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DH gave DD chips and crisps! AIBU?

228 replies

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:49

DH took our DD out today at around 2pm. DD had lunch at 12.00. A sandwich and some fruit. Whilst out, DH bought DD some crisps before swimming and then a portion of chips after (at about 5pm). After this, they were going to an event which was supposed to have food for the kids but unfortunately, it had run out by the time they arrived. DD told DH she was hungry and the only thing you could buy there was crips, so DH bought her a pack to tide her over. DH gave DD a decent meal when she got home just after 8.

DD is 7 and in my opinion, going 8 hours whilst out and about and on the go, and having 2 packets of crisps and a portion of chips is not okay. I said to DH that he should have left the event when he realised they had no meal for her and got her something decent and then they could have returned. Or alternatively, he should have told me when we spoke on the phone as I’d have come and collected her and given her dinner.

DH thinks I am being completely overboard. He says he knows it wasn’t ideal but that she was fine and had a good meal when she got home.

Am I being OTT with this? Happy to be told I’m wrong if that’s the case.

OP posts:
Bookingtree · 10/02/2024 20:59

I’m wondering what the next drip feed will be to try to convince us!

Member869894 · 10/02/2024 20:59

I do struggle with posts like this. Parenting is hard enough if you're sensible. If you're not sensible , as your post would suggest, it must be utterly horrendous. Why make problems where none exist? Why stress over absolutely nothing when there are plenty of other things to stress about. ? Where do you find the energy to worry about stuff like this?

GlitterBall91 · 10/02/2024 20:59

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:54

But I’m happy to be told that my judgement is way off on this.

you have been.. by every single poster

Babyboomtastic · 10/02/2024 20:59

Smartiepants79 · 10/02/2024 20:55

Umm… relax!
She’s 7 not 7 months.
She had lunch, some snacks, and a proper dinner. That’s plenty of food. Surely she would have said if she was that hungry.
It’s not something you’d do every day but for a one off at the weekend it’s really not that big a deal.
Your DH is right. You’re really overreacting.

Even if she were 7 months, she's eaten 5 times in 8 hours - an average of every 1.6 hours 😂

It's roughly

12: lunch
2: crisps
5: chips
6: crisps
8: dinner

ChelseeDagger · 10/02/2024 20:59

Hey OP did you have a nice day whilst your DH was ostensibly neglecting DD and having a jolly with his mates?

Or were you doing the housework/ working yourself?

Undisclosedlocation · 10/02/2024 20:59

😂😂
100% so far are with your husband……
and I’d be shocked if even one person agreed with you quite honestly

LauderSyme · 10/02/2024 21:00

Yes you are being OTT and your judgement is off on this. It's not an ideal diet but one day is not the end of the world. It doesn't merit any more of a response than a tut and an eye roll.

Onceuponaheartache · 10/02/2024 21:00

Sorry but yabu.

Eating less than an hour before swimming is not advisable.

A bowl of chips to tide her over after is fine.

Not his fault food had run out and if all they had was crisps and she was "starving" then what exactly did you expect him to do?

Unless you have never in your life made a mistake then I think you being unreasonable and pretty fucking shitty to your dh.

Although I admit I am waiting for the massive drip feed to follow...

BitOutOfPractice · 10/02/2024 21:00

Yes your judgement is off. It is absolutely 100% fine for a kid to feel hungry. It really will not kill them. It’s fine. Nobody died! Get a grip. And yes it’s also ok for your dh to have a good time too.

WandaWonder · 10/02/2024 21:00

Omg where will it end, calm down

Savoretti · 10/02/2024 21:01

Good God your poor husband

StephanieSuperpowers · 10/02/2024 21:01

I honestly thought from the subject that this child was under a year old. But 7?! And what's wrong with your husband wanting to spend time with friends? Do you really try this hard to make life as difficult and stressful as possible?

LocalHobo · 10/02/2024 21:01

But I’m happy to be told that my judgement is way off on this

Its good to know the message has been sent loud and clear.

Stressfordays · 10/02/2024 21:02

Sounds perfectly fine to me. I've been known to do similar on busy days. I've also been known to let them have biscuits for breakfast though if we get up late so I'm probably not the best person to ask.

Gcsunnyside23 · 10/02/2024 21:02

But she got food so hardly starved. You're being unreasonable, it's a one off.

usernother · 10/02/2024 21:03

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 20:54

But I’m happy to be told that my judgement is way off on this.

It was.

PickAChew · 10/02/2024 21:04

So, in 8 hours, she had lunch, then crisps, then chips, then dinner and you think he under fed her?

Beezknees · 10/02/2024 21:04

Agreeing with everyone else, YABU. Hope you're taking the responses on board. It's a one off, absolutely nothing to get worked up about.

Original poster
WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 21:04

I’m taking the responses on board. Thanks all.

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emmaempenadas · 10/02/2024 21:04

It's fine

Zapss · 10/02/2024 21:04

The reason crisps and chips are sold, is for people to eat.

shreknjumps · 10/02/2024 21:04

"I said to DH that he should have left the event when he realised they had no meal for her and got her something decent and then they could have returned."

Fucking what? 🤣

MixingPlaydough · 10/02/2024 21:06

WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 21:04

I’m taking the responses on board. Thanks all.

I hope you've also apologised to your husband for being so blooming rude to him.

Toadstool1985 · 10/02/2024 21:06

Op, did you genuinely expect your husband to leave an event to feed her and return?

What was the event?

Original poster
WonderWanderer · 10/02/2024 21:07

I’m going through quite a difficult time right now and I’ve been trying to keep a lid on everything. I’ve directed all my emotions at this rather than my real problem, I think. Sorry for wasting everyone’s time with something that is obviously really stupid.

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