People who shorten your name.

[Tetsuo]

I have a name that wasn't unheard of in the 70s, it wasn't popular but it wasn't a complete rarity.

A shortened version of my name became Very Fucking Popular in the 00's but was used before then.

I have never been known as the shortened version of my name, I do not introduce myself as the shortened version of my name. The only people who have ever presumed to use a shortened version of my name are men both professionally and personally who are introduced to me, and then, for some reason, chose to call me by the shortened version of my name.

I obviously correct anyone who does this.

And I have taken to calling anyone who does by a shortened version of their name. No matter how stupid it sounds.

I was going to finish my post with a; 'But why do they do it?'.

I know why they do it.

They need to stop it though.

It's very annoying.

If you think that's bad Stephen off Hollyoaks was shorted down to Ste

We called DS a shortened name as we knew it would probably be shortened by him and others. I was amazed that even teachers tried to lengthen it, even when corrected by DS, they seemed to insist he was wrong. Even when I corrected them, one teacher told me I was wrong and his name was short for xxxxxxx, I firmly told her it was also short for zzzzzzz, but neither were his name.

I think most people shorten names to show familiarity, and friendship, and don't generally mean any harm by it. But it would be rude to continue doing so if someone said they did not like their name being shortened. I tend to use my shortened name day to day, and my full name for appointments and business. But that's just me.

Born in 1950, friends were Jennifer and Susan,that's what they were always called. I had a short name,3 letters, incorporating the letters of my parents name. No-one shortened names. DH relatives kept adding different letters, some informed me that this was the correct spelling!!! Got so fed up with it,one Christmas I added these 2 letters on to every single one of their names! They never did it again. Seems weird to me all these posts on here, baby will be called X,so what will Xs nickname be. Usually a shorter version of their actual name. My neighbours insist on shortening DH, name,(think Ed or Ted for Edward) so I say "yes, Edward is out playing golf" or whatever he's doing. They aren't our friends, and it seems cosy, when our relationship isn't.I have a cousin of 97 think Arabella,saw her recently and she was absolutely fuming someone called her Bell. Three of my DKs have names you cannot shorten, the 4th it never has been shorted.

There are a few common abbreviations of my name, one of which I use and another of which I hate. I don't necessarily mind when people use the one I hate once, I just correct them and it should be no big deal. Sometimes I encounter someone who still persistently uses the one I hate. It's a decent litmus test for someone who doesn't respect you and isn't worth making friends with.

And me. Carol. However I do get called Ca sometimes.

Never bothers me, it's a form of affection.

If I want to raise my blood pressure I'll make sure it's over something important.

your name, your choice... those people are just rude! It doesn't matter if every single other Abigail goes by Abi!

I have the opposite problem that my name is often lengthened. So say I introduce myself as "Vicky" and get "Victoria"... grrr

Worse still is the spellings... especially if on an email I've signed off as "vicky" then get a reply to "vicci"!

It's obviously not the end of the world, it's just rude and annoying. I would deal with it by treating them as if they're a bit thick - slowly saying "No I said Ah-bii-gailll"

And if your name was Abigail you would be free to call yourself Abi. But it's not for you to decide which name is nicer for someone else.

The individual has the right to decide what they want to be known as. Bollocks to creating familiarity or bonds. People calling me by my actual name hasn't affected that. But people insisting on calling me a name that isn't mine and I actively dislike being called certainly has.

I HATE this. I'm a Jen but ok with Jennifer. I HATE Jenny. If I was a Jenny I would introduce myself. Stop adding letters to my name!!! I always ask people what they go by because I am not an asshole! x

A name is personal. It’s part of your identity so I can totally understand your frustration.

i don’t like my name being shorten unless I’ve given permission. If people attempt to shorten my name, I tell them that’s not my name and correct them every time.

I wonder if part of it is how or where you are brought up. My side of the family don’t shorten names at all, whilst my DH side seems to immediately shorten your name regardless. So for example if you were called Susan or Robert, my side would call you that, whilst my DH side would be calling you Sue and Rob.

