To ask what you'd pay?

[Barone245]

Due to changing work commitments, DH and I are looking at hiring a TA from a local primary school to do afterschool pickups, care and tutoring for our two children. DS 7 and DD 9. DS is autistic and she has great SEND experience with a child at the school.

The TA is a trainee teacher at university. She actually used to be our cleaner so we know her well and the kids like her.

We need her approx 3-4 days a week from 3:30-5pm. She will collect the kids from school in her car, do some tutoring and homework help then ideally I'd like her to do a bit of ironing or have a tidy/straighten up before we get home.

She has said £15ph but DH is saying this is too much for a babysitter? I am not sure as we have paid £10ph for a babysitter before but obviously you don't ask a babysitter to tutor, tidy and pick up your kids for you? It sounds good to me but I need help convincing DH.
Thoughts?

This.. maybe she could clean your car also?

You are absolutely taking the mick at £15 an hour and he wants to pay less?! I'd expect to pay £30 for each 3.30-5 'session', and more if you want her to iron.

I hope she’s on here and realises she’s undersold herself

Not just a man, she says it sounds good to her and I’m betting she’s the one chucking in the ironing and tidying.

I don’t know how you think all that would get done in 90 mins.

How can she collect children from school, bring them home, tutor them and do your ironing in an hour and a half !! You need to hire this superwoman immediately!

on a serious note 20 an hour is more realistic if you want to keep her. Always another parent willing to pay more

@Jf20

True, I actually meant put 'or woman'

I hope this woman gets a better offer whilst op and her DH dither over a few pounds.

It's clear you need to put your husband straight here on what this woman will be providing.

Expecting her to clean is going way too far though.

There could be an insurance issue with her using her car for work as well.

Well count the cleaning/ironing out, she's no longer your cleaner she is a TA.
Also I'd ask your husband how much he considers his DC's education to be worth, because at £15 you're getting a bargain as it is.

That's really cheap, I'd offer £20 an hour and you're still getting a bargain. For context I'm a teacher in the North West and occasionally tutor and charge a minimum of £40 an hour.

If she's at uni training to be a teacher during placement she'll be unavailable.. she can't just waltz out of school at 3pm to be able to pick up your child!

1. 3.30-5 is NO time to do any extra chores apart from caring for the children. Preparing a simple meal and tidying up after them is all you can expect.

2. £15ph is excellent for 1 and a half hours, as a nanny I have a 3h minimum to make it worth my while.

3. your child has additional needs, and this TA has the experience to to go with it. This comes at a premium.

£15-20 an hour. I pay my cleaner £18 so for a trained childcare professional I think anything below £15 is an insult frankly.

I pay my cleaner £20 an hour.

Your DH is ridiculous.

If I were her I'd turn you down with that attitude.

We had a lovely TA do this when our children were small.

You are not in a option to have many good takers, so if your DH thinks you can dictate terms, you'll have very limited results,

These are things I learned;

1: they are gold-dust and in the driving seat
2: you have to make it worth their while
3: you have to focus on what's reasonable in the role and make it easy for them to enjoy and achieve

So bear these things in mind.

They are there for, what, an hour & 15 mins by the time they've got the children home?

My advice is focus is on the children, settling them in, snack, getting the homework out of the way. Spring & summer - trips to the park on the way home, ice cream etc.

Any house work/ironing, formal 'must haves' re homework need to go by the wayside.

Your husband is a right tight arse. You are getting a very good deal.
It would be downright cheeky to ask/expect her to do your ironing on top.

I don’t think £15 is anywhere near enough for everything you’re expecting tbh. We pay £25ph just for a tutor- and that’s just for 1 child with no SN, Plus if she’s using her own car that’s an extra expense for her.
For £15 I don’t think you should be asking anything other than childcare and a bit of help with homework perhaps. She sounds like a good option to help you out, so don’t take advantage. Pay for a separate cleaner to come in.

What do your DH and you earn for 1.5 hours? Do you think raising your children is the most important thing in your lives?

All this and in her own car/petrol?

That's not a babysitter.

Agree with pp this doesn't reflect well on your husband. Good luck to him finding someone equivalent for less money.

Exactly what I was thinking. Its sounds like you are taking advantage of this woman. I would seriously tell you where to go if you asked me to do your tidying and ironing as well, all in 1.5hrs when you're also expecting tutoring and homework help for a SEN child. And for £15 ph? Jesus wept. Can't believe your husband wants to pay her less.

Do you plan to stick a mop up her backside as well?

Cheeky as fuck as taking advantage of the poor woman.

Should be ashamed.

Do you know what, I don't think this can even be for real. It's too cheeky to be believable.

Thanks all. Have sent her a message and hired her, ignoring DH. This was the price she told me and I've not mentioned any housework. Very pleased

£15 per hour for collection, taking home and tuition is an incredible bargain. That's a part time nanny/governess role. Not babysitting.

You're being very unreasonable expecting her to iron in that time though.

Your husband is being a cheapskate and sounds very disrespectful. If I was this TA and saw this thread, I'd be rescinding my offer as I would no longer want the role based on what you've written.

It sounds like your husband is deluded about what tutors earn and you're blurring the lines of what is reasonable because this lady used to be your cleaner.