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to think this isn't right? mother convicted if manslaughter

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greenacrylicpaint · 07/02/2024 06:43

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-68223118

A jury has found a Michigan mother guilty of involuntary manslaughter for failing to stop her son from carrying out a deadly school shooting.

by all means, she didn't come across as mother of the year, but come on.
what sentence will the father get?
an absent father in a similar case?

oh america

OP posts:
Player001 · 07/02/2024 08:39

greenacrylicpaint · 07/02/2024 08:31

I feel sorry for the victims and their families.

I also feel sorry for the mother who is in an impossible position.

and yes to gun laws being the elephant in the room. but the gun lobby will never admit to being the cause of countless deaths.

You feel sorry for the mother? You feel sorry for a cold, callous, narcissist that may as well have pulled the trigger herself?

Do some thorough research about the case and give your head a wobble.

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 07/02/2024 08:40

Fridaysgirl17 · 07/02/2024 07:47

They tried Ethan her son as an adult, they fought to try him as an adult, yet now they are saying he is a minor who's parents are responsible, it's slightly contradictory, I do think the parents bear responsibility but manslaughter no I don't think that's right & i think it's setting an ugly precedent in America, also some commentators who are lawyers etc in America have said the judge was off & left this open for appeal easily by refusing to make proper rulings etc. The trial obviously took place in the community it happened & i don't think it eas ever going to go any other way due to that.

I do not think that he should have been tried as an adult, especially not for a crime he committed when he was 15 (?).

and I do agree that these arguments seem to be slightly contradictory.

but the parents definitely should be prosecuted.

CandyLeBonBon · 07/02/2024 08:40

Yabu. She 100% enable him.

Sususudio · 07/02/2024 08:42

IsthisthereallifeIsthisjustfantasy · 07/02/2024 08:39

Everyone who supports and funds the NRA has blood on their hands.
Everyone who votes for pro-gun administrations in the US has blood on their hands.
The owner of the gun shop has blood on their hands.
Certainly, the parents are implicated too, but in my opinion the collective guilt goes much further.

The collective madness of gun rights in the USA is terrifying. I say this as someone with American in-laws, some of whom are pro guns.

I agree with all this. However, the parents are not scapegoats, as a pp said ( not you). Nobody who texts their ammo buying son "Don't get caught" is a scapegoat.

DreadPirateRobots · 07/02/2024 08:44

I don't particularly want the UK to introduce similar laws around being an accessory/enabling crimes, but this seems an entirely appropriate conviction under their laws.

MigGirl · 07/02/2024 08:44

Guavafish1 · 07/02/2024 08:14

I think the school is also guilty in this case.

Why? The school where trying to get the parents to picknupnthe child and providing information on where to get emergency metal health care for him.

They can't get health care for a child without the parents consent. So how can you blame the school?

boopboopbidoop · 07/02/2024 08:46

greenacrylicpaint · 07/02/2024 07:00

what she did was cruel and she should be charged. yes. with child neglect or whatever that charge would be where she is.
but manslaughter?

she seems to have mental health problems as well. maybe her parents need to be charged as well then?

Her parents were not guardians of an underage killer.

They were not just bad parents. They were fundamental in the actions the young man committed.

Sususudio · 07/02/2024 08:46

@DreadPirateRobots I think the UK is completely different, no? Or at least I haven't read of a case with such complete parental enabling.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 07/02/2024 08:51

greenacrylicpaint · 07/02/2024 08:31

I feel sorry for the victims and their families.

I also feel sorry for the mother who is in an impossible position.

and yes to gun laws being the elephant in the room. but the gun lobby will never admit to being the cause of countless deaths.

She bought him a gun. In breach of gun laws.

She bought a gun and handed it to a child with mental health issues.

That’s not being in an impossible situation, that’s being an irresponsible idiot. If you circumnavigate gun laws to buy someone a gun then you you should be prosecuted. Especially when that person is a child with mental health issues.

SisterMichaelsHabit · 07/02/2024 08:54

You need to correct your title OP it's involuntary manslaughter, different sentencing structure and burden of evidence etc.

