Food portions and how to laugh this off??

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Help me dear mners, my dh is gaslighting me into accepting his penis portions and I need your stories of similar craziness to help me laugh it off..!

In laws came round, we had two large steaks for dinner. MIL wasn't keen on steak so we made her a stuffed pepper and sides so she was catered for and happy. FIL wanted half of one of the steaks, fine. Dh asked what I thought about that and I said yes fine we'll just share the rest. Dh looked confused for a bit and I said I think it's enough between the two of us to share the remainder.

FIL cooked the sides, DH bbqed the steaks (i was in with the baby), and I come out to see three plates of food. Two have half a steak on them and the third has a whole steak, which dh had claimed as his plate.

I was like ummm are you not splitting it? He said yes I did, and I kind of laughed in disbelief saying no you've given yourself twice the amount of food as me! He got really defensive, said this was what we agreed (not true), and got cross. I told him I was going to even things out, so cut off some of his, and he was so grumpy about it, saying he'd said he wanted a full one and I agreed to that. No "I'm sorry I misunderstood and under catered for you, let's split it like grown ups".

It is such a stupid little thing but keeps playing on my mind, what on earth was that?! Please tell me stories of similar imbalances that your partners have tried to get away with to help me put it into perspective.

I would have brought a steak for each person eating the steak. SIMPLE.

Oh for goodness sake it isn’t the cutting that’s undignified; it would be more undignified to put a whole steak in your mouth ( in case you need that explained).

The undignified bit was the suggestion that it was worth bickering over what at this point in the divvy-ing up of 1.5 steaks amounts to a mere quarter of a steak. It really isn’t a lot of food to have such a heated discussion over . It’s undignified to squabble over a little portion of steak like children over sweets ( or monkeys over nuts). But, Orange, if it matters to you to bicker for the last little mouthful to make you feel what enters each gullet is mathematically even, don’t mind those of us who don’t.

They did. The in laws paid a short notice visit. I always find it helps to read all OP’s posts.

They did.
They bought steaks for her and her husband, one each.

The in laws were not meant to be there for the meal, she said they were a 'late addition'. Steak was then offered, the FIL said he'd have half so the DH decided that that was coming off the OPs steak.

I just wouldn’t have served steak as you clearly didn’t have enough and sounds like MiL realised hence her “Oh no I’m stuffed.” But yeah, back to the main point, your husband sounds selfish. I can see why he wanted a decent portion of steak but so did you obviously.

Why has the title been changed? Is penis a bad word now?

You said you thought there was enough for both of you to share. He looked confused (presumably he was thinking, well we planned on a steak each, I still want what was planned so DW wants half a steak). Maybe he should have articulated that but I don't think he's Scrooge because he ate the portion he planned and you told him not to put on any extra food.

I don’t see anything wrong tbh.

Women shouldn't eat as much as men unless bodybuilding or a manual worker

But surely you just say “Hey I thought we were having half each” would be sufficient for him to hand over his extra bit 🤷‍♀️ Seems a bit trivial to turn it into a big issue.

It is just really rude for the person sharing out the food and give himself the lion's share.

However what most astounds me here is that the majority of women posting here are defending his selfishness. Is England the capital of machismo?

Why did you not buy a steak each? In said situation person doing the sharing up should either do it equally, i.e. each steak into thirds, or take the smallest portion themselves. Rude.

I have low iron, DH does not. DH is overweight, I am not. I'd expect an equal split of the steak.

It’s really rude to give the father the smallest portion , pretend the mil really isn’t that fussed about steak, as she knows you’ve not enough, and chuck her a stuffed pepper. And then sit fighting over the steak.

No, I would give him more sausage than me. It’s not even hypothetical because I did exactly that yesterday. I don’t need as much food as him. Protein or carbs.

So, not irrelevant at all.

And most men shouldn't eat as much as they do either, unless they're bodybuilders or manual workers also.

And even many male manual workers still eat way too much seeing as so many are overweight and store weight around their mid section which is the worst place for men to store fat.

And many bodybuilders have disordered eating habits and plenty of them are on steroids and are about as far from healthy as you can get, they don't need the steak to survive and thrive, they need it as part of a deeply unhealthy and fucked up and unsustainable lifestyle.

If there was a couple who needed to ration food between them then 'bodybuilding' wouldn't be a fair consideration seeing as it's often for aesthetics and it's out of choice.

If there was a couple and one is a bodybuilder and the other isn't then the bodybuilder isn't entitled to the other persons protein if there ever happens to be a meal where the protein is rationed!

I say that as someone who chooses to eat a lot of protein too due to training! I just would never feel entitled to it at someone elses expense. If I needed to make up the protein that day then I could easily have eggs or something else.

An extra misplaced sausage a day is what got me pregnant and in need of more calories in the first place.

I'm struggling with the logic here - two pieces of meat for three meat eaters?
It was never going to work was it really.🙄

Gross isn’t it?

Cut each into three bits. It works then.

FFS… just cook enough food the next time.

😂

Or exclusively breastfeeding? I was so hungry I could have easily eaten more than my husband at every single meal for many months.

This really is quite a lot of convoluted nonsense to have backed yourself into typing because you don't want to admit that you didn't think about iron when you made your calories argument. Dare I say, it's rather undignified...

I feel your pain!

Read that as "could easily have eaten my husband" 😁