DH gave DD chips and crisps! AIBU?

[WonderWanderer]

DH took our DD out today at around 2pm. DD had lunch at 12.00. A sandwich and some fruit. Whilst out, DH bought DD some crisps before swimming and then a portion of chips after (at about 5pm). After this, they were going to an event which was supposed to have food for the kids but unfortunately, it had run out by the time they arrived. DD told DH she was hungry and the only thing you could buy there was crips, so DH bought her a pack to tide her over. DH gave DD a decent meal when she got home just after 8.

DD is 7 and in my opinion, going 8 hours whilst out and about and on the go, and having 2 packets of crisps and a portion of chips is not okay. I said to DH that he should have left the event when he realised they had no meal for her and got her something decent and then they could have returned. Or alternatively, he should have told me when we spoke on the phone as I’d have come and collected her and given her dinner.

DH thinks I am being completely overboard. He says he knows it wasn’t ideal but that she was fine and had a good meal when she got home.

Am I being OTT with this? Happy to be told I’m wrong if that’s the case.

Unclench love; I ate a whole tube of pringles yesterday and I'm still alive. It's fine.

Yabu.
Absolute non-event. You seem to be looking for reasons to be annoyed with DH.

Oh crikey, you're actually still married, I thought it was a dig at the ex taking child out post.
Not your husband who's been there, I assume for your child's entire life.

Dont want to out myself but the event was an open ended thing. Mainly aimed at adults, but children were welcome to come along. It was on for most of the day and there were places to eat within a 10 minute walk.

How would the type of event out you? Festival? Fair?

I do hope you're alright after reading your 2nd to last update, it makes more sense it was a last straw reaction

Kids will definitely let you know when they want food. Your DD obviously wasn't fussed.

It is FINE. They’re fed, a bit hungry but they didn’t starve and had a good meal at home. It was a one off. Please, get some perspective. You have a well looked after child.

Give her some vitamin supplements and everything will be OK. Because Mumsnetters love vitamins.

Sorry to hear you're going through a rough time.

Yabu here, and no amount of drip feeding (bar telling us your DD is allergic to potatoes) will change that.

I'd be saying to DH that I'm sorry, was in the wrong and was projecting. Hopefully you sort out whatever else is going on that resulted in you going so OTT

fuck me its a portion of chips and a couple bags of crisps not crack cocaine, chill out a bit

It’s fine. Not ideal obviously, but as a one off I wouldn’t be remotely bothered.

also my 8 year old DS can come home from having a full roast dinner with seconds and pudding at my mum’s house less than an hour earlier and tell me he’s still hungry!

Thank you @Toadstool1985. My other issue is nothing to do with DH. It’s health related and I can’t do anything about it so I think I’m just not in a great head space right now and being totally unreasonable. Posting here was helpful to know I am BU, but also hard to read some of the more insulting replies. But I suppose that comes with the topic I chose to post in.

Yeah you are. She’s hardly going to starve to death.

It sounds like they had a great day, so go and apologise.

Not wanting to get heavy, but back seat parenting when your partner is in charge is a mistake as it encourages them to just stop doing it.

You're welcome and I hope whatever is frightening you resolves itself x. I'm also quoting your reply in the hope pp actually read it and understand you understand and you get it now

I agree with your dh, you're being completely overboard

Don't worry it's really not outing and it doesn't matter.

Why don't you try posting a new thread for some support as to what the real issue is. You might be surprised 😉 Yes you've had a hard time on this thread. You were being unreasonable.

All is fine. Daughter is fed, happy and healthy and she has a dad who takes her swimming. Who doesn't love crisps after swimming?

Up to you of course, but it sounds like you have other issues going on and you're picking battles where there are none to be fought.

I don't know why people are being so mean.
It's ok @WonderWanderer it's not ideal but as an isolated incident it's fine. I remember my dad doing the same thing!

Hope you are ok x

Honestly I would just hide the thread now if I were you. You are going to get dogpiled, and it sounds like you really don't need that right now. I think you were wrong about the chips, but that doesn't make you a bad person! I hope whatever else is going on for you turns out ok.

🤣 totally OTT. A one off.

Your DD is not starving to death.

Our treat after swimming was always something from the vending Machine :)

Sorry to hear about your health issues. Don't worry my lovely, your post is no more 'obviously really stupid' than half the internet!

And yes DH could have left the event to feed DD a more nutritious snack and he probably didn't because he was prioritising time with his mates. But it's okay that he didn't and you know that now. X

Oh hush now. Ordinarily healthy children aren't going to combust if they have a day eating junk food, nor will they fade away if they're a bit hungry for a couple of hours.

what kind of an event op? There’s not many people who would leave something and then go back

Ah sorry op should have rtft. Hugs x

WonderWanderer
From your update it sounds like you've dumped a lot of emotions and stress from other topics or situations out on this situation with DC/DH.

Sometimes when there's other things going on it can be a small and unrelated situation that prompts an unreasonable reaction. In this situation it's not about the chips.

Could you post about the other issues in a different topic and posters could help?