And I'm 100% behind anything that gets parents to take responsibility for their children's behaviour. Maybe it will teach others to actually parent their children. Four people didn't get to see their kids ever again and this woman's actions directly contributed to that, as a court found.

We accept corporate manslaughter, we should accept that this was involuntary manslaughter too. She had so many opportunities to avert this.

As for people attacking gun laws, while I agree America's gun laws are terrible, in this instance the gun was bought illegally, the child wasn't allowed to have it under the existing law, so having a new law for this family to break wouldn't have changed anything.

pootlin · 07/02/2024 08:55

greenacrylicpaint · 07/02/2024 06:43

https://www.bbc.com/news/world-us-canada-68223118

A jury has found a Michigan mother guilty of involuntary manslaughter for failing to stop her son from carrying out a deadly school shooting.

by all means, she didn't come across as mother of the year, but come on.
what sentence will the father get?
an absent father in a similar case?

oh america

what sentence will the father get?

The article you linked says ‘Her husband, James, is facing a separate trial on the same charges.’

Daffodil18 · 07/02/2024 08:56

Yes they should serve time. If anything they are more at fault than him as he is a child. If they handed him a gun and he accidentally shot himself then they would be accountable. I don’t see the difference.

LonginesPrime · 07/02/2024 08:56

As I understand it, she wasn't merely convicted for happening to be the parent of a child who committed the crime, but for specific actions she took (including providing him the murder weapon) and knowledge she had about his state of mind and propensity to carry out the attack that she shared privately but not with anyone who could actually help (like school or the police).

This seems like a very specific set of circumstances, and I think it would be pretty easy to differentiate legally between this situation and one where the parents had absolutely no idea what their child was planning to do.

So I don't think this result will lead to a slippery slope of all parents being convicted of their children's crimes merely by virtue of their having raised them - that isn't what happened in this case at all.

Meadowfinch · 07/02/2024 08:57

@Luckydog7 Fifteen year olds are not allowed to buy guns in that state.

The parents literally put a loaded gun in the hands of an unstable & hallucinating teenager. Then when the school called them in because he'd drawn a picture of a school shooting - and she knew he had the gun and ammunition - she still said/did nothing. She didn't tell them he had a gun.

I hope she gets all 15 years. That way she'll not be in a position to ruin any more children's lives.

exlawyer · 07/02/2024 08:58

The parents would be legally liable in the UK as well, which actually has stricter laws than the US in this regard.

OP, you (and many posters) have misunderstood the case. The legal grounds are being misreported. It's not just an arbitrary moral line like "not raising your kids well".

In the UK, in cases where 3rd parties have equipped or aided murderers, they have sometimes even been charged for the actual crime itself (eg murder, not manslaughter).

  • Father bought son a gun as a gift shortly before shooting
  • Parents ignored son's requests for mental health help
  • On morning of shooting, parents cut short a school meeting about a disturbing drawing their son had made to go to work and declined to take the then 15-year-old home
  • Despite mother texting someone that morning that she was afraid her son would do "something dumb"
  • Mother said she "didn't feel comfortable" being responsible for securing the gun and left her husband to manage it

They could be liable on many grounds in the UK:

  • Criminal: Accessory to murder
  • Criminal: Charged for manslaughter
  • Criminal: Charged for murder directly, especially if it was a crime pursuant to another crime (if father buying son gun was illegal in that state)

(The law on the above 3 is mixed up and has been a long-running debate – see Chan Wing Siu, Jogee, etc – that hinges a lot on interpretations of foreseeability, virtual certainty, etc... But either way the parents are in jail)

  • Tort: Negligence of fiduciary duty of care

The reason the mother and not the father has been convicted is because the PARENTS themselves sought separate trials.

The mother tried to redirect all the blame to the father during her trial... The father is yet to be tried and will probably receive an even harsher sentence for being the one to buy his son a gun as a present.

