People who shorten your name.

[Tetsuo]

I have a name that wasn't unheard of in the 70s, it wasn't popular but it wasn't a complete rarity.

A shortened version of my name became Very Fucking Popular in the 00's but was used before then.

I have never been known as the shortened version of my name, I do not introduce myself as the shortened version of my name. The only people who have ever presumed to use a shortened version of my name are men both professionally and personally who are introduced to me, and then, for some reason, chose to call me by the shortened version of my name.

I obviously correct anyone who does this.

And I have taken to calling anyone who does by a shortened version of their name. No matter how stupid it sounds.

I was going to finish my post with a; 'But why do they do it?'.

I know why they do it.

They need to stop it though.

It's very annoying.

Well you seem to think that calling people whatever the fuck you fancy is fine.

So...

There's n'owt to deal with as far as you're concerned.

Stat.

No I don't feel calling people whatever you fancy is fine.

If somebody introduced themselves as Michael, it would be rude to call them Cuntface. Calling them Mike not so much.

The simple point is that someone else's name is not yours to make decisions about. They told you (general you) their name, if they want it shortened they'll probably say so, or say they don't care. If I don't know which version someone prefers (say if I've heard other people use different versions) I'll ask. It's a pretty basic courtesy to get someone's name right.

OP: I don’t like being called the wrong name.
Deepmore: You should like it and you make Mumsnet an awful place.

Ignore me and I'll go away.

Why would I want you to go away?

😄

Look @Deepmore.

You obviously have your thing.

I get it that it is what it is for you.

I sympathize OP. It’s only ever men that have randomly decided to call me “Ellers.” I mean you can call me Elizabeth, or Eliza, or Ellie like most people do. I’d even accept Elle. But you may not call me fucking Ellers. It’s not even a name.

Yes!

Why are you calling me that?

I never said you could call me that.

It's not my name!

Don't fucking chose to diminish me by your choice of name.

Do Not Chose My Name.

I chose my name.

Not you.

It's pointless yelling at MN about this, you need to tell the people who keep shortening your name. If you've told them you don't like it and they keep doing it anyway then yeah, they're bellends.

Some people will probably do it even more just because they know it annoys you. But if you let it get to you, you're doing yourself a disservice. Tell them how you feel and if they don't care, stop wasting your time and breath on them.

I get it can be annoying, but surely the vast majority stop once you’ve corrected them. The repeat offenders are terrible but there's no need to be passive aggressive about it, just reiterate your name and that you don’t like being called Abi.

I'm the opposite I have a name which is completely unshortenable (I don't think that's even a word but that's another story) (Clare) and I absolutely hate not having another opinion. I've never forgiven my Mum and Dad for calling me Clare.

I have a fairly common name and some men do this - like Tina to Tee. It is annoying. My Dad also has a widely used name and it irritates the hell out of him when people/men do it - like Stephen to Steve. If you tell people what your name is, it is rude to shorten it- unless close friends or family (and even then it's rude if you don't like it).

See I’m the opposite and I actually hate my full name and only go by the shortened version. It’s hard to pronounce as it’s a very uncommon name (I’ve never known anyone with the same name) and I used to hate having to correct people of the pronunciation so I’d just tell them to call me the shortened version. My mum used to go mad when I was called the shortened version and correct people.

It bothered me so much that when my mum passed away I changed it by deed poll so the shortened version was my first name and the second half my middle name.

Now people try and shorten my first name and it’s only 4 letters! They shorten it to a name that’s unisex but I’d usually associate it with a man so I don’t like it. It’s frustrating! Why can’t people just use the correct name? It’s not difficult and quite frankly it’s rude.

People shorten my name to just the initial. I get called J a lot. Josette obviously not my real name, but my name does start with a J and is similar.

It seems to go Josette, Josie, Jose, and J.

I prefer Josie. I introduce myself as Josie. It is interesting who automatically shortens it.

I don't blame you for being annoyed... DH has a name that is often shortened but he goes by the long version, and I've been staggered listening to him introducing himself:
(not his actual name)
'Hello, I'm Steven'
'Hi! Do you prefer Steven or Steve?'
'Steven'
''Ok, nice to meet you Steve'

Just -why? So rude...

My line manager at work constantly shortens my name to the wrong thing.

Example (not my real name) - Elizabeth. Shortened by me to Eliza. She calls me Beth.

I’ve pulled her up on it multiple times and she just says ‘oh sorry.’

Drives me crackers. But then this is the same woman that told of two members of staff for taking their lunch break the other day! So she’s just a twit in general.

I agree OP, it's rude, disrespectful and lazy.

I understand- and I agree it is usually men.

I hate this. DH does this from time to time with people and I can't stand the over familiarity of it, it makes me cringe.

Sometimes I get momentarily confused thinking he's known them for years rather than the actual 20 minutes since we were both introduced. Awful.

So I hate it on other peoples behalf, but actually go by a shortened version of my own name (although still full name in its own right) and bloody hate people using the long version.

I work with mostly women, and it happens to me. One male colleague apologised for using my full name. I pointed out I never shorten my own name and they were taken aback. What annoys me more is there is more than one person with my name. So they write Lyn S., Lyn T., etc. just write Lynette and we'll all know it's me.

This

They mostly hear your name said by other people when you are not there

If some of your colleagues already call you Abi, others are just repeating what they heard

You can correct them but I'm just saying they are probably not all individually deciding to change your name, they think it is your name because that's what people call you.