To ask what you'd pay?

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Due to changing work commitments, DH and I are looking at hiring a TA from a local primary school to do afterschool pickups, care and tutoring for our two children. DS 7 and DD 9. DS is autistic and she has great SEND experience with a child at the school.

The TA is a trainee teacher at university. She actually used to be our cleaner so we know her well and the kids like her.

We need her approx 3-4 days a week from 3:30-5pm. She will collect the kids from school in her car, do some tutoring and homework help then ideally I'd like her to do a bit of ironing or have a tidy/straighten up before we get home.

She has said £15ph but DH is saying this is too much for a babysitter? I am not sure as we have paid £10ph for a babysitter before but obviously you don't ask a babysitter to tutor, tidy and pick up your kids for you? It sounds good to me but I need help convincing DH.
Thoughts?

You expect her to tutor your kids and tidy your house in 90 minutes?

For two children that’s an absolute bargain, I was paying my cleaner 14 ph about a decade ago.

If she gives them a snack and drink and does their reading with them, I think that’s about the most I would expect.

Poor woman please don’t take advantage of her.

I think you should bite her hand off for £15ph!

£15 an hour total bargain but YABU to expect her to have time to pick up, get them home, get drink and snack, tutor them and do ironing in 90 minutes. Lose the ironing expectation.

'A bit' of tutoring, homework, then tidying, ironing, using her own car- while looking after 2 DC, one of whom is special needs- ALL OF THIS FOR £22?! You must be joking!

When you have a child with additional needs the homework is never just light touch ime. 😢
It’s different problems of course depending if a child has Asperger’s or Down’s syndrome but it’s not like with neurotypical child.

£15 an hour to tutor two kids and tidy up etc is a bargain.. do you know how much a tutor for two kids would cost?!!?

This can't be real, surely?

You want to hire a graduate, who is doing teacher training and is SEND experienced, to look after 2 children, one of which is autistic, tutor them and then clean your house for that money? You should be biting her hand off if she offered to do it for that. She's a fool to be charging so little; she's worth far more.

As a matter of interest, what does your DH earn an hour? And why does he think he's worth that?

£15 is great.

Don’t ask her to iron for you. She won’t have time and it will be awkward. It doesn’t really fit the rest of the role!

To be honest I think OP is expecting her to prepare a 3 course meal for when she gets home too. After all, she is graciously giving her a whole £15.

My thoughts exactly.

£15 is extremely good value for money.
For goodness sake don't ask for ironing or housework!

£15 is a bargain with tutoring. £10 for someone to hang out watching netflix while the kids are in bed is an entirely different offering. If she'd said £20 I'd have accepted. Especially with the Sen and a trusted adult.

How is she going to pick your children up from school, bring them home, presumably give them a snack, do homeworks with them, tutor them and then tidy your house or do some ironing in an hour and 30 minutes?

You're taking the piss already expecting her to do ironing on top of everything else at £15 an hour!

Exactly this. We always paid our nannies their usual rate if they babysat for us.

£15 p/h for a tutor/nanny is extremely good value, OP. Afterschool club where we are is over £10 per child so you’d be paying over £20 p/d in a bid-standard afterschool provision.

The unreasonable thing is expecting her to do all that in 90 minutes. £15 an hour is fine.

I think I'd pay 20. I presume the kids will need to eat something when they get home from school too?

You are definitely taking the mick there op! £15 to chauffeur two children, look after both while one will require more specialist skills, teach them and clean your house and do your ironing. Are you expecting a candle light supper to be prepared too? Has your husband any idea of a thing called minimum wage or getting what you pay for? Christ i hope she tells you to jog on pair of CF's

Pick ups, babysitting, tutoring and tidying/ironing for £15? Bargain. Separately all those would cost a fortune.

Yes, £15 will add up. But your alternative is that one of you cuts their hours. I assume your joint income is over £15/h? It sucks but it unfortunately costs to have these services.

£15 is an absolute bargain I would've thought. Agree housework on top of minding the kids and tutoring them would be taking the piss.

Your dh is horrible. Where is he going to find someone with SN experience?? In fact I think 15 is too low. I would say a minimum of 16. That's what we pay for our nanny without any 'tidying/ironing'.

Same as ours. Amazes me how people want to be cheap yet trust someone with their children.

I also agree £15 to look after them but housework I would asking for more or don't do it at all.
Its abit much asking someone to pick kids up, tutor them and then do housework.

Are you paying separately for her fuel?

Would your children even want to do tutoring work as soon as they get in from school? They've just been at school for 6 hours.