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Original poster

DH gave DD chips and crisps! AIBU?

228 replies

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:49

DH took our DD out today at around 2pm. DD had lunch at 12.00. A sandwich and some fruit. Whilst out, DH bought DD some crisps before swimming and then a portion of chips after (at about 5pm). After this, they were going to an event which was supposed to have food for the kids but unfortunately, it had run out by the time they arrived. DD told DH she was hungry and the only thing you could buy there was crips, so DH bought her a pack to tide her over. DH gave DD a decent meal when she got home just after 8.

DD is 7 and in my opinion, going 8 hours whilst out and about and on the go, and having 2 packets of crisps and a portion of chips is not okay. I said to DH that he should have left the event when he realised they had no meal for her and got her something decent and then they could have returned. Or alternatively, he should have told me when we spoke on the phone as I’d have come and collected her and given her dinner.

DH thinks I am being completely overboard. He says he knows it wasn’t ideal but that she was fine and had a good meal when she got home.

Am I being OTT with this? Happy to be told I’m wrong if that’s the case.

OP posts:
LolaSmiles · 10/02/2024 20:54

It's not ideal nutritionally, but it's a one off.A portion of chips at 5pm is enough to last until 8pm. It's only a couple of hours.
Would you really want your child to miss an event because you didn't think they could go 3 hours without eating?

WibblyWobblyWeeble · 10/02/2024 20:54

It's chips and crisps, they're harmless.
Unclench.

Pigeonqueen · 10/02/2024 20:54

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:52

she came home saying she had been starving but could only get crisps. Sorry, I don’t mean to drip feed, I just realised I missed it in my OP.

She had lunch at 12, then chips after swimming, then some crisps and dinner at 8pm though…. that’s fine isn’t it?

PaminaMozart · 10/02/2024 20:54

I'm a self-confessed health nut who generally eats a super healthy diet...

But even I couldn't get worked up about this!

Jagley · 10/02/2024 20:54

Your DD had a fun day with her Dad by the sounds of it, and was fed when she was hungry. The food might not be ideal but it's fine on occasion. Why would leaving an event where she was presumably having fun early be better!

Original poster
WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:54

But I’m happy to be told that my judgement is way off on this.

OP posts:
PotteringAlonggotkickedoutandhadtoreregister · 10/02/2024 20:54

You’re right, it’s way off on this one

Bruisername · 10/02/2024 20:54

Please stop - you either trust your husband or you don’t but this drip drip is awful. He is her parent too and he made a judgement call.

MixingPlaydough · 10/02/2024 20:55

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:53

Also, my husband was with his mates at the event and my concern is that he was more worried about hanging out with them than sorting her a meal.

It just looks like you're drip feeding now in a desperate attempt to get people to agree with you. Hmm

JaniceBattersby · 10/02/2024 20:55

She really wasn’t ‘starving’. She might have been mildly hungry. It’s good for kids to be hungry sometimes.

I think you’re being ridiculously over the top.

Smartiepants79 · 10/02/2024 20:55

Umm… relax!
She’s 7 not 7 months.
She had lunch, some snacks, and a proper dinner. That’s plenty of food. Surely she would have said if she was that hungry.
It’s not something you’d do every day but for a one off at the weekend it’s really not that big a deal.
Your DH is right. You’re really overreacting.

Babyboomtastic · 10/02/2024 20:56

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:54

But I’m happy to be told that my judgement is way off on this.

It is.

This is really no big deal. It's not the healthiest day but it's a perfect ok quantity of food, especially with her then having dinner at 8.

CavalierApproach · 10/02/2024 20:56

You’re being weird and unreasonable.

Canonlythinkofthisone · 10/02/2024 20:56

Call a plumber.
Someone left the tap on

Sherrystrull · 10/02/2024 20:56

What kind of meal should he have sourced for her?

Cocacolacarrie · 10/02/2024 20:56

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:52

she came home saying she had been starving but could only get crisps. Sorry, I don’t mean to drip feed, I just realised I missed it in my OP.

My kids frequently come home saying that they're 'starving!' Immediately after having eaten their own body weight in food with their dad.

Don't fall for it!

ChelseeDagger · 10/02/2024 20:57

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:53

Also, my husband was with his mates at the event and my concern is that he was more worried about hanging out with them than sorting her a meal.

Maybe he was. Nobody's perfect.

HelenTudorFisk · 10/02/2024 20:57

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:54

But I’m happy to be told that my judgement is way off on this.

Are you, though? Because in the face of a so far unanimous YABU, you seem to want to just keep dripping information to turn the tide.
for the record - yes, your judgement is way off on this one, and you are being ridiculous. Your daughter is fine.

Yesnosorryplease · 10/02/2024 20:57

YABVU

Flangeosaurus · 10/02/2024 20:57

Can I just add, my 7yo would consider a sandwich and fruit to be an extremely tiny lunch! He’d be asking for second lunch about 20 minutes after finishing that. Honestly, it’s fine.

MissRheingold · 10/02/2024 20:57

Sounds like she had a lovely time with her dad and you were waiting on the doorstep wearing your pinny with your arms folded, a scowl on your face ready to put a dampener on their outing by quizzing them over what she ate and at what time.

Stop looking for things to feel aggravated about.

1fluffydoodle · 10/02/2024 20:57

Calm down.... she won't be in danger of malnutrition from skipping a proper meal. She wasn't sent to bed hungry and spent quality time with her dad.
He did his best in the circumstances , I think you are being a bit too harsh.

Tinkerbyebye · 10/02/2024 20:58

You are well OTT

its not a daily occurrence

millymollymoomoo · 10/02/2024 20:58

Your judgement is way off on this

Mythnames · 10/02/2024 20:59

It’s a one off and by the sounds of it there was no option as they’d run out of food at the event? It’s fine. I’ve often had to give my kids less than perfect food when we are out and and about 🤷‍♀️