Food portions and how to laugh this off??

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Help me dear mners, my dh is gaslighting me into accepting his penis portions and I need your stories of similar craziness to help me laugh it off..!

In laws came round, we had two large steaks for dinner. MIL wasn't keen on steak so we made her a stuffed pepper and sides so she was catered for and happy. FIL wanted half of one of the steaks, fine. Dh asked what I thought about that and I said yes fine we'll just share the rest. Dh looked confused for a bit and I said I think it's enough between the two of us to share the remainder.

FIL cooked the sides, DH bbqed the steaks (i was in with the baby), and I come out to see three plates of food. Two have half a steak on them and the third has a whole steak, which dh had claimed as his plate.

I was like ummm are you not splitting it? He said yes I did, and I kind of laughed in disbelief saying no you've given yourself twice the amount of food as me! He got really defensive, said this was what we agreed (not true), and got cross. I told him I was going to even things out, so cut off some of his, and he was so grumpy about it, saying he'd said he wanted a full one and I agreed to that. No "I'm sorry I misunderstood and under catered for you, let's split it like grown ups".

It is such a stupid little thing but keeps playing on my mind, what on earth was that?! Please tell me stories of similar imbalances that your partners have tried to get away with to help me put it into perspective.

@Iwasafool, I had a vegan friend who pointed out to me that for all the talk of vegans going on about it, men who liked steak were often similar.
And these were not brave, heroic men who played rugby etc, it was the most boring cowardly way of being manly.

I'm right in the middle of the healthy weight range and strong for my size. I'd be quite overweight if I was the same weight as my teen.

A whole stuffed pepper - gosh, I could never eat that much. A stuffed pepper would be enough for me for a week. No wonder we have an obesity epidemic.

But your teen could have been overfed?

Me neither ! Thread title sounded more interesting than the reality.

Thank you to whoever edited that disgusting title.

By the sounds of it the 2 steaks were supposed to be for him and the OP, his father then came around and had 1/2 a steak and he decided that that would come off the OPs portion

Yep. Another selfish man laid out clear as day.

My husband tends to give himself the biggest and the best bits of everything, whereas I will always give others the best. It lays bare the difference in our personalities sometimes.

Eh? ‘Penis portions’ is a well-used term around here.

In all honesty it may well be more that it’s a woman as OP. If a man had posted this I’d probably be saying by the time it was cut in quarters it isn’t really worth getting hung up on as a one-off portion emergency.

Why should she? Seriously. Why should she?

Why couldn't HE? It was his father that dropped in unexpectedly and wanted steak. Why was he not sharing HIS with his own father? Why was he expecting his breastfeeding wife to make do without the steak she was looking forward to?

OP's solution was to share equally. Perfectly reasonable. And if either of them were still hungry, either or both could have then looked to supplement their food intake with what was available.

FFS, I mean the contortions people will go through to insist that it should always be the woman who sacrifices for everyone else.

But men do use more calories per day.

I don't know where you are going with this. He wasn't. We were barely getting by for much of his childhood actually.

Exactly @theconfidenceofwho .
Female intake quantity 75-80% that of a male.
And if the excuse is breast feeding, which it obviously isn't given the post, that steak isn't doing the baby any good.
It is 2024 wake the hell up @PenisPortions. Where have you been?

@PenisPortions I suppose always wants penis portions.😂

Do people not realise @ChedderGorgeous is taking piss with ol’ MN tropes?

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Oh hon.

Lol No. OP has stated they want this to be a light hearted thread !

When Breastfeeding, I could never laugh that off. In my opinion, your husband should have offered you the larger portion, as well as making sure that you get to sit down and eat it. We’ve had lots of similar instances with my husband, when we first met he used to eat completely unreasonable amounts compared to me when sharing. I had a word and explained I am always, always, always a 50:50 girl and that he should always ensure we split evenly. So he knew that from very early on and the problems stopped there. We love sharing food, and usually order two mains and split them so we get to have different things.

So while I no longer have issues with my husband when it comes to sharing, and by the time we had our first baby, he was we aware of my need for food when breastfeeding, we often have issues when MIL is around or when we are at hers. She, like your MIL, eats like a bird and she will always serve him way more than me and always asks if he wants seconds, but never offers any to me. During small baby years, she’d always, always comment on how her son hasn’t even “had a chance to sit down and eat”, because we had an agreement that on days off, my husband would let me eat my meals hot because babies always want a feed when mum is eating.

So I think you need to perhaps have a chat with him and explain what it is like to be a breastfeeding mum and perhaps it will open his mind a bit. Try to be non-confrontational. Although I’d probably have gotten very upset and angry myself to be honest!!

Doubt it if they’ve been around long enough to pick up on the mental things you read on here on repeat. Just on a wind up I think.

Never heard of it before as well and I'm safely assuming millions have not, and TBH, I find it sexist.

What's sexist is doing it, not calling it out.

Winding someone up for fun? Well they should get back under their bridge.

FFS, the OP asked for a lighthearted thread. That poster was obliging I think.

Jesus Christ people are fun sponges today aren’t they?

They weren't saying anything funny.

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