Food portions and how to laugh this off??

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Help me dear mners, my dh is gaslighting me into accepting his penis portions and I need your stories of similar craziness to help me laugh it off..!

In laws came round, we had two large steaks for dinner. MIL wasn't keen on steak so we made her a stuffed pepper and sides so she was catered for and happy. FIL wanted half of one of the steaks, fine. Dh asked what I thought about that and I said yes fine we'll just share the rest. Dh looked confused for a bit and I said I think it's enough between the two of us to share the remainder.

FIL cooked the sides, DH bbqed the steaks (i was in with the baby), and I come out to see three plates of food. Two have half a steak on them and the third has a whole steak, which dh had claimed as his plate.

I was like ummm are you not splitting it? He said yes I did, and I kind of laughed in disbelief saying no you've given yourself twice the amount of food as me! He got really defensive, said this was what we agreed (not true), and got cross. I told him I was going to even things out, so cut off some of his, and he was so grumpy about it, saying he'd said he wanted a full one and I agreed to that. No "I'm sorry I misunderstood and under catered for you, let's split it like grown ups".

It is such a stupid little thing but keeps playing on my mind, what on earth was that?! Please tell me stories of similar imbalances that your partners have tried to get away with to help me put it into perspective.

Depends what you like though, if neither of them are big salad eaters that won't seem a great replacement for a steak.

Sorry no fun stories OP, my DH is disabled so I do all the cooking and he gets what he's given. He seems happy with that but I suppose after 40 years I know what he likes. Now it is was about a fair division of the book shelves he wants far more than his fair share. I bought a kindle.

But why should the OP give up her dinner for her FiL while her husband gets to keep all of his? Why? Seriously?

Unexpected guests, you split the food evenly and all make up with extra salad or whatever.

With a medium sized chicken and family of 4 there should be plenty of leftovers at the end of the week if portioned out correctly in the week.

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Have I seen you on Tattle?

But very often it is...

Happens to me all the time. I have a much bigger TDEE than my DH and my portions should be larger accordingly. And no, I don't want to be smaller than him. I don't want to be spending my life undereating and food restricting.

Women are consistently underfed and that contributes to bone density loss. Less is not always better. A breast feeding woman does not need to be eating half her DH's portion.

Look at all the ED issues in young people, this thread reeks of competitive undereating.

Do you normally eat as much as him though? My DH would give me the last of anything but also knows I eat about a third to half of his portion sizes, just because I'm smaller and can't fit it all in.

But if that's not the norm for you then yes, it's cheeky.

Irrelevant. They had already established that they would have half each. He then decided not to do that.

All the 1200 calorie myths too, that's the TDEE of an active toddler.

My parents like to tell me how, aged 4, I cried inconsolably after noticing that my dad had been given five dumplings with his stew compared to my measly two. Their explanation that dad was bigger and needed more food did NOT wash with me. Dumplings had to be redistributed, I ate them all and my mum never did that again!

DH wouldn't dare eat the last of something without offering it to me first. It happened once and all hell broke loose! I'm currently pregnant and ravenous, and he's always offering me his food now. He does eat a lot more than me normally though. We call him the walking bin 😂

Never heard of it before as well and I'm safely assuming millions have not, and TBH, I find it sexist.

/s/ for those who have misread @ChedderGorgeous’s tone. The satire is a little too accurate.

FIL should have taken a lamb chop instead of half a steak is that's all he can manage. My DH eats more than me, but I don't eat less than I need, so in this situation I wouldn't have wanted less meat at all. I would have taken either a full steak or a half steak and a lamb chop.

No, it's straight through the sternum...

She might want to rein that in a bit if feeding a DIL in future!

I totally missed that was satire. I blame you for being too accurate, but I do appreciate even the onion struggles these days with real life being what it is 😁😁

Sorry, I meant nothing to do with penises if I serve different portions. I don't think it necessarily needs to all be equal. If you need more than your DH it makes sense that you serve yourself more.

I serve my teen more than me because he is bigger, not because he is male.

Maybe that's why he is bigger ? Case of roast chicken or the egg?

@InASnowGlobeSpinning, I think we have different experiences.

There is a type of man whose only claim to pride as a man is liking meat. Failing to be any time of leader, or being courageous , he instead likes to think he is impressively manly by eating meat. This is clearly pathetic. The OP's husband might be like this.

There will be people (and typically young men) who will need to eat huge amounts of food, and it is far easier to get sated on protein rather than potatoes.

A lot of people also have a buggered up attitude to food, who think someone needing more food is being greedy and that eating is almost equated with moral worth. The poster earlier who thought she would not eat tinned fish even if hungry shows she has never been hungry. Being a thin lad who ate huge amounts, these people truely disliked me.

Ive come across this attitude from men my whole life. Greedy and selfish summarises it. The bit that really angers me now days though, is that they expect to go 50/50 on the food bill, whilst gobbling up 80%.

Yes your DH was being a greedy pig. I would have done DFILs steak and then sliced the 1.5 up, then divided the slices equally. He clearly did it deliberately, otherwise when you mentioned it he would have apologied and rectified the situation.

If he’s nice otherwise I would probably let it go, but be vigilant about this happening again- even to the point of exaggeratedly detailed instructions (so DH, just to be clear, x needs to be divided between us equally and you might need to slice a bit off the big one to make sure it’s fair, ok) and/ or doing the serving up myself (and perhaps giving myself a bit extra- see how he likes it!!).

Yes, I'm going to grow 5 inches at the age of 40 if I just eat an extra sausage.

Missing the point perhaps but to those saying cook the steaks then slice before serving this assumes everyone likes their steak cooked the same. I'd rather have no steak than have a nice piece of fillet cooked beyond blue. The steaks should have been saved for another time.

I don't know your metabolism sorry.

Women typically reach adult height a couple of years after menarche. If I am old enough to have a teen boy I'm not going to grow taller whatever my metabolism.

I thought the sign of manliness was eating a curry so hot that their face turned purple and sweat poured off them. Fortunately my husband doesn't follow that line but I have known men who do, I can't believe they are actually enjoying it.

Wider not taller, sorry. An extra misplaced sausage a day could build up.