shorten a name which is what seems to mainly be the case.

Steee

Bizarre! 😆