To think we should get the double room?

[Bibbidybobbidyroo]

We gave a family holiday booked this year - 2 adults in family 1 (my parents), two adults one child in family 2 (us).

My parents offered to pay for the cost of the accommodation as a kind gesture (they are financially better off). The accommodation has one master bedroom with a double bed, and three other twin bedrooms.

Our child has ASD and cosleeps as it’s the only way to guarantee any sort of sleep on what I fear is already going to be a trying week - first time abroad and a big routine change. I asked if we could the the double bed otherwise I’m going to end up squashed in a single with DD. They aren’t keen at ALL. Should probably mention my dad ends up falling asleep on the sofa and staying there all night anyway so my mum will mostly have the double bed to herself.

Im grateful that they paid for the villa but I feel like it’s coming with conditions that aren’t going to be very relaxing for us at all. I would have rather just paid our share and the felt like I could push for the bigger room more.

would you raise this again or just put up and shut up and accept the financial saving?

If they paid for the holiday then they have the right to choose the rooms they want. Just pay for your own holiday in future if you don't like their terms.

Why on earth are you going on holiday with people you hate?

How long do you plan on co-sleeping, until she's 15?

Because they're paying.

Oh until she’s at least 21.

Surely you just push the beds together yourself. We've done it plenty of times.

If it's your daughter's first time flying (and if you are local) we have had a couple of brilliant days out here https://g.co/kgs/4gUgwMN. So glad we got my son appropriately excited about flying and queuing etc. We told them on booking a little about them and how they might react. They were really good with them.

You can rent villas with more than one double room in. This is what they should have looked for with two married couples in the same villa.

Surely they consulted you before booking? Why did you not just say ‘sorry but we need one with two double beds else it won’t work’. Then if they went ahead and booked anyway you could say no sorry we’re not coming and they couldn’t really complain. You sound really ungrateful to be honest.

You seem nice !!

You can just chose not to go away? You can’t ask if YABU and then throw your toys out of the park when people say yes.

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@Bibbidybobbidyroo stop acting like a spoilt child, stamping your feet and sulking, whining why why why

your parents are paying, they get first choice. Putting two beds together is no hardship, and if the company wont do it I am sure you and your husband can,

I fully understand about your child having disabled children on our family, but by god you are hard work

grow up

Why do you ask?

OP, I’m in my 20s and even I am learning that it’s better to have those awkward conversations at the start, to stop a precedent being set.

My parents are wealthy and always used money as a control mechanism and I’ve nipped that in the bud. Part of that is not accepting money/gifts/grand gestures from them as there will always be strings attached and frankly the drawbacks outweigh the benefits

This boils down to unsuitable accommodation being booked. You need to sort this before the holiday. just be frank and say you know your daughter will struggle with the bed set up, and possibly keep everyone up all night, and then will be tired/restless/difficult for the rest of the holiday. Therefore their proposal will not work for you, but you’re happy to pay for your own accommodation and stay somewhere else to minimise disruption to everyone. Your daughter is disabled or has a health condition, so whilst your parents need a double bed, as does she and as a parent your daughter’s needs come first. Be clear that you would look to accommodate her needs at any future family holiday too, so probably for the best for you to book separately going forward to ensure everyone’s needs are met.

Of course the people paying should get the master bedroom, I'm amazed you think otherwise.

Surely you can either push beds together or squash into a single.

I came on just to say zip ties round the bed legs, but see someone has already told you this. Remember to snip them off before you leave though.

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Yes very much this.
If you absolutely needed a double- and I can totally understand why - you should have said upfront, rather than expecting the people paying for the holiday to sleep in one of the lesser rooms.

It feels like a bit of a learning experience for everyone and it would be a shame to tarnish the free holiday before it's even started, so I think it's a case of asking the holiday company if they can make up any of the twins as a double.

Do you have a disabled child by any chance? THAT is f* hard work I can tell you.

I agree, but also parents could have booked a villa where there are two double rooms, rather that be asses and book a villa with just one where they can sleep and make it inconvenient for everyone else and expect them to be grateful for having a crap sleep for the duration of the holiday. Such a pointless gesture to pay if they are the only ones enjoying the time.

Because it needs to do at some point surely?

2 small beds smooshed together are uncomfortable - I’m not sure why some posters are acting like there’s zero inconvenience here? It’s not the same as sleeping in a double bed.

I stayed at a hotel with 2 beds put together recently and the gap created between the 2 mattresses was uncomfortable - it made my leg feel a bit like dead weight/unsupported and the gap/seams dug into my back. I got on with it with no complaint but couldn’t sleep.

Combine that set up with a neurodiverse child, then it seems like a recipe for disaster. No one is saying the parents don’t need a double bed either, but there’s a child involved who will find it difficult to put up with due to their own needs. The solution isn’t necessarily to boot the parents out, but perhaps OP finding alternative accommodation with a double bed.

Do you understand what autism is? Disabled kids' parents have to do a lot of things that parents of 'normal' kids don't. It's not a choice to cosleep for many of us.

I would book my own accommodation.

But when that is cannot possibly be relevant to a post about this year's holiday plans.