What does annoy me more is people misspelling my name, even when it’s been pointed out to them that’s not how it is spelt. There’s been an increase in people doing this since a celebrity has been on the scene who has same name but spelt slightly differently.

You don't need to write your posts in the style of free-verse modern poetry, you know.

My name is also Alison. When I was little my mam would correct anyone that called me Ali. I hate Ali and so now I correct anyone that uses it though to be fair it's not that often and funny enough only men who I've had to correct.

DD has a name that sounds ugly when shortened. From a very early age she would insist that she be called the full name ( she still does). When her new Headmaster at primary met her for the first time he greeted her by the short version. My little 7 year old bundle of sass replied "hello Dave". The HT responded quite sternly with "my name is Mr Smith and that is what you will call me". DD's response "well my name is xxxxx but you didn't call me that did you?"

I also find it very odd that (on MN at least), when the subject of surnames being changed is often met with howls of "but it's your name why should it be changed" but first names are not given the same "respect". If a person wants others to use their full first name then it's not up to others to decide that they won't. If someone introduces themselves as "Amanda" then to call them "Mandy" is, IMO, disrespectful unless "Amanda" says it's OK.

I have opposite problem. I have always referred to myself by a shortened version of my name ,and have never been called the long version by anyone.
A very close relative has started calling me and referring to me by long version.
It really pisses me off and it’s such a personal thing.I actually find it quite insulting .

Gawd, how would you even say that?

Bravo to your daughter! 👏👏👏

I called my neighbour by a shorted version of their name as I misheard them when they introduced themselves.

Over a year and a half later I asked, "silly question as we've lived next to each other for almost two years, but is your name [shortened name] or [full name]?" The replied it was the [full name] and I apologised for seeming overfamiliar! 😆

My mum gave me a short name so people wouldn't shorten it, but she spelled it differently, so people either say or spell my name wrong 🤦

Mine and my partners names get shortened to the first syllables. I don't mind it from parents siblings partner and his parents no one else. Most of the time it's the full name just the occasional "pet" name

I wanted to give my daughter a name that we liked in full but could be shortened if she wished. It's a long name and can be first three letters XYZy/XYZie. Our preference currently is the full name and she corrects you if you don't occasionally we and nursery use XYX normally when trying to round her up to go somewhere and I've said her name so many times its become redundant. She does not answer at all to the y/ie names and I don't think she will ever go by them.

My sisters both have similar names that can be shortened to 3 letters, add IE/y or full. One goes by 3 letters the other does full name and initial in written forms of communication - I think mostly to prevent butchered spellings!

I am.

Aware.

That one's

Way of communication

Can be misconstrued

By others.

I agree with @Deepmore

I have a name which can be shortened to a variety of shorter variations. There's one variation that I hate with a vengeance.

If people call me by it, I simply say, "I don't like that name, you can call me any of the other variations, just not that one please".

It doesn't wind me up or irritate me.

You don't agree with @Deepmore, Deepmore would not take your preference into account.

Deepmore would tell you to accept that whatever anyone wants to call you is absolutely fine and dandy.

You have to correct them every time

I do it

"Hi I'm Danielle"
"Hi Daniel"
< inner sigh >
"It's Danielle"

Goffman, presentation of the self. Inner and outer stages are what we present to people and who is allowed access to private parts of our personalities.

I feel touched when people shorten my name. We obviously disagree so carry on

Well I have to thank you for an introduction to the sociological works of Irvine Goffman, and his theory of Dramaturgy.

Which will now be filed under 'vaguely interesting factoids about the world' and is now knitted into me neural Web.

It is also filed under 'Reasons I didn't study sociology' (that's a big file, so it may get lost along the way).

However, it is always edifying to be able to shoe-horn references to your Sociology Degree into any conversation.

So, Well Done. Gold star and all that.

I am very pleased that not only do you not care about what people call you, but that I have also facilitated your use of Irv Goff in a casual discussion.

Thank me later.