To have told my late teens that I won't be contributing

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.. to their childcare arrangements , if and when they have kids. They were really surprised!
Lone parent here, working full time and intend to retire in about ten years. Ie I'll be relatively young.
It was a light conversation but they fully thought that I would be a part of their childcare set up in time.
I will f course be supportive and help
Out when needed and look forward to

Spending time with my grandkids but travel and renewing relationships and rest are certainly at the top of my list !
AIBU. Or is this the norm/ expectation now?

My grandparents were on hand for childcare. They took us for fun days out. They were a big part of my childhood memories. My parents worked. I'm saddened and resentful because my parents do nothing with mine. But never have I expected to use them for childcare. My grandparent wouldn't have seen it as 'childcare'. It's life. My parents are babyboomers and they unfortunately do.

I'd be very happy to do childcare. I expect it's unlikely though because my children might choose not to have children and if they do would likely live hundreds (thousands) of miles away. I loved it when my children were little, reliving it with grandchildren would be great. Honestly, so many of these 'lve done my time' type comments. I think it's quite sad seeing children as such a chore. I wonder if they just had them because that's what you do. I'm glad young people can choose, without so much judgement, to not have children these days. It's just a shame so many who would like children feel they can't, it would be unfair and irresponsible, because they don't have enough money.

Well I'm sorry you feel sad. If you read my post however she couldn't do it again she loves it with my current daughter but she wouldn't feel able to do it again when she is older.

I wouldnt do full T. Really ties your week. Would be happy to help a bit. My mother never helped. Had reared her own. It was hard though at times seeing friends with good backup. I dont need babysitters now as older.

Yeah sounds like she loves it! Up every morning at 6am to take your child because you won’t pay childcare. Sounds like a fab life for her.