Food portions and how to laugh this off??

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Help me dear mners, my dh is gaslighting me into accepting his penis portions and I need your stories of similar craziness to help me laugh it off..!

In laws came round, we had two large steaks for dinner. MIL wasn't keen on steak so we made her a stuffed pepper and sides so she was catered for and happy. FIL wanted half of one of the steaks, fine. Dh asked what I thought about that and I said yes fine we'll just share the rest. Dh looked confused for a bit and I said I think it's enough between the two of us to share the remainder.

FIL cooked the sides, DH bbqed the steaks (i was in with the baby), and I come out to see three plates of food. Two have half a steak on them and the third has a whole steak, which dh had claimed as his plate.

I was like ummm are you not splitting it? He said yes I did, and I kind of laughed in disbelief saying no you've given yourself twice the amount of food as me! He got really defensive, said this was what we agreed (not true), and got cross. I told him I was going to even things out, so cut off some of his, and he was so grumpy about it, saying he'd said he wanted a full one and I agreed to that. No "I'm sorry I misunderstood and under catered for you, let's split it like grown ups".

It is such a stupid little thing but keeps playing on my mind, what on earth was that?! Please tell me stories of similar imbalances that your partners have tried to get away with to help me put it into perspective.

returned to say:

4 people now having dinner which was meant for 2 so.

MIL was incredibly kind in refusing the steak, and ate a stuffed pepper
FIl was considerate and said he would only have a half.

What should have happened is:

All the lamb chops get cooked, I would expect there was 4 ? i.e. 2 per person
( for the next day or whenever )

and both steaks

Then everyone gets half a steak and a lamb chop.

Or

A take away is ordered for all.

and the steak is eaten another day.

p.s. does dh know breast feeding mummy needs extra iron / food because she is breastfeeding ?

I grew up half a ketchup sandwich for dinner poor but the week long chicken jokes and massive salads are not satirising the people you think they are, imo.

🙄 More than happy to admit that if I had to suddenly share 1.5 steaks between two because we had guests turn up unexpectedly I would omit to factor in iron levels in one quarter of a fillet steak. Even after your lengthy cautions around the issue, I expect I probably still won’t, should the occasion arise.

I really doubt many folks would think about iron in a quarter of a piece of steak,,,

My husband eats like a bird.

I can easily eat him under the table (unless it's chocolate)

I would have never given my guests less food. You guys should have just cut up the 2 steaks and split it equally between the 3 people eating meat. Your husband was being selfish.

😂😂😂

Yes, I rather suspect you wouldn't as well. After all, you're sufficiently wedded to the men need more calories idea that you didn't even manage to take into account that OP is breastfeeding.

So do you think one steak is too much food for a woman? And any woman who would eat a whole steak must be overweight? Genuine question.

Very few are having steak as the best way to get nutrition.
We could replace with cake and the dynamic would be the same.

All I can say after reading this thread is thank goodness for the MIL and her ilk! 🤣 I’m beginning to see how and why she acquired her taste for stuffed peppers.

Full House! There we have it the mn magic chicken last 5 day and feed a family

Do it like children.
Have one person do the dividing and the other person do the choosing.
Or perhaps make sure you have enough steaks to begin with.
I don’t recall my ex-husband ever sharing anything fairly with me even once.
Our divorce was an 1993 $85,000 (my attorney fees) nightmare.

Actually I did raise about factoring that in: scroll back.

Not wedded to the idea: simply mentioned it as a basis for tie-break on a one-off occasion.

And honestly one quarter less of a fillet steak at one meal really isn’t going to flip OP into needing intravenous iron or anything. The mcg values involved probably barely register over a weekly intake.

Yes, him too! Especially when he pissed me off.

@InASnowGlobeSpinning Nope! Come to think of it I don’t think I’ve ever had a whole steak to myself! I did in a restaurant recently but I gave half of it to DH even then. I think I’ve just always thought men should get more meat 😅

But one meal where a man might get less calories isn't going to register either.
So for a one off occasion I'm not sure why you'd even look at any factors at all to decide who gets most, instead of just splitting it evenly.

any mn thread about eating is a klaxon to the competitive under eaters to tell us how very little they eat, or indeed need

Only here we are also getting the teeth bared to grab it from a man at all costs - even if it involves near decimation of a cut of meat that is pretty tiny to begin with!

I'm a size 6 barely 8 stone woman and I'd easily eat a whole steak and sides! Buy more next time!

@Newnamepleasee definitely not true. I easily eat more than my DH who is 6ft 4 and weighs twice what I do! I have a high metabolism and really enjoy my food.
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I am sure you will all rush to tell me that you don’t give a fuck but FWIW and as you’re all here it’s:

LESS food
FEWER calories

please.

One quarter less of a fillet steak isn't going to make the DH suffer from malnutrition either, if you're going down the batshit hyperbole road. The calories involved probably barely register over a weekly intake.

No 😀

Wow so many women think men are the prize, it is sad.

As someone who is healthily at the lower end of a healthy bmi I can say that you can enjoy a high calorie mean now and again, not every day even has to be balanced, it can balance out over a week. Men do not have to eat more at every meal, they could say eat more protein at breakfast and more carbs at dinner etc etc. Only takes a tiny bit of imagination.

It seems really stingy not to let a breastfeeding woman have the bigger piece of steak tbh