DH gave DD chips and crisps! AIBU?

[WonderWanderer]

DH took our DD out today at around 2pm. DD had lunch at 12.00. A sandwich and some fruit. Whilst out, DH bought DD some crisps before swimming and then a portion of chips after (at about 5pm). After this, they were going to an event which was supposed to have food for the kids but unfortunately, it had run out by the time they arrived. DD told DH she was hungry and the only thing you could buy there was crips, so DH bought her a pack to tide her over. DH gave DD a decent meal when she got home just after 8.

DD is 7 and in my opinion, going 8 hours whilst out and about and on the go, and having 2 packets of crisps and a portion of chips is not okay. I said to DH that he should have left the event when he realised they had no meal for her and got her something decent and then they could have returned. Or alternatively, he should have told me when we spoke on the phone as I’d have come and collected her and given her dinner.

DH thinks I am being completely overboard. He says he knows it wasn’t ideal but that she was fine and had a good meal when she got home.

Am I being OTT with this? Happy to be told I’m wrong if that’s the case.

You’ve not wasted anyone’s time. Don’t fret 💐

This is obviously a one off - and I’m sure she will have enjoyed the day. She’s a kid, she’s had treats. In the grand scheme of things - it’s no biggie. Breathe. X

YABU, to have left the event would've disrupted her enjoyment of the event. She had some fuel to tide her over until she got a proper meal.

Yeah, me too. Sorry you've been having a hard time. Don't focus your energy on worrying about this stuff though, your DD will be fine. Hope things feel easier/better soon.

She was fed. Don't sweat the small stuff like this. You'll exhaust yourself

I can see that you realise you are being unreasonable and know that, in the scheme of all else, this really was not a big deal.

What my mind goes to though is how your upset with your DH and 'discussion' about it looked. I guess I'm wondering if the 'vibe' your DD must surely have felt upon return manifests into thinking the lovely day she probably had was 'wrong'. Something to be mindful of is all. They 'feel' everything, even if they don't truly understand.

That isn't madly healthy that's for sure. I think the fact the food had run out at the event was the main issue, which was not really DH's fault (unless he made them run very late). Maybe he thought he was being healthier but not giving her sweets/chocolate if it was a vending machine type situation? The chips in themselves are fine as a treat.
Though having seen he was 'enjoying his mates company' at the event (drinking?), I think he should've gone out and got her a sandwich, or even ordered delivery to the venue rather than letting her have to have crisps again.
The fact she said she was starving is the issue, rather than the food itself. It sounds like there wasn't enough of it. So yeah, he dropped the ball there a bit. Tell him to pack a couple of emergency PB/ marmite/ whatever sandwiches next time.

Crazy! It's fine.

Not ideal but fine as a one off.

It won't kill her just for one day
Calm down

BobbyBiscuits delivery for to venue!. If you are serious now I have heard everything. No one died. Get a grip.

You are being seriously OTT. Non issue. Ask any parent of a child that does a ton of sports and they tell tales of regular eating on the run, grabbing McD as only thing open etc Other parents who have kids that survive on rubbish diets for a million reasons.

Stop being uptight. It's ridiculous.

Dont want to out myself but the event was an open ended thing

Oh this whole paranoia about outing on this site does my head in.

What on earth is outing in this situation. Was your daughter the old child at this unknown event at an unknown part of the country 🙄

Poor hubby .

YABU

There are kids actually starving across the world. Your dd only had 2 bags of crisps and a portion of chips for a few hours - oh and 3 solid meals across the day. I'm sure she won't fade away. Chill out. Yabvvu.

You both need to grow up and learn from it rather than taking to the internet to slag him off.
Next time, pack snacks. End of.

It is

Lol you are seriously over the top , you're acting he fed her a mud sandwich . Jeez calm down 😲🤪🤣.

I'm sure she's not malnourished like the children in families going through a famine. Unless she has an understanding health condition that means she needs to eat regularly then no harm done. DD didn't miss the event and enjoyed herself and had a meal when she got home.

If it’s a one off then you’re OTT. Although o have a 7yo and still make sure I take snacks out with me, as does DH.

Relax, it's one day.
There are plenty of things to stress about when you're a parent. This isn't one of them.

Are you mad??!!!

Be careful about doing that thing where nothing that's done by DH is good enough. He'll stop offering and you've made yourself into martyr mum - 'I have to do everything!'

It's not that precious.....