Pinkplans · 07/02/2024 09:02

Yabu - it’s absolutely the correct decision.

parents should be responsible and accountable for their children’s actions. Every time you hear of a youngster in the UK carrying out an awful act of violence, it always comes out in the wash that they have irresponsible parents afterwards.

Nearby where I live, an 11 and 13 year old tortured and murdered some animals a couple of years ago. There was an outcry by the public and I saw lots of ‘don’t judge the parents’ comments on local social media. It turns out that both sets of parents are failures, social services were already involved, they were known to the police etc. There was no consequence because of their young ages and they’re back on the streets terrorising the communities.

Snugglemonkey · 07/02/2024 09:02

greenacrylicpaint · 07/02/2024 07:00

what she did was cruel and she should be charged. yes. with child neglect or whatever that charge would be where she is.
but manslaughter?

she seems to have mental health problems as well. maybe her parents need to be charged as well then?

Her parents did not arm her and ignore that there were clear signs that a school shooting was possible, if not probable. And she is mot a minor.

BoohooWoohoo · 07/02/2024 09:03

Sounds like the conviction is fair considering her actions.
Thinking about the UK and knife crime, do parents ever get in trouble for knowing that their child carries a knife or supplying one knowingly? What if they bought a knife with money that you gave them ?

BoohooWoohoo · 07/02/2024 09:04

Is the killer likely to be getting mental health care in prison?

Snugglemonkey · 07/02/2024 09:06

Hereyoume · 07/02/2024 07:57

How was she supposed to forsee it?

Rediculous verdict.

Because he was drawing it. Because school flagged up the danger. This was not unforeseeable.

itsmyp4rty · 07/02/2024 09:06

Personally I don't think she should have been charged with manslaughter unless we're also charging the school for not checking that he had any weapons on him when they knew he was drawing 'disturbing' pictures or the gun shop for selling a gun to the father with a child present (although apparently children are welcome in gun shops even 3 year olds!) or the whole damn country for allowing deadly weapons to be sold out of shops in the first place.

I think what the parents should have been charged with was what they actually did which was buy a gun for a child (although I see now that buying a long gun for a child is actually legal in 30 states!) and for neglect for not addressing his MH issues. The child should have also been charged as a child as he was 15 when he committed the crime.

The parents are scapegoats here, if the US really wanted to stop this sort of thing happening they'd look at gun laws, not parents. By blaming the parents they move the focus away from what is really to blame.

exlawyer · 07/02/2024 09:09

Again the misconceptions are frustrating. This is not about child neglect.

This is a point of law that many people have been charged for. For example in the UK, there've been cases where a council house young adult gave someone aggressive in their gang/chav type circle a knife. When the person went on to murder someone, the 1st person was in some cases even liable for murder (not just involuntary manslaughter as in this case).

Simplifying it A LOT, elements to consider include chain of causation, intent (foreseeability = intent?), and if the 1st action was a crime (eg father buying son gun illegally), whether both actions can be grouped together as 1.

The exact charge is part of a long-running debate in UK common law but in ANY CASE, the parents would be in jail for something.

quisensoucie · 07/02/2024 09:09

Blame the gun-fanatics who believe it is their inalienable right to bear arms
Sadly, it's always the ones with the least intelligence that shout the loudest

SpidersAreShitheads · 07/02/2024 09:11

greenacrylicpaint · 07/02/2024 07:00

what she did was cruel and she should be charged. yes. with child neglect or whatever that charge would be where she is.
but manslaughter?

she seems to have mental health problems as well. maybe her parents need to be charged as well then?

What do you think she should be charged with for illegally buying her underage and mentally unwell son a gun?

Bearing in mind that without her buying him the gun, he wouldn't have been able to kill those other children.

That doesn't fall under neglect.

What do you think would be an appropriate charge if not manslaughter? Accessory to murder?

HiItsMeImTheProblemItsMe · 07/02/2024 09:11

OP, out of curiosity, do you agree with the charge of corporate manslaughter in the case of business owners who have been found guilty of very bad practice that has led to the death of a person? While this case is obviously very different of course, it's similar in a way that the parents foreseeable actions and lack of duty of care have led to their child killing 4 others.

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