£108 on his soft drinks every month

[Rainbowsworms]

I've been going through our expenditures today after realising how much money was going out of the account every month. I haven't kept a close eye on outgoings - I will own that. I have ADHD and it's not my strong point.

I have calculated that DP is spending £108 per month on his drinks alone.

He refuses to drink water/juice/cordial and moans when there's no fizzy pop, so he insists on buying a big bottle of lemonade from the corner shop most days at £2 a go, so thats £60 per month.

If that wasn't bad enough, he has atleast one Monster energy drink every night. They cost £1.60 so £48 per month.

£108 per month on fucking drinks.

AIBU to think that is bloody ridiculous.

with her money?

His monthly money runs out after a week and a half, then he uses her money every day after that to buy everything at top price, when he could just go to a supermarket and buy everything he wants in bulk for at least half the price. He's literally wasting her money every day.

I'd be fuming. X

Soda Stream is the way to go, OP! Buy him one then get him some syrups to go with it. You can get some lovely ones

“After I pay my bills each month I have so it £800 leftover for spends. I struggle to make it last more than a week and a half and so my H gives me his card to use if I want anything. He came to me this month and was angry with me because I’ve spent over £100 of fizzy drinks. He’s told me I can’t use his card when I run out of money to buy my drinks, and I have to use my own money. But it’s all gone in a really short space of time. AIBU to think he’s being financially abusive?”

No. No he’s not.

Yes, of course - using his money. But, he overspends then uses HER money. That's not on.

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Christ what a depressing viewpoint

Either some people on here can’t read properly, have problems understanding, or they just want to be dicks.

Wind yours in and realise that the working man blows through his wages in 1.5 weeks then uses OP's money the rest of the month. She's paying for it.

I have adhd and my "naice" instant coffee habit costs me £3 a month (or £6 if I really can't find that brand on special offer).

What does he need to pay for using his £800? If he has £800 after paying bills and overdraft (overdraft doesn’t really count if he just goes back in it) what is he spending the money on? Even daily shopping trips wouldn’t add up to this much.

My other half is the (much) higher earner but we have separate finances. I am a strong advocate for that regardless of who earns what. I have neither time nor mental energy to babysit someone’s spending or work out who pays for cars and dentists. Life is much easier with separate finances.

Could we please stop with the sugar causes diabetes. It doesn't. It's your overall lifestyle and diet PLUS the gene that causes it.

He's a bit weird drinking this much but most of my friends or children drink a pepsi max if we're out for a meal and they don't want booze

Buy it in bulk from Costco, Food Warehouse or similar

I'm not trying to scare you but if he's not drinking enough water those energy drinks and pop it can mess with your heart. Speaking from experience I ended up with tachycardia. I'm not saying that will happen to him but it's a risk. I wish I'd stopped drinking cokes when the Dr got on me

I can't get over how crunchy and OTT everyone is on here about lemonade. It's lemonade not crack. It's not going to kill him. Reading made up hippy nonsense on the internet won't make it so. But I bet you would all think I'm some kind of health terrorist for buying a bottle of diet coke most days.

Spending OPs money on overpriced lemonade from the cornershop is bad. Drinking a normal drink is fine.

I don’t think people are saying lemonade is the problem, the monster energy drinks are a problem health wise.

This. And their version of monster is 1.99 for 4 at full price or 1.49 on offer

I'm not seeing the point of him.?

He's very selfish and self-absorbed.

He's doesn't care about being a good role model for the kids.

His poor insides not to mention your wallet.

I don’t think she means lemonade though. If she meant actual lemonade he could just get the powder to make his own and be done with it.

I think she means Sprite or 7-Up or whatever. She’s also said she’s concerned that he’s displaying diabetic symptoms so if he’s drinking the regular sugar soda and regular sugar Monster then that’s not great.

Really, you don’t think that much sugary drinks is bad?

I spend that on soft drinks a month too…

My usual treats are Coke Zero, Capri suns, appletizer and lucozade zero

I don’t do alcohol. I don’t do drugs.
im trying to get off the sweets and junk, so a nice soft drink is my treat.

we all have our own poison.

if he’s paying for it himself, I see no issue.

I think once you have kids that's the best way of looking at it in general. If one person wasn't working/contributing it would be different. But where 2 people are both working similar hours but one earns less it is a bit mean for them to have way less spends. BUT in this situation it seems stupid not to cut back when there is a really easy way to do so (not buying from the corner shop). it would be different if you were refusing him soft drinks while swanning around in Gucci eating truffled quails eggs for instance.

On pop?! 😲What are his teeth like? 🤢