DH gave DD chips and crisps! AIBU?

[WonderWanderer]

DH took our DD out today at around 2pm. DD had lunch at 12.00. A sandwich and some fruit. Whilst out, DH bought DD some crisps before swimming and then a portion of chips after (at about 5pm). After this, they were going to an event which was supposed to have food for the kids but unfortunately, it had run out by the time they arrived. DD told DH she was hungry and the only thing you could buy there was crips, so DH bought her a pack to tide her over. DH gave DD a decent meal when she got home just after 8.

DD is 7 and in my opinion, going 8 hours whilst out and about and on the go, and having 2 packets of crisps and a portion of chips is not okay. I said to DH that he should have left the event when he realised they had no meal for her and got her something decent and then they could have returned. Or alternatively, he should have told me when we spoke on the phone as I’d have come and collected her and given her dinner.

DH thinks I am being completely overboard. He says he knows it wasn’t ideal but that she was fine and had a good meal when she got home.

Am I being OTT with this? Happy to be told I’m wrong if that’s the case.

You can’t really micromanage your DH’s parenting like this and maintain a good relationship in the long term imo. Your daughter was not starved she had some chips and snacks and ate a proper meal at home. These things happen. Move on with your life.

YANBU - ultra professed food will literally be the death of 50-75% of people in one way shape or form.

She should have had a proper lunch to start with.

Even with an 8 year old I never leave the house without a load of emergency snacks and a sandwich but when we have been caught out without -it's really no big deal. Kids need to learn to be resourceful and your husband taught her just that. Don't sweat the small stuff. The main thing is you got some time to yourself to enjoy and not worry about who ate what when.

It’s one day! If he was doing feeding her like this every day then fair enough but for one day is not going to cause her any issues! 🙄

I must be a really bad parent , when I took my kids to the seaside I bought them fish'n'chips maybe an ice cream and some rock to take home .

Its fine. Chill. Its not every meal.

I am fairly new here but this seems to be a fairly brutal part of MN! I feel sorry for you.

If you are worried about health get your DH to pack her a lunchbox of more suitable snacks before they leave. Have stuff in the cupboard that’s ready to go. Or locate a healthy takeaway near you such as a sushi place and pick up a few rolls that they can take with them on the any for lunch. My kids were obsessed with Sushi.
Then it’s not a big deal if they have dinner with chips in it later on. It’s important that your DH and DC have time together.

The monster!

And now you are trying to move the goal post by claiming it was about him ignoring her for his mates.
Get over yourself. It's fine. It's not every day and when I am with my friends I am more likely to give into biscuits, make a hot dog and crisps so I can talk to them without a hunger child.

Yawn ................................

One off and she is a kid not major at all.

Maybe me at time prep lunch and healthy snacks if it bothers you so much.

I wouldn’t recommend crisps and chips every day, but as an occasional thing, it’s a non issue.

Lunch at 12, chips at 5, 2 packets of crisps and dinner at 8, I doubt she was that hungry. Maybe she was bored if you’re husband was paying more attention to his mates.

You're 100% going to give her orthorexia food issues in the future. Be careful.

Your daughter was not ‘starving’

Life’s short. There’s plenty of other stuff to be annoyed about in the world. Eating chips and crisps because they got caught short with the planning isn’t one of them 🙄

I do wish people would take 1 minute to read all the OPs posts before piling on with their oh so clever responses.
@WonderWanderer I hope you are ok

OP that is not a rational response to 2 packets of crisps and some fries. If you are very concerned about nutrition then pack her a sandwich and some snacks next time she goes swimming.

I'm guessing she's an only child!

You're being precious and silly.

Just stop.

Honestly expected the OP to say the child was 12 - 18 months old!

Lighten up. I thought you were going to say your DC was 1 or 2. 7 ffs! Get a grip!!

Who would anyone walk for 10 minutes? If you're this obsessive why didn't you pack a lunch? I do this for my toddler

You're being over the top, if it's a one off.

Get your ducks on a row. LTB

So she had lunch at 12pm. A bag of crisps before swimming. Chips at 5pm. And dinner at 8pm. You are being ridiculous.