Irks me to see mums boasting about "childfree" nights out & "kid free weekends away"

[Bridgetjoneski]

I just find it very distasteful! I have one or two mum friends on insta & know them in real life. But at least every fortnight they have insta posts up about "kid free" night out with dh or "kid free weekend away". They are quite wealthy & both work full time, I just find it very unsavoury. Tag a dinner your hubby but no need to state the kids absense.
Is this a rising trend or just limited to the pair I know? The latest status tagging the latest dinner out was "not a child in sight"...

Oh god, if only there was a simple solution.

Like unfollowing them .....

I dunno, my mum really thought she was doing us a service being a SAHM while we were teens at school from 8:30-6:30 every day. This meant she could spend her free time ruminating on past transgressions and working herself up to a tizz about nothing. Clearly not an issue experienced by all SAHMs to teens...

@CaribouCarafe so you think I should say no to my kids preferred choice or extracurriculars. Firstly I'm not a music teacher & secondly I'm not trained in martial arts! We have no problem letting the dc doing afterschool extracurriculars if they want to try them out, they have been doing these since covid & love them. Very handy they can stay after school to avail of them!

Christ, you sound like hard work

Exactly!

#southlondonmumdoesntsharepizza
#childfreepizzabychoice
#ilovemyDCbutlovepizzamore

Whats the big fuss the big 🤔 deal about making it a thing on Mumsnet here,

It's quite contrary thing to say ,

exactly the same as being judgemental about working mums housewives or anyone who has a break from caring for children
L.o.l,😂

What utter nonsense and tad hypocritical to start a thread about same thing you are Whiny about .

Kettle calling the pot black olde worlde saying springs to mind,

I think 🤔 you have too much time on your hands or something,

When you are exhausted 😩 looking after children it's feels like a big thing having a break from them,
Well cause its 🤷 its just is being human...

Well maybe that's the difference. They get once a fortnight or so child free so it's special whereas you're always leaving yours behind so appreciate it less.

Is this a wind up? 😂😂

I have no issue with your children's extracurriculars, I did all the extracurriculars I could get my hands on when I was a kid (including lots of music), mostly to stay out of the house...

I'm just mostly confused about why you think that being a SAHM is so beneficial (e.g. on the other thread) when for the majority of your children's waking day you're not really providing any services to them specifically? You seemed quite adamant that there was a big difference between being a SAHM and a working mother but I can't personally see what benefits your kids are getting out of it now that they're past pre-school...

I've skimmed the OP and 65 of her replies in less than five hours.

My conclusion: OP needs a(nother) hobby that isn't policing other people's social media.

What is the other thread?
It’s a good job the op has all this time to post on MN.

@SleepingStandingUp

You've hit the nail on the head with your insightful remark...!

OP, you should have just made your thread about whether you should say potentially ‘negative’ things about your children on social media, such as that you are enjoying an evening out without them. In case the kids see it one day.

Because I think that is what you are saying you meant?

Instead you have invited a discussion on whether mums should enjoy nights out on their own. But maybe you know that.

If you really loved them, they'd be at home with you pontificating about what a wonderful mother you are. Because, priorities right?

mathanxiety
I agree with you.

It's the difference between
A) Enjoying a date night with DH
And
B) Isn't it great not to be around the kids

Most likely a date night isn't going to include the children, so why is the focus of the posting about whose company you're avoiding rather than whose company you're enjoying.

If I do my hobbies or see my friends, there great part of it is the activity and the company. I love DH and DC, but it wouldn't cross my mind to posts about how great it is to be husband free and away from my kids because that's not the central enjoyment.

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I don't think the OP is saying parents shouldn't have kids free breaks. It's about the constant need to post about it. It's very different!

Hmmm I don't think so.
Her posts on another thread suggests she has a real issue with mothers who work and socialise without their children.

Not having a whiny toddler or stroppy preteen is central to the enjoyment though

This sounds like a (not very good) wind-up to me. But on the off-chance it’s real, I think you should unfriend these people, OP. Their choices are obviously making you unhappy for some reason, although I can’t imagine why. You’ll be happier when you can’t see their hashtags and I’m sure they’ll be happier to be free of your po-faced judgement.

Thank you.

But it IS great not to be around the kids! It's the whole point!

You might be the only person in the world who reads hashtags. Hashtags are meant to be there to help algorithm to index posts, it's not actually for humans to read!

I think it's largely about a push back on SM about the perfect Insta life with the perfect Insta mum with the perfect Insta children.

Some people are going to relate to the my children are a nightmare, I need a break, thank god I'm childfree tonight, tongue in cheek Insta's much more.