DH gave DD chips and crisps! AIBU?

[WonderWanderer]

DH took our DD out today at around 2pm. DD had lunch at 12.00. A sandwich and some fruit. Whilst out, DH bought DD some crisps before swimming and then a portion of chips after (at about 5pm). After this, they were going to an event which was supposed to have food for the kids but unfortunately, it had run out by the time they arrived. DD told DH she was hungry and the only thing you could buy there was crips, so DH bought her a pack to tide her over. DH gave DD a decent meal when she got home just after 8.

DD is 7 and in my opinion, going 8 hours whilst out and about and on the go, and having 2 packets of crisps and a portion of chips is not okay. I said to DH that he should have left the event when he realised they had no meal for her and got her something decent and then they could have returned. Or alternatively, he should have told me when we spoke on the phone as I’d have come and collected her and given her dinner.

DH thinks I am being completely overboard. He says he knows it wasn’t ideal but that she was fine and had a good meal when she got home.

Am I being OTT with this? Happy to be told I’m wrong if that’s the case.

She does if you read all of the OPs posts but if it makes you feel better continue the pile on.

You are being completely overboard.

This wouldn't bother me.
Always have food in to rustle up a quick tea. As long as she didn't go to bed hungry, I think he did okay.

What a shame that people don't read the updates.

Op - I hope you're OK

Just quoting so your last post is towards the bottom OP.

Don't worry about it - you're going through something scary, and rather than release that fear as anger towards your family you came here and avoided doing so. So all things considered, there have been way more daft threads done way more frequently 😊You're grand.

I'm sorry you're going through a rough spot, I'm sure if you started a new thread (not in aibu) focusing on that, you will be surprised how much support is here for you. But regardless, you deserve to get support from somewhere, so please dont struggle in silence! Hope things resolve for you.

It seems fine as a one off. She had lunch at 12, left at 2, got home at 8, so 6 hrs. And she had 2 packets of crisps and a portion of chips. So she's not starving, is she? I'd have given her something to eat at 8, and off to bed. No big deal.

YABU and sound ridiculous. It was a one off.

My DC has a similar day out with DH when they were about 3 & 5. They weren't sure whether to be horrified or delighted. I think 5yo DD's first words on getting home were "I haven't had any vegetables all day'.
Various things hadn't gone quite as planned and, unlike a day out with me, DH hadn't headed out with a laden rucksack with various nutritious snacks in Tupperware and all of those sorts of things but just had his wallet & car keys. One of the issues has been that they didn't even have coats with them and it was raining so much at one point that they had to wait somewhere so missed food being available.
They survived. I learned to chill out a bit and realised that they were definitely old enough that you could just wing it on a day out.

Totally OTT

I thought you were going to say she’s 3 months old or something, at 7 one day of potatoes won’t matter.

Yes you’re being overboard. Nothing wrong with some crisps and chips sometimes. She shouldn’t have been that hungry after a portion of chips at 5 and he sorted her a meal later. Sometimes just let him get one with it.

I would be really upset if my partner did this to me, he's her parent and it really isn't a big deal. It's weird to make it one

Ffs, is there any need for 'narc' type rubbish. The op has already said they are struggling AND acknowledged they are being unreasonable several hours ago

Your DH is right, you are going completely overboard. Not ideal but sometimes this happens. I reckon your DD will live to tell the tale.

It wasn't ideal, no. But as a one-off she'll survive.

I don't understand why he got her crisps before swimming and then chips after, though. He could have got her something healthier then and it wouldn't have mattered so much about the crisps at the event.

I'm sorry to hear you are struggling right now and wish you well 💐

Basically she had some sandwiches and fruit at midday and a decent meal at 8pm. In between she had some crisps and chips. I can’t really see what the fuss is about.

She does what?? And why are you just picking on me then if everyone else is piling on?! She asked, she was told!!

Exactly.

Everyone else READ THE OP’S POSTS!! She has a lot going on and may have gone overboard.

Show over here. Shame you can’t lock threads like in Reddit.

It’s no big deal as a one off. These things happen - sure she’s fine

You are being really, really, really really REALLY unreasonable and very OTT. A child can survive missing a meal every now and then and then eating later... however she still ate some chips.. yeah its not a proper Meal but so what? It's a one off! Did you never go out with your parents and have a bag of chips from the chippy for your main meal??

Why are you so obsessed with meals at certain times?!

So your DH and DD had a lovely day out which you went and ruined by making an issue out of absolutely nothing? Chips after swimming with my dad was the best thing ever when I was that age. Unclench before you ruin your relationship with both of them

Am I being OTT with this?

Yes, OP - you are. For goodness sake, he didn't starve her all day. It's only once.

A sandwich and a piece of fruit before a day like that wasn’t ideal, not before swimming, that needs proper energy- perhaps you could make sure she had a better lunch in future?