Partner crying

[gratitudegirl]

If you were sobbing in the sofa next to your partner and he just ignored you and continued to play on his Xbox without a simple 'are you okay' how would you feel? 😭😭

Yes he saw me crying. He just looked away. We've been together for 2 years. I've always supported him when he cried. I feel very lonely

It does sound a bit insensitive.

Are you OK? You can talk to us on here if you need to.

You're really sweet asking. I'm just really struggling with life. Really really struggling 😭 I try and hold it together all the time but tonight I feel really sad and alone and he's just confirmed it by ignoring me. I wish I could escape him 😭

I’d get a bit irritated with someone just randomly crying to be honest. Either say what’s up or go and cry in private. Sitting there crying waiting for attention is silly

He sounds insensitive, but what's wrong? (And do you do this a lot?)

My DH would be really concerned if I was sobbing, but then I don't think I've ever sat their sobbing next to him without telling him why I was crying. If you are just sitting there crying your eyes out without him being aware of why it sounds a little attention seeking.

There's nowhere else to go. It's a studio. Surely if I'm crying in the toilet that's more attention seeking? If not ill give that a go

I've literally never cried in front of him. This is the first time in two years I'm actually really upset. I normally hide things and he's just vaping and gaming. It's so lonely!

You say partner, do you have children together. If not just walk away. Considered it self care. As previous poster said we can support you here

He isn't very nice, is he? My DP would no more ignore me crying than he would fly to the moon, becausehe loves me and hates to see me sad.

Is your partner always so uncaring? You say that you wish you could escape him - why can't you leave if you're not happy?

So tell him what’s wrong. Dont just sit waiting for him to ask. Do you cry often? Because I’d personally ignore a regular cryer.

Im sorry you’re struggling at the minute but I do think you need to speak up if you’re upset, don’t sit waiting for someone to notice or react

Well you can escape him you know. There’s no law that says you have to stay together if he’s a bit crap.

I think just sitting there and starting crying is somehow a bit pass agg and attention seeking.

It's quite different from starting to cry mid-conversation to be honest. Or taking yourself to the loo to have a little cry.

Either start a conversation and actually communicate with your partner or take yourself away and cry in private.

If he is bad at communicating or validating your feelings etc that is another thing, but just not responding well to someone sitting next to him crying is not necessarily unusual, I don't think.

Is he quite young? Maybe he's just never come across this before and doesn't know what to do.

Go and speak to him. Tell him you're upset, tell him why you're upset and tell him what he can do to comfort you and make you feel a bit better. He's not a mind reader, probably just a bit immature and insensitive.

Is there a reason why you cannot ask him to turn his game off and talk with you? If you can't openly talk about stuff like this together there are big problems with your relationship.

Is he the reason you’re crying? It sounds a very sad situation

Does he have any clue why you have just started crying? What happened just before have you argued?

You say you feel lonely, but what set off the tears tonight if you never cry in front of him usually.

Hows the relationship usually? Are you crying over the relationship?

Yes 😭😭😭 I'm just so exhausted trying to make sure everything is perfect for him all the time. I'm so tired and I've been so ill. I'm just drained and wish he would make an effort to help and now I've come to the realisation that he genuinely doesn't care. So I can't help but cry. I just want to leave but it's late here 😭

I'm just really tired of life. I constantly do everything I can to make his life easier and I just feel so alone. I have to fake that everything is fine all the time and tonight I just feel overwhelmed and lonely and I can't help crying but it's even more sad to me that I've never been like this and he just genuinely doesn't care

Sorry that sounds hard. He sounds emotionally unresponsive and his behaviour is communication.

Why would you ‘try to make sure everything is perfect for him all the time’?!
Don’t. The only reason to have a boyfriend is that it’s meant to be fun, and enhance your life.

You can make plans and dump him. Enjoy life.

Do you cry often and poss he is fed up with it?

My sis cried a lot when in her early 2-'s we got used to it - she'd cry over almost anyhting and then like a light swtich stop and even go on to be happy. Not saying you are like that just try to work out a bit of background

If you are not for crying, and this happend, he is not a man I'd want to be with

I'm sure others will share experiences and take care and I hope it is all sorted

Honestly I can't imagine watching my partner cry and not even bothering to comfort them. Whether they asked me to or not.

Kick him to the kerb OP. He sounds selfish.

Just read your other posts when i was posting - from a skim read, looks like you are trying too hard - it has to work both ways - I hope it is all sorted - speak with family/friends for advice/etc

Obviously I don't know your situation but does henotice you do things, does he want you to?

If not stop. If he does and he's being an ingrate and it's been going on since you got together, then if you have somewhere else to go, blow your nose and prepare to go tomorrow.

I'm just so exhausted trying to make sure everything is perfect for him all the time.

I constantly do everything I can to make his life easier

Why?

I constantly do everything I can to make his life easier

Stop trying to make his life easier, and start trying to make your life easier instead.

Please try and see if there is a way that you can leave him. He is adding nothing to